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TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/29/2008 9:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone, I've posted on Crohn's forum but not here yet, but feel that I need to be here.  I was diagnosed 12 years ago with mild CD but, like many others with chronic illness, sometimes have other physical conditions/problems arise.  Most recently I was told that my annual pap test came back borderline normal/abnormal and will have to be repeated in 3 months.  I've never had an abnormal result on that before, and even though the nurse told me it's probably going to be okay next time, I'm panicking... woke up this morning at 3 a.m. feeling like I couldn't breathe and didn't go back to sleep for worrying about it, even though it was the lowest level of abnormal and negative for HPV.
 
This happens every time some unexpected health problem arises, whether it's related to the CD or not.  Since diagnosis I've never really accepted that I can't live my life "normally".  My CD is mild and, for the most part, I can do a lot more than those who have more severe illness, but it's still like I'm in denial whenever something goes wrong.  I start all over again with trying to accept that this is how my life has to be lived, like I just got diagnosed all over again, even if it's a small issue.  And I'm always worried about worst-case scenarios, like some little problem is going to turn out worse than it is already and that I won't be able to deal with it.  When I was diagnosed, I was on prednisone for about 2.5 years and had panic attacks regularly during that time, was unable to sleep, and had problems with hypoglycemia.  I haven't had those problems nearly as badly as I did when I was on pred, but I'm still more anxious than I used to be and it bothers me that I can't somehow accept my situation better.
 
When I was on prednisone, I was prescribed Xanax for a short period of time to deal with the panic, but it didn't do much for me and I've not been on anything for anxiety/panic since.  I was wondering what coping skills people use to deal with chronic illness and accepting when things go wrong.  It probably sounds odd that I'd ask that after 12 years, but I'm not there yet.  I still haven't accepted how things are.
 
 

stkitt
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   Posted 10/29/2008 10:04 AM (GMT -7)   

Welcome!

You've found a safe, caring , and reliable support community for people battling Anxiety and Panic.. We have many members here who will be glad to lend an ear, offer information, and provide support for people who need it.


IMHO, you are having some anticipatory anxiety. I have that as well as many others, you will make it through.
 

Common Anticipatory Anxiety Reactions include :

Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.

Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying

Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties

Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue

Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.

Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.

Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.

Make an effort to stay focused on what's happening now. What do you see, hear, and smell? How do you feel? Truly be 'present' in the moment! That will help you keep the anxiety down.

I hope this helps you as I use this and it helps me put myself in a better place.

Bless you

Kitt


 

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TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/29/2008 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow, Kitt, I don't know how to thank you... I read your message and did a search on anticipatory anxiety. I'd never been able to put such a specific name before to what I've been feeling. I really appreciate your response.

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   Posted 10/29/2008 11:36 AM (GMT -7)   
TeacherBetsy, this is Gail *Nanners* from the Crohns board. I have had Crohns for 33 years and just developed the anticipatory anxiety earlier this year. Its nice for me to know what it is as it has helped me to recognize and stop it in its tracks. I take Xanax when those times hit and it works very well for me. You might want to talk to your family doc about your anxiety and maybe he can prescribe something for those anxious times. I wonder if the Xanax did not work well for you before because you were on the evil Pred at the time. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to try it again. Good luck!!

Gail *Nanners*
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 32 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec 60 mg, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Recently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and doing tests to see if I have Inflammatory Arthritis or AS.


stkitt
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   Posted 10/29/2008 2:40 PM (GMT -7)   

TeacherBetsy

I have had this type of anxiety in the worse ways at times to where I had to plan on 2 hours of getting up and getting ready to go some where so I could work through the anticipatory anxiety and stay in the moment.

It is a rough feeling but remember we have anxiety, it does not have us.

I am so glad you found us.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/29/2008 2:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Gail and Kitt, thanks for your kind words. Gail, I had not considered that the Xanax/pred combination could have been the problem... I will ask my GI about this when I see him again. Gail. you are going to think I'm crazy, but seeing that you have been so courageous as to have lived 33 years with CD is somehow encouraging to me. My gynecologist sent a brochure today about abnormal pap results and what they mean and a reminder that most results like mine resolve themselves, so I am going to try very hard to put this worry aside and hope for the best in January at the check-up. There is so much to look forward to between now and then, Thanksgiving and Christmas with my family and so many other good things, that I want to find a way to look up instead of down. I really appreciate your support and I'll also see you on the CD board.

