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angelwings
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Date Joined Nov 2006
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   Posted 9/23/2008 7:48 PM (GMT -7)   
i've been doing great lately.  my anxiety has been gone and no depression.  well i broke up with my bf of almost 6 years at the end of aug.  I didn't think it was completely over cause he would call or email me.  So I was ignoring the fact that we weren't together and i was meeting new people and trying to have fun.  then he sent me an email and i am a wreck right now.  He basically said that i deserve better and that he's not strong enough to see or talk to me.  The email wasn't what i was expecting at all.  i thought he was gonna come back to me.  I'm so depressed right now.  I don't know how I'm gonna go on with life.  My bf was my world.  I never thought it would end.  Part of me still can't believe its over.  I don't know how to go on.  All i want is to be with him.  I feel like the past few weeks I was just putting on an act and was keeping myself busy so i wouldn't realize what was really going on.  How do i make this pain go away.  I can't stop crying.  Please someone wake me up from this nightmare.  I still love him so much it hurts.  I don't want to let go.  We're supposed to be together forever.  i don't know what to do.  I have no friends.  I'm so alone.

katekate888
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   Posted 9/23/2008 8:08 PM (GMT -7)   
angelwings,
Im so sorry to hear about your breakup. 6 years is a super long time and you two have a lot of history. I can see how it must be difficult for you to try to cope right now, when your world was probably about the two of you. Are you sure that maybe he is not just trying to keep himself busy just like you are? So did he break up with you in an email? Im not saying you have to but if you would like to describe your relationship a little more so we can get a better idea of what happened, maybe i could give you some advice. If not, totally understandable, just know that we are all here to listen ((HUGS))

LauraT
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   Posted 9/23/2008 8:14 PM (GMT -7)   
I know it is hard right now but trust me it gets better each day. I was with my husband for 13 yrs and married for 12. We are coming up on our yr mark of being split up. I thought my life was over and still do sometimes but I just have to go on and beleive everything happens for a reason and I hate to say this but it does happen people tell me it gets worse before it gets better and trust me I see that. I hope you just stay strong. Only time can heal a broken heart.

HUGS

Laura

stkitt
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   Posted 9/23/2008 8:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Angel,
 
I am so sorry for your distress but I have the feeling your relationship was not working out for either of you.

When you lose a  love relationship, you are likely to feel great sorrow and heartache. Even when a bad relationship ends, there can be deep pain and grief. Coping with a  relationship breakup of any kind can be very painful, and most people go through this experience at some point in their lives. But the challenges posed by such a deep loss can be turned into opportunities, enabling you to not only survive, but also thrive. Learn to understand your feelings and develop tools to cope with your relationship breakup

Breaking up a relationship is difficult – especially if it’s not your choice. Grief can be experienced even when an unfulfilling relationship ends, because, at the very least, you have lost the emotional investment you made in that relationship.

Please know we are here for you and just take it one day at a time.  You  will survive even thow it does not seem like it.  Sweet Blessings to you.

Kitt


 

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angelwings
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   Posted 9/23/2008 8:19 PM (GMT -7)   
no i broke up with him cause he couldn't commit to a future with me. He thinks all i wanted was a ring but just him saying that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me would have worked. He's been going through a rough time. He's in a dead end job and his dad has lung cancer. I've tried to help him but he's really got to help himself. After we broke up he wouldn't talk to me so I didnt know if we were officially over. I kept calling him and after like 3-4 weeks he finally emailed me and said he needed sometime to get back to who he once was. He said that hes not good enough for me and that if another guy scoops me up he'll realize what a mistake he's made. I'm 28 and we were talking about getting married someday. he just wasn't ready and i can't accept that

katekate888
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Date Joined Aug 2005
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   Posted 9/28/2008 5:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Angelwings,
how are you doing? Has your situation changed at all? i hope you are doing okay! ((HUGS))

lonelyheart
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   Posted 9/29/2008 4:56 AM (GMT -7)   
hi angel, i recently left my girlfriend also. i'm just not sure i believe in love anymore.she had a hard time accepting it too but don't worry cause if you think you need or simply want someone to be with you'll find the right one sooner or later.maybe the new situation will help you get to know yourself better and not depend on anyone else.

stkitt
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   Posted 9/29/2008 7:33 AM (GMT -7)   

Angel,

I am sorry I miss read but it seems to me it is always difficult when you lose someone that means a lot to you no matter who was the one to want to move on alone.

Please let us no how you are doing.

Kitt :-)


 

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