Good Morninig EMZ
I am sorry you are in a bad place right now.
We spend much time thinking about what was and what could have been. And we spend much time projecting into the future and wondering about what may happen.This way of thinking is indeed a great way to make much of your life a lot more miserable and limited than necessary. The key to solving this problem is of course to live as much as you can in the only moment that you ever really live in and control. This moment right now. There are more advantages to being in the moment besides being able to decrease mindmade suffering. When you are in the moment you feel centred, relaxed and whatever you do you do more easily. Since you are not projecting into a possible future or reflecting on previous experiences there is very little fear holding you back.
Staying in the moment is a skill. You will slip back into involuntarily thinking about the future/past. But the more time and effort you spend connecting with the moment the easier it gets reconnecting with it. And staying there longer.
It’s easy to get stuck in a loop of old memories. You may want to move away from them but there is a feeling there that brings them back over and over. So you need to decrease the power that feeling has over you. And you don’t do it by fighting it. You do it by surrendering to it.
The feeling is a loop within your mind that you are feeding with more energy by resisting it. When you accept the feeling then you stop feeding it and it vanishes.
Surrender to the feeling and let it in. Observe the feeling in your mind and body without labelling or judging it. If you let it in and just observe it for maybe a minute or two the feeling just vanishes.
By letting the feeling in you will be able to get out of the nasty circle. Your fighting so hard to not let in the feeling you are constantly thinking about it.
Remember to stay in the moment, it takes practice but you can do this.
I have great faith in your power to learn this skill and use it daily.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*