Betsy (-:

Ginny
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   Posted 10/29/2008 3:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Betsy,
 
Boy, do I ever know where you're coming from. (see signature line).  I've been dealing with health anxiety for almost a decade now.  I've had a major health crisis almost every year since being diagnosed with lupus. So my anxiety stems from physical trauma, and hospital stays.  Unfortunately, my anxiety was bumped up to PTSD.  I've started taking Zoloft and I'm seeing a psychiatrist too.  I'm still learning how to deal with my own anxiety and I wish I had more to offer you in the way of advice.  I do want you to know you're not alone in these feelings.  I'm right here with you!
 
Kitt, your posting on anticipatory anxiety is dead on.  Holy moly. I have all of those symptoms. Thank you for sharing such valuable information,
 
All my best Betsy, talk with you more!
Ginny 
I can do anything through Jesus Christ who strengthens me. I have learned in whatever state I am in,to be content. Phillipians 4:11-13

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percycat
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   Posted 10/29/2008 3:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Betsy,

One thing that helps me with health anxiety is telling myself how very rare the thing I fear truly is. It doesn't mean I pretend there's nothing wrong, but it does mean that I ask myself, "Why would *I* be that one in a zillion person who has this tiny little freak change that gives me a dire illness?" I try to keep my fears in perspective.

More specifically, I too had an abnormal pap 8 months ago, and my doctor had me schedule a recheck for 6 months later. She told me right then that "abnormal" does not mean "disease." Rather, it means that something about the *test* was unusual in general: maybe the results show abnormal cells, or maybe the sample wasn't large or clear enough, or maybe the sample was slightly degraded or corrupted, or maybe another condition in my body was skewing the results (this last was the case for me). She indicated that it's not uncommon for a woman to have an abnormal result. In my case, everything was fine at the second test.

I expect yours will come back fine too, and when it does, try to hold that feeling and memory while you truly integrate that *nothing* was wrong this time. That gives you stronger evidence the next time your health anxiety crops up that it's *not* always something terrible. Each time you get good news, try to really absorb it and store it up for later recall emotionally.

percycat

TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/29/2008 7:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ginny and Percycat, I am so grateful for your replies. Ginny, wow, I am amazed at your strength... and know how meaningful and important your story is, and in terms of advice, your statement about being content in any situation is excellent advice. I noticed also that you're on prednisone and hope it is not giving you too much trouble; it's an understatement to say that is a tough drug to handle.

Percycat, many thanks for sharing your experience with the abnormal pap... that really makes me feel better. I have not yet been able to discuss it with the doctor, only with the nurse, and your doc's explanation clarifies it a lot more than what I'd learned so far. The idea of holding on to a positive experience is helpful and I will remember that at the check-up. Keeping it all in perspective is the hardest thing for me to do, but I'm working on it little by little... seems like no matter how long we've had these diseases, there's always more to learn.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/30/2008 8:55 AM (GMT -7)   
A Warm welcome to you here
I have seen you on CD forum

I too have gone thru the A/P anxiety for many many years and I didnt know til I finally talked to others and did research what is was

THE good NEWS is you can start to control it and not have it control you .........

I have done and still doing some CBT and for me it works,,,,,,,,,

Many ppl with chronic illnesses do find there way here
It is only natural IMHO to have some degree of anxiety over your illness(s)

I have been DX with Fibro have Pyoderma Gangrenosum an just had part of lobe removed from left side that was cancer

I got thru all of this with the fantastic support of lil sis n all others on here

I would call Kitt daily and I still do talk with her at least once a day ......... yeah

This is a great place to make life long friends
and to have a family as we do here

Stay with us ...........LYN

 Let us know how you are doing k.....LYN


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 10/30/2008 9:59:07 AM (GMT-6)


basa0806
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   Posted 10/30/2008 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I know how you feel...I've had UC for 5 years and there are so many other health manifestations with an IBD that I can see how you can be so worried. I don't have much advice as I am new to anxiety but I know you'll get through it because you're strong. Hey if you can deal with CD you can do ANYTHING! :)
Sam 19 year old college student
Diagnosed March 2005
Remission since January/April 2006 (incident with mono)
3200mg Asacol, 25mg Amitriptlyine, Ortho Tri-cyclen lo, Effexor XR for anxiety
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude"
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   Posted 10/30/2008 9:51 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning TeacherBetsy,

I have a hubby with Crohn's and he has had 3 major surgeries. He has had this disease for 32 years and he only missed work for his surgeries.  He has been very lucky and I will admit when he starts to complain of belly pain I go on full alert but then I remember Crohn's patients get other bugs too. I can tell when he is anxious and into overload so I give him space.

