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Sydnee10
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   Posted 9/30/2008 8:52 PM (GMT -7)   
I feel guilty for taking a Western Medication (Xanax) when I will eventually be a Naturopathic Physician..in other words,I feel like a Traitor to my Future Profession.For 7 Years,I tried without Medication and could not go it alone any longer.I drank Chamomile and Passionflower Tea,Oatstraw Infusion and Peter Gillham's Magnesium drink and took Valerian Root,but they aren't Treatments for Panic Disorder..am keeping Fingers crossed that once I get this Legal mess settled,a few other matters taken care of and move away I will no longer have to rely on it,but who knows I may have to take Xanax for a long time if not forever..


 


nervymeg
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   Posted 9/30/2008 9:05 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Sydnee,

No guilt allowed here!! It's a really old line but would you deny a diabetic insulin? Sometimes all the herbal remedies in the world aren't enough. If we didn't take anti-biotics we would all be dropping off like flies. It is not giving in. It is taking care of yourself. I admit I was upset when my doc told me I would need to be on meds for the rest of my life but it is nothing to be ashamed of. Pick yourself up and pat yourself on the back for taking care of you.

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 9/30/2008 9:17 PM (GMT -7)   

Meg,

You are correct,however there are alternative routes to take..there is an abundance of natural Antibiotics..most Western Doctor's do NOT tell their Patients to take Acidophilus with Antibiotics..Antibiotics not only kill the bad Bacteria,but the good as well.I developed a nasty Vag Yeast Infection,but also Candida because my Doctor didn't inform me what Antibiotics would do.I'm trying to take care of me the best I can,but I feel like a Traitor.



 


nervymeg
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   Posted 9/30/2008 9:53 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

I sometimes think the peeps who make antibiotics and the ones who make thrush meds are in cahoots! I always take my acidophilus once I'm through with the anti-b. But you are right, there is not enough eduation on this. I hope you, as a naturopath will change this around for many people. You are not a traitor. You are a caregiver, and you need to care for you at this time.

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stkitt
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   Posted 10/1/2008 8:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee

Good Morning, this is Kitt.  Well here is my take on guilt, it is a wasted emotion. I have wallowed in  guilt and then self pity arrives. Wasting our energy in this way is counter-productive. If we have done something wrong we need to forgive ourselves and move on.

You have not done anything wrong is using a medication that you need.  Yes there are all kinds of different believes and treatments.  I am glad you are interested in natural healing but you do not have to do one thing 100% of the time.

In the long run is trading a synthetic medicine for a natural one still not taking a pill?

Fear the onset of cold and flu season? You could get a flu shot or you could swallow a capsule made from echinacea, a purple-petaled daisy native to the Midwest.  

I believe that people have the right to choose which route they want to take. 

I also want you to know that you are supported by all here at HealingWell. 

Gentle hugs to you,

Kitt


 

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/1/2008 12:37 PM (GMT -7)   
THanks Lil sis
GUILT is a wasted emotion and it can and does EAT you up..........

Tough love is one thing........Gentle reminders and suggestions is another
you must realize that no matter what you may have to be on the xanax
You have alternative things to work at IMHO and NO i am not being mean
You need to get some self confidence and
Do some things to
RID the POISONS in your life
WE ALL support you here
Like we support all else
You have to take some steps hun and go for the GOLD
THERE is no GUILT in taking meds
Should I not have done the chemo??
To see if it worked instead of me going for surgery right away??
NO I dont believe I chose wrong
I did have to have surguery but at least I gave it a fight
It was that or die...........
I CHOOSE to live.
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 10/1/2008 1:45:00 PM (GMT-6)


Sydnee10
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   Posted 10/1/2008 2:35 PM (GMT -7)   

Peacesoul,

I didn't ask for so called tough love.As for my weight..I've made DRASTIC changes to my Diet,get physical activity and HAVE lost weight,so NO I'm NOT killing myself with Food.

You didn't have to be harsh and mean.There are other avenues to get a point across.When I read your reply my Mouth dropped open,I thought WTH and wanted to lash out.


 


stkitt
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   Posted 10/1/2008 2:56 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

I am so glad to read of your positive steps and every little step forward counts. A bit of compassion can go a long way toward helping people with life's challenges and reaching out can help alleviate feelings of loneliness. We're all different, but we're really all the same. At sometime or another, we all need or want help or simply someone with whom we can share our burdens or successes.

