Marriage needs to be worked on every day. Karen's so right when she said "...doesn't mean we give up our individualism..." Find some thing you enjoy to do, scrapbooking does it for me. It'll give you a sense of individualism, pride, and you'll be to busy to talk. Dh says I talk to much but wonders what's up when I don't go figure . You need (((HUGS))) and a smile :) right now so I'm sending them your way.Hope the responses help, we are here for you, vent as you need to.
smiles & (((HUGS))), gennie
Fibromyalgia, anxity, deppression, CFS, PTSD.
Remember to picture that stop sign when the "stinkin thinkin" takes over. Visualize a red stop sign in your mind when you encounter a fear provoking thought. When the negative thought comes, you should think of a red stop sign that serves as a reminder to stop focusing on that thought and to think of something else. You can then try to think of something positive to replace the negative thought.
Instead of focusing on doom, stay in the moment. Give yourself breathing space. Consider what matters to you. Establish a few manageable goals, then take small steps toward achieving them.
For a fresh perspective, get a good night's sleep. Go to sleep with good thoughts of how things will be better.
Revel in you independence and don't count on your husband or anyone else to make your happiness. Learn to love yourself.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Post Edited (machelle) : 9/5/2008 9:07:59 PM (GMT-6)
You've said it yourself, you deserve a much better life. Marriage is a partnership and if you feel that your husband isn't giving as much as you then you have the right to complain. I would! Have you considered family counselling? Sometimes just having a mediator between your issues can make communication easier. I wish you the best.
Do you see a therapist for PTSD? A child that gets whipped certainly experiences trauma. If the shaking started when you were young it could be you have such low esteem and fears that you feel you don't deserve to be happy. It is one of our rights............to be happy. Make it happen for you sweetie.
CBT therapy is a wonderful way to work through your stress online and it is free.
Here is the link for the site: