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   Posted 9/25/2008 11:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I am starting a new job on the 30th. I sometimes find myself being really scared to this. I know it is from having panic attacks and from me putting myself down. I'm trying really hard not to do that. but it is so hard not too. I have lived my life being that everything that went wrong was my fault. I can tell myself that the things that happened wasn't, but then there is this voice inside my head telling me it was. and that i'm not worth nothing and that i won't be able to over come my fears.
Reading what everyone has posted to my last post, i want to say thanks you all. I know i'm not alone in this disorder that has taken alot of lives over. I know if it wasn't for Jason, there would be days I would not have made it. In the last couple of weeks my condition has gotten worse. I use to beable to control the things that went off in my head. but here lately I can't control them. I am going to be going back to the doctor and talking about options on what i should be doing or meds i should be taking. I'm glad that I found this site and that there is people here to help me get through all of this. If i can help anyone I will do my best to talk things through with each and everyone of you.
May God bless and keep everyone safe.
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   Posted 9/25/2008 11:55 PM (GMT -6)   


Hi, I know that voice inside the head well. It still gets me from time to time. You just have to remember that it's only a part of your disorder, it's not YOU. I find it helps me to write down the negative thoughts rather than let them run like a crazy bear through my head!

Starting at a new job is bound to throw up all kinds of anxieties and insecurities and so I don't blame you for feeling scared. Nothing wrong with that at all. Allow yourself to accept the anxiety but don't let it get in control. Talk it out with Jason if you need (who sounds like a real gem).

I'm glad you are going back to the doctor, I hope that helps you out. Make sure he/she is aware of your anxiety about new job..sometimes they can be helpful. Sometimes not!

I'm sorry I missed your last post. Welcome to HW :-)


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   Posted 9/26/2008 5:45 AM (GMT -6)   


Good Morning.  Any major change in our lives is stressful for all.  Some of us however just start to think of the "what ifs" and that kicks up the anxiety.  Next thing you know you are on a merry-go-round.  Well now is the time to tell yourself you will be okay.  The anticipatory anxiety is most likely getting to you.

Try to stay in the moment and don't worry about the past and tommorow will get here soon enough.

Take care and Hugs to you



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   Posted 9/27/2008 9:06 PM (GMT -6)   

Welcome! I understand that feeling of dread about new responsibilities and also the sense of feeling like you should have done "better" about things that go wrong. It's so hard somtimes to get the thought to stick that we don't control everything that happens around us. I think those of us who have anxiety feel more comfortable when we can think of ways to change the negatives around us, but the truth is that oftentimes, that's just not within our power. I struggle to accept those thoughts and kick out the "stinkin thinkin" that says I should have done better.

Try to remind yourself of all the things you do feel capable and competent about. Even if a problem or difficulty crops up, try to see the things you did that were healthy or right or even just new in tackling it, and don't let the negative impressions beat up on you. Easier said than done, I know.

Are there things about your new job that you're looking forward to or that will provide new chances to grow and succeed? Try to think about those things, and just say "Stop!" when the negative thoughts try to crowd in.


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   Posted 9/28/2008 1:55 AM (GMT -6)   


Just checking in to see how you are going. I have my fingers and toes crossed for you. Keep those negative thoughts in a jar far away from yourself. You will get through this and look back one day soon and pat yourself on the back! Goodluck!


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