I am celebrating your successes with you.

Keep on moving forward.

Hugs
Kitt

 


 

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Here Kitty, Kitty, Kitty
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   Posted 10/1/2008 5:10 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry to chime in like this, but I'm shocked as well that someone coming here for help
is being attacked by a Moderator, and past things of this person's life (that I never would
have known about) are being thrown back in this person's face in what I perceive to be a
judgmental and cruel way.  Being a Moderator of an anxiety forum, I'm in utter (again) shock,
and it doesn't feel like such a safe place to express or ask for help anymore. 
 
And Sydnee, I hear you, that you're feeling guilty because you're taking a medication that isn't
in harmony with your future profession.  It's got to be hard to come to terms with and the
feelings attached with that are totally understandable.  On another note, I'm glad to hear the
Xanax is helping, even though it's not what you'd like to be taking.
 
Here's hoping you will be easy on yourself.  To me, the right decision is the one that helps
you the most.  It sounds like you made the right decision (in my humble opinion).
 
Take care of you!  :)

nervymeg
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   Posted 10/1/2008 5:41 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

I am sorry that you feel that Peacesoul was being harsh and mean. I really think she just cares and we ALL want to see you get through this difficult time. I most certainly do. Pick that jaw up beautiful woman!!! Congrats on making the diet changes. I am a recovering alcoholic and I know how hard it can be to give up your coping mechanism. It's the hardest thing I've ever, ever done so my hat is off to you sweetie. I don't know your history and I refuse to label, so please just keep on working through this. Banish that guilt. Not worth it.

 


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nervymeg
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   Posted 10/1/2008 5:44 PM (GMT -7)   

Here Kitty,

I'm really sorry that you are upset. Please know that we are a caring and supportive forum. We all have opinions and I am sorry if Peacesoul made you feel that you were not safe here. You can email me if you have any concerns, please stay with us, we care for you and value you. Truly.

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Here Kitty, Kitty, Kitty
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   Posted 10/1/2008 6:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Meg,
 
Not upset, just shocked and feel a little less safe expressing here after observing
Peacesoul's post.  I take responsibility for my own feelings, so Peacesoul didn't
"make" me feel in any certain way - I chose to feel how I feel by my observation
of what I read. 

peacesoul
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   Posted 10/1/2008 6:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I deleted my post

HEREKITTY, My post was not directed at you therefore you should not feel less safe posting. If you read my other posts, you will see I am actually a very kind person.

My reaction in this post was long overdue.

I would also like to point out, I emailed the admins last week because I was no longer interested in being a mod. Not sure why the mod status is still under my user name, but Im guesing they've not got around to removing it yet.
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Sydnee10
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   Posted 10/1/2008 8:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Long overdue?Yes,I occasionally post about problems I endure with my Aunt and the Sister in-law,but I can't take necessary steps to change my current situation with those 2 because the Legal System is standing in the way.I have also posted about my Sister Friend,but regardless all her problems she sure as h*ll don't talk to me in the manner you did!You may deem tough love appropriate,but I feel otherwise.If/when a Person is harsh,mean and overcritical with me,it does nothing except put me on the defensive.I ask you NEVER to express your thoughts to me in this tone again.
 
Thank you
 
P.S. Peacesoul..you and no one else on this site personally know me or what I've experienced in life because I don't tell all.If I did,it would probably like Herekitty said be slung back in my face.
 
 
 


 

Post Edited (Sydnee10) : 10/1/2008 9:44:15 PM (GMT-6)


Sydnee10
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   Posted 10/1/2008 8:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Kitt,

I do what I can given the means and resources I have.Life has been extremely unkind (still is) and indeed a struggle,but I wake every Morning,get out of Bed and go about my Day the best I can with what I have left.This Chic is going places in life and by taking 1 step at a time.

Thank you for positive encouragement..I appreciate more than you will ever know.



 


stkitt
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   Posted 10/2/2008 9:10 AM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

I am glad you are making positive strides. Kudos to you. 

Peacesoul has deleted her original post so I would really like to see this incdent put to rest.

I am sorry things got a bit heated and you have come here for support and no one knows what anyone else has endured in this life to get to where we are.

Today is a new day and the sun is shining here in MN but it is a bit cold out. cool

Try to stay in the moment and remember you are supported here.

Hugs,
Kitt

 


 

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