Good topic. I do understand that some people like to be miserable but it serves no purpose other then to keep them in the dark hole while the good things in life pass them by.
I have had many past negativity brought on by the way I was raised too. It was more my stepmother telling me I was not a good person and I was stupid. I tried so hard to please her. I finally worked through that in therapy and now I don't constantly think about it in my head. It is history.
I also went through many losses of loved ones, my son's death being the worse thing I have ever had to endure but I made it through that.
I celebrate his life now and push the negative thoughts away. No more "Why me" as I will never know so now I practice very hard to stay in the moment.
Life is tough but you can make it better by knowing yourself and loving yourself.
To all, never give up. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
I can relate to that. My sister used to walk around with a pencil clamped between her teeth to make her smile. She swears it got her endorphins up. Wierd but (possibly) true. I try and make sure I stay grateful for what I have. I wake and go oh chit, another day to get through and then remember I have two legs that work and people that love me.
I grew up with an abusive father and we did not show any emotion around him. I learnt to supress everything. Even joy. I'm trying to make up for the missing years now..
Hope you find your happiness.
I learned how to play the happy carefree and always loved a party person throughout my career. In the end I felt so afraid and insecure at parties that my hands shook so I turned down drinks, snackies. My stomach churned and I want to run away. I felt so sad that the tears would be close to the brink and I would have to rein in hard as no one new the sad me.
When I resigned my position and told my staff the truth they laughed and siad "You, no way, you joking" Finally they believed me. I lost all my social life in one swell swoop.
Now I am isolated and don't know what to do. I have tried many things but some days just getting out of the house causes the anxiety to sky rocket so I am a work in progress.
Well that is me, I am human and some days very sad but I will keep on marching on.
Bless each of you.
Well we could all paint big happy smiles on our face............ we could all look like Ronald Mc Donald. I know what you mean Raea, I canot tell you how many times I heard," Kitt can do it she is strong and always gets the job done on time." What can you say to that......No I am not and I don't want that project.
Your right, the companies don't want sad people around after all we are the PR persons representing our business, we need to look happy and greet everyone with big smiles while inside we are being buried in feelings of sadness.
I took early retirement and started using my pension to live on. Now the market is in a huge slide..................Oh well, I will survive.
To all, we are not losers and we will allow oursleves to feel.