Gentle Hugs to you and I know what you are suspecting. With your daughters behavior and dx you know that she struggles with maintaining a relationship and also is manipulative and seeks attention.
You are a good mother. Trust your instincts and be proud of who you are as a parent. Do not regret a single decision you have made thus far. You have made many unselfish decisions to keep your family safe so don't let the "stinkin thinkin" in.
I have to believe that you are like me—that you are afraid to admit to the world that you are amazing. That no matter how hard it gets, you are proud of who you are as a person and a parent.
Repeat these words to yourself "I love myself and my abilities as a mother."
Fulfillment and confidence and joy should not be stifled or hidden or kept secret. No one should feel embarrassed to admit they think they’re awesome: a good parent.
Mary, try to let go of her behavior today and she will come back to you.
I feel she went on the defense because she has not told you the whole truth so it was easier to pick a fight and project everything onto you.
I raised 4 children and I remember being told by my daughter that she hated me. My come Back was " I am sorry you feel that way because I love you"
You just wrap yourself up in a warm blanket and relax, let all the bad thoughts out of your mind. Look around you and stay in the moment.
You cannot control your daughter's behavior but try not to get in her destructive path or believe in her accusations against you.
I have you in my prayers and thoughts. Buckets of hugs for you sweet Mary.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Mary we are here for you always.................so come hee and know you are loved and supported by the members and myself.
Prayers and Hugs.Kitt
It makes me feel sad that you are going through this. I'm sure your daughter said thoses hurtful words in the heat of anger. I've said a few choice things to my mother over the years, but I never really meant them. If you care and support your daughter with just 1% that you care for us at HW then you must be a truly great mother.
I know you are wonderful person and have given your children the world. Give her some space. She will come back. She needs you.
Good Morning Mary,
I am glad you took the first step as that again shows what a great Mom you really are. I have spoken up once to many with my daughter on occasion and have apologized for it. It is hard sometimes to take back your words but you are trying. Remember no beating yourself up.
A little info for you as I have investigated BPD because I have the 2 friends with this same disorder.
WHAT IS BPD? Borderline personality disorder is a disturbance of certain brain functions that causes four types of behavioral disturbances:1. poorly regulated and excessive emotional responses; 2. harmful impulsive actions; 3. distorted perceptions and impaired reasoning; and 4. markedly disturbed relationships. SYMPTOMS1. Excessive, unstable and poorly regulated emotional responses.2. Impulsive behaviors that are harmful to you or to others.3. You may have an inaccurate view of yourself and others, and experience a high level of suspiciousness and other misperceptions. 4. Finally, you may experience tumultuous and very unstable relationships. TREATMENTS There are six key elements of care that directly bear on the effectiveness of the treatment you receive for borderline disorder. These include your level of commitment to treatment, locating a skilled primary clinician, determining the most appropriate level of care for you, evaluating your need for medication, and selecting the type of psychotherapy and support group that will be most effective for you.Medications play three very important roles in the treatment of most patients with borderline disorder. They are effective in reducing the four major groups of symptoms of the disorder. They thereby enhance the rate and quality of improvement derived from psychotherapy. Finally, medications are effective in treating other emotional disorders that frequently are associated with borderline disorder, for example, depression, anxiety/panic attacks, and ADHD, and physical disorders such as migraine headaches.Psychotherapy is also an important component of your treatment program. A number of different psychotherapeutic approaches appear to be effective in the treatment of borderline disorder. These include supportive, psychodynamic and modified psychoanalytic therapy, interpersonal therapy, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), and a variety of group and family therapies.People with this disorder can live a productive life. There are many advocacy groups dedicated to increasing knowledge about, and reducing the stigma associated with borderline disorder.I believe that BPD is a difficult disorder to live with and we have to be able to recognize this as a real disorder Many don't understand this disorder.
But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. ~Romans 8:25~
I have lit that candle you suggested and now I light one for you. We can get through the tough times with our HW family,