2 years ago I was at my GYN's for my regular check up and the next thing I know she is wanting to do a biopsy.........I almost bolted off the table. Well the biopsy came back normal.

The next year's pap was normal too. I try to kick the "Stinkin Thinkin" to the curb when I start with the what if's.  Time goes by and I will receive the answer and I will live everyday to the fullest by staying in the moment.

I am thankful for every day I can make a difference in the lives of others.

Hugs and Have a good day.

Kitt

 


 

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TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/30/2008 10:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lynn, Sam and Kitt... glad to see you here! I slept a little better last night, still woke up too early... but it's rare for me to sleep thru the night w/o waking up at some odd time... that's been a problem for years, even before the CD. I wake up thinking about things and can't go back to sleep.

It's always been hard for me to handle certain situations. I grew up in a very close and loving family, but certain lines of communication have been difficult at times, mainly with my mom. When I got to be about 12, whenever I got sick or had a problem, she expected me to tough it out. I had perfect attendance in school for 6 years, from age 12 to 18, because even if I was sick, she made me go. She actually got angry with me once when I got sick at school from food poisoning and said I shouldn't have eaten the food that caused the problem... like a 13-year-old could figure that out??? She's a very anxious person as well, high-strung and can't stand not to be in control when something is out of her control. But I'm not trying to fix her... the only person I can sort out is myself.

When I was diagnosed with CD, she was sympathetic, even frightened, and she and my dad helped me find a good doctor and get the testing I needed. I'd moved out 2 years earlier, after college, and lived out of state for one more year after the diagnosis. It was the worst year of my life, trying to juggle my job and prednisone and sorting out the diagnosis.

Since then, things have gone more or less back to how they were when I was a kid. I live on my own (thank goodness), but if she hears that I'm sick or having a problem, or have to take a day off from work, she asks me if I'm going to get fired because of taking a sick day. Oddly enough, she is sympathetic when I have to have a colonoscopy and takes me to those appointments (once every 2 years at this time). Otherwise, I'm always supposed to just keep going, no matter what happens, like nothing is wrong. I know I'm too old to worry about what she thinks, but this has gone on for 25 years, this "soldiering on" deal. And the truth is that sometimes I let it keep me from doing what I should do to take care of myself when something does go wrong. I don't mean to make it sound like my mom doesn't care, b/c she really does, but she can't deal with things not being as they "should" be, and my sister and I both have chronic illnesses... I've even told my sister that I wonder sometimes if I ended up with this illness as some sort of lesson that our mom is supposed to learn. But I hate to think that way b/c it makes me sad.

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   Posted 10/30/2008 3:03 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Betsy, i understand trying to manage anxiety and chronic illness- let me give you a timeline:

age 10- panic disorder begins

13- partial left mastectomy

14- have nervous breakdown- officially diagnosed panic disorder, ocd, agoraphobia

15- glandular fever

16- diagnosed chronic fatigue

17- so anaemic, have to have transfusions- insomnia

18- first of 4 surgeries on Polycystic Ovaries & endometriosis

20- tonsillectomy, appendectomy

22- GERD. gall bladder removed due to stones and infection

22- diagnosed reactive arthritis

23- bursitis/ chronic joint & muscular inflammation

25- gout/IBS/seasonal mood disorder

26- FESS sinus surgery

27- fibromyalgia

28-present: still battling all of this while trying to defeat my panic/agoraphobia demons, working full time.

It can be done. its so hard sometimes and i wish other people could understand. this place is the best forum ever for dealing with all this and more. I hope you can find some balance and relief.

