Ever get happy anxiety?

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Raea
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   Posted 9/3/2008 2:58 PM (GMT -7)   
So me and a couple of my band members have an opp to play at a really great blues joint in the city over a sunday brunch.  Some big timers in that town play that slot!  They needed someone and asked us!  I'm so pumped! 
 
But do you ever have a fear of failure?  Something you're so scared to fail at you drive yourself nutty?  Well, I'll be doing nothing but eating sleeping drinking the blues and processing my irritating anxiety issues over the next four days to get ready for this gig.  OMG, its wednesday already, only 3.25 days. 
 
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stkitt
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   Posted 9/3/2008 10:56 PM (GMT 0)   

Raea,

Congrats on the job you landed.  I think perhaps you are having anticipatory anxiety even thow your thrilled to be doing the job you are worrying about the "what ifs".  Kick those thoughts to the curb .

To lower your anxiety and still enjoy your happiness talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.

Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.

Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.

Make an effort to stay focused on what's happening now. What do you see, hear, and smell? How do you feel? Truly be 'present' in the moment! That will help you keep the anxiety down.

And on Sunday kick butt, you will be OK. I promise if you just stay in the moment.

Break a leg...................... idea ...or is that only for broadway?

Kitt


 

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peacesoul
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   Posted 9/3/2008 5:06 PM (GMT -7)   
K, ok, listen to me, you need to drink a ton of wine and go sit in that garden of yours. That should do the trick

hahah

Kidding of course. Conrgrats. I got both your emails and will answer them tomorrow.
And K, PUHLEEZE, you won't fail. You are going to kick some major blues butt. I hope you tape this one and send it to me

Love u

J
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BeijingBelle
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   Posted 9/4/2008 12:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Raea,

Congratulations on your gig. If you start to worry about not playing well, remember that this place books big names and they are accustomeded to spotting talent - they obviously know you and your band are talented and ready to play or they wouldn't have booked you! They clearly aren't worried that you will fail at all!

So, break a leg. Belle

yeah

Raea
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   Posted 9/4/2008 7:11 AM (GMT -7)   

Well – I can breathe a little easier and go into OCD preparation mode!  Haha!  This is funny – my other guitar player who was contacted about this used poor English.  ;o)  It isn’t this Sunday – they want to book us for a Sunday.  Whew!  Still incredibly awesome!  Woohoo!!  But even better – I can make sure I’m fully prepared. 

 

Gotta tell ya though – that shot of adrenaline did my mood a world of good!  Rode that wave for hours!  Could barely do anything but run around the house going “so cool!” OK, maybe not that bad – but it felt that way! 

 

Thanks so much for the support and advice.  Skitt – awesome list, I’m going to print it and remind myself of it everyday.  Jen – you’re such a great friend!  Know me well. lol  The garden sounds like a plan for tonight and say a big thanks to the powers that be.  Belle – that was the perfect thing to say, cuz I feel so wittle!  Not big.  And why can’t I be big?  I’m good enough, strong enough, and dangit people like me!  (a little stuart smallie – haha).

 

Y’know – for as much as I feel the world trying to pull me down, feel that weight-pressure-meanness…I really do have to make sure I keep my eyes open wide for these bright spots and remember them when things are high anxiety.  Remembering the good does help me even out more and if I don’t do that I feel just too manic-depressive with this anxiety thing.  Sometimes it just takes so long to “wake up” and see what’s happening.  Weird, isn’t it?  You would thing that having that happening to you, in the fits of anxiety you would see it right away so you could try to do something to stop it.  Most of the time I see it fairly soon and have been better at pulling it back, but it really blows my mind that sometimes I don’t and it gets out of control – and we all know it takes forever to get ahold of yourself then. 

 

Thanks again – its going to be a blast! 

peacesoul
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   Posted 9/4/2008 7:50 AM (GMT -7)   
K, image how we're going to feel when you and I win the Powerball.

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Raea
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   Posted 9/4/2008 8:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Dangit - knew I was forgetting something!
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