Peacesoul and Dear Members,
Great topic Complete acceptance and unconditional love for your self will allow you to overcome your fears. This is important in dealing with your anxiety issues.
Remember to stay in the moment. This truly works for me.HugsKitt
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Hysterectomy at 25
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In the United States today, there is a pervasive tendency to treat children as adults, and adults as children. The options of children are thus steadily expanded, while those of adults are progressively constricted. The result is unruly children and childish adults. ~Thomas Szasz
HAHA! Sort of…
I’ve been working on not caring what people think – my shoulders are getting lots of exercise shrugging…lol. Get lots of practice “not caring” with my music. Who wants to see a 37 year old (soon to be 38, ugh) Wisconsinite shake her butt on stage to classic rock? Well, maybe the 70 somethings, but you know what I mean. And my job (a professional one) isn’t too keen on my music hobby either. Oh well. Shrug…(ow…a cramp).
However, when it comes to fainting – that is different – because then people call the ambulance (I’ve had it happen twice). That gets expensive. And frankly I don’t want all that attention. Get that singing. Ooo! Is there a marketing opportunity here???
But what people think? I think I finally got old enough that I don’t care. Now granted my Norse heritage rather provides me with a calm cool outer appearance most of the time, but then the Scot and French nicely balance that out with flaring tempers and emotion. Yeah, its exciting. Sometimes I don’t think people have multiple personalities, just conflicting genetics…that’s my story, stickin’ to it. But blah blah, I really try not to care what people think. I’ll cry in public, laugh hysterically – honor those silly feelings that keep coming up out of nowhere – who do they think they are anyway? They are not easily ignored – they get revenge, like in the form of gut rot and overstimulation (where’s the bathroom?), back pain, vertigo, etc…And since I’m not a fan of those things – I’ll cry, I’ll laugh, even glare. Hey, if you make this calm quiet little girl angry, you deserve a glare. Scary.
Now, to be honest – irate anger doesn’t digest well in me either – so I do meditate the heck trying to exorcise those feelings (remember the Scot part? And maybe some unLutherned Viking?) – and then things are ok for a while until I can get home and throw my hands in my garden dirt or sing ACDC or something. But maybe its because I’ve never been able to let my anger fly – I don’t think anyone could handle it.
So, personally – I think the world would be a better place if society stopped putting so much restriction on emotion. Hey, if no one gets an eye poked out, what’s the harm?? Because someone will feel uncomfy? Oh boohoo. Maybe that’s an emotion they need to deal with….in public.
Be comfy with yourself, you’ll like yourself more, I say. Panic attacks happen, slow but sure, each of us will conquer our demons. Those fears.
My fear: failure. Leads to uncontrollable anxiety in my job, sometimes makes it hard to finish tasks because they may not be perfect.
Other fear: abandonment. Leads to attempts at over-diplomatic tendencies. Y’know – irritating Libra junk. Well, believe it or not – we can’t fix it all even though we have this overwhelming desire to try. Did I say overwhelming? Uncontrollable.
OK, well I did not understand you were referring to your own fear of fainting Jen.......................sorry, I am a bit slow.
We all have embarrassing moments, whether we want to admit to them or not.
I don't worry about them anymore as I have gone through a lot of them but here are a few of mine.
When I was at Fishermen's Wharf in California I tripped and landed right on my face on the boardwalk............lordy I am a klutz. People rushed to help me up. I was being drawn and quartred by all the help.
I was shopping in Kohls in the winter time and was wearing my kick butt new boots, down I went. My friend said "hurry up and get up before someone sees you"
My daughter and I were at a car dealer and we walked over to a few stores to shop while waiting. Coming back to the dealership my daughter said let's cut through this lot and she hopped over the chain fence. I hopped over the fence and fell face first in the dirt and weeds.
Now my supportive daughter is laughing so hard she is crying and I was mad. I did not know I had two weeds stuck in my hair and with every time I moved my head the she-devil laughed harder. I also had a dirty face. I have had some near fainting episodes but I just speak up and lay down on the floor flat. In January I had some oral surgery and on dischage they thought I could walk down and out to our car. I got into the elevator and everything started to go black so I said I don't feel good and I just slid gracefully to the floor. Scared the poop out of the nurse.
So far I have not had an ambulance ride and I am not planning on one soon. So take each day and don't worry, be happy. If you go out and feel faint just lay down somewhere. You won't faint if your laying down unless your hyperventilating. It is cheaper to just say I don't feel good then to end up in an ambulance.
Hugs and great thread Jen.
Post Edited (stkitt) : 9/4/2008 9:55:27 PM (GMT-6)