Peace & Blessings,

Maz XX



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Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovaries, Chronic ear/nose/throat infections, Panic Disorder, Reactive Arthritis, Agoraphobia, Migraines, GERD, Anaemia, Sinusitis, Chronically perforated eardrums, Pinched Nerves, IBS, Tachycardia, Allergies, Insomnia, Trichotilomania, Glandular Fever, Bursitis, Encapsulitis, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, Mild OCD.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Nexium. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
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Post Edited (Mazfire) : 11/1/2008 4:52:22 PM (GMT-6)


TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/30/2008 4:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Maz, I'm glad to meet you and amazed at how much you've faced in your life with regard to your health. We have had some similar experiences... I had an episode of bursitis at age 6 (in my hip), tonsils out at 10, problems with ovarian cysts and mild anemia starting at 19 and into early 20s, and then the Crohn's diagnosis at 25. I've often wondered at the early bursitis and also the fact that when I was growing up, whenever I became especially anxious or scared, I always had pain in my right side... I don't know how this all ties together but have always wondered how these early and ongoing symptoms could maybe have led to disease. It's just too weird to have had that right-side pain and anxiety all those years and then ended up with Crohn's, with the most localized patch of disease in my right side. Reading your list, I feel overwhelmed that so much can happen to one person's body and well-being, especially so young. You have tackled huge obstacles that I cannot even imagine.

Thanks for sharing your timeline so I can know more about your experiences. You are so young to have faced so much, but I sense your positive spirit and appreciate your caring nature.  I hope to talk to you more here so we can help each other through these challenges.
 
Peace to you,
 
Betsy (-:

Post Edited (TeacherBetsy) : 10/30/2008 5:30:09 PM (GMT-6)


Mazfire
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   Posted 10/30/2008 5:48 PM (GMT -7)   

p.s Betsy, im a teacher- high school. it took me longer to get my degree cos i had to keep deffering and having surgery, but i got there. im a high school teacher, english & art & special needs.

my doctors, pyschiatrists etc told me i couldnt do it, wouldnt ever be able to focus, be strong, be capable of studying, working etc. proved them wrong! yeah

looking forward to getting to know you!

Maz XX


'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovaries, Chronic ear/nose/throat infections, Panic Disorder, Reactive Arthritis, Agoraphobia, Migraines, GERD, Anaemia, Sinusitis, Chronically perforated eardrums, Pinched Nerves, IBS, Tachycardia, Allergies, Insomnia, Trichotilomania, Glandular Fever, Bursitis, Encapsulitis, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, Mild OCD.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Nexium. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie. XX.
 
 


basa0806
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   Posted 10/30/2008 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Betsy my dad is the exact same way as your mom. I was an incredibly sick child. I was a strep carrier and I had it at least 3 times a winter plus ear infections all the time, He'd get mad when I'd have to stay home because of it, but of course there was nothing I could do. When I was diagnosed with UC my parents both understood the ramifications of the disease but my dad to this day still believes that I will "grow out of it". You can't grow out of an auto immune disease. You just gotta learn to deal. Its so hard to accept something so awful and just because you haven't yet doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Would you be willing to see someone about starting some anxiety meds? Effexor has been a miracle drug for me. I actually saw my CNP today for a follow up and she said she wanted me to be the poster child for effexor because I'm doing so well on it! Maybe you're doing everything you can and you just need a little push. You don't have to feel yucky all the time!
Sam 19 year old college student
Diagnosed March 2005
Remission since January/April 2006 (incident with mono)
3200mg Asacol, 25mg Amitriptlyine, Ortho Tri-cyclen lo, Effexor XR for anxiety
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude"
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TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/31/2008 5:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Sam, he does sound a lot like my mom. I wonder how much of it is that they can't deal with things not being "normal" (whatever that is!) or out of their control. You are so right when you say "you just gotta learn to deal"... that is exactly how this works.

Just curious... have your parents ever said anything that sounded like they felt guilty about you being sick (like it was their fault)? My mom has... when I was diagnosed, immediately she started questioning herself about what she "did wrong" to "cause" the illness. I really think it all goes back to the whole control deal, having to be able to trace it to some logical process. What she hasn't figured out yet, and I guess we all struggle with this, is that life isn't always logical. Sadly, in my mom's case, she did a good job raising us, making sure we were properly fed and had the care we needed, but her high expectations and related anxiety made things tough sometimes. When I had to tell her something that I didn't want to tell her, or ask something I was afraid to ask, I used to actually write her notes and leave them places where she'd find them b/c I wasn't brave enough to just go to her and say what I wanted to say. I guess I was afraid of being ridiculed for some reason.

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   Posted 10/31/2008 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, TeacherBetsy; I have UC and I can understand feeling anxious. One of the things that helps is to stay in the moment; if I think about the future too much, I start to panic. I know it's hard to do, but it works!
 
Your mom sounds like my dad and even my mom sometimes. They always tell me to "suck it up" and "move on." For example, when I started flaring really badly in May, I told my parents I couldn't handle my summer job. They didn't believe me so they made me go to work. I had to quit after a week because my symptoms got much worse. My parents are very caring and sympathetic when I'm visibly sick, but the moment I'm better/having a good day, they get on my back to get a job/do this do that.

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   Posted 10/31/2008 8:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Betsy--
My parents never really felt "guilty" I don't think. My mom is so sympathetic, especially when I was in high school. She came to all my appts and she was actually the one who thought of the method that got me into remission after my first flare. I have no idea what I'd do without my mom. I guess it all has to do with how each person copes with hard things in life. My mom just falls to pieces and is my partner in pity parties. My dad is just so passive and whatever about things that he just figures I'm overreacting and I'll get over it.
Sam 19 year old college student
Diagnosed March 2005
Remission since January/April 2006 (incident with mono)
3200mg Asacol, 25mg Amitriptlyine, Ortho Tri-cyclen lo, Effexor XR for anxiety
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude"
Maya Angelou


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   Posted 10/31/2008 8:56 AM (GMT -7)   

Betsy,

What a great response you have received. :-)

First off your Mother means well but it is time you gently tell her for your health you have to take care of you first and worrying about what may happen tommorow does not help you get well today.

Make an effort to stay focused on what's happening now. What do you see, hear, and smell? How do you feel? Truly be 'present' in the moment! That will help you keep the anxiety down.

Mom will have to deal with her own anxiety and first of all accept that she is a person with anxiety.

CD is a disease that strikes children and may go for years without the right dx.  You probably did have sx of Crohn's but your physician did not pick up on it.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 10/31/2008 12:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks to all of you for your responses... Comedy, you hit it on the head, that's how it is with my mom. When I'm having a serious problem, she's sympathetic, but otherwise, it's business as usual... she is definitely of the "suck it up" mentality. If only it were that easy, right?

Sam, it's interesting about your parents... my dad is the more sympathetic of the two, and it's always been easier for me to tell him what's going on in my life than to tell my mom because I know how upset she can get about things.

Kitt, I appreciate your comments and am overwhelmed by the responses in this thread as well... this has been a rough week. I've learned a lot here, though, and can see that talking this out with other people who are going through similar problems is going to help. I have a long way to go because this has gone on for so long, but this is a first step.

Betsy (-:

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   Posted 10/31/2008 2:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Betsy,

We are with you every step of the way.  One footstep at a time we will help you over that mountain.

You have a support and caring.

Hugs

Kitt


 

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   Posted 11/1/2008 5:59 PM (GMT -7)   
I think I'm a lot closer to my mom because of my age and my siblings. I have two older brothers that are 33 and 28 and they are close to my dad. I'm almost 20 and the only girl so I relate more to my mom and we are super close. My mom is extremely high strung but in kind of a good way. When something bad happens she tends to kick into high gear and get things done but at the end of the day kind of crumbles. Its an interesting combo...!
It really goes to show you how people with similar personalities handle them differently!
Sam 19 year old college student
Diagnosed March 2005
Remission since January/April 2006 (incident with mono)
3200mg Asacol, 25mg Amitriptlyine, Ortho Tri-cyclen lo, Effexor XR for anxiety
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude"
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   Posted 11/1/2008 6:24 PM (GMT -7)   
I was so close to Mom and she passed away
I was closer to dad as he was my hero and had all the answers
Never molly coddled me but knew if I was sick I was sick

I wish I could call them sometimes
But I know they are looking down on me
I miss them sooooo

I really am PROUD of the "family support" here as Lil sis has pointed out

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