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Common Anticipatory Anxiety Reactions include :
Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.
Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying
Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties
Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue
Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.
Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.
Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.
Make an effort to stay focused on what's happening now. What do you see, hear, and smell? How do you feel? Truly be 'present' in the moment! That will help you keep the anxiety down.
I hope this helps you as I use this and it helps me put myself in a better place.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
I have had this type of anxiety in the worse ways at times to where I had to plan on 2 hours of getting up and getting ready to go some where so I could work through the anticipatory anxiety and stay in the moment.
It is a rough feeling but remember we have anxiety, it does not have us.
I am so glad you found us.
Let us know how you are doing k.....LYN
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 10/30/2008 9:59:07 AM (GMT-6)
Good Morning TeacherBetsy,
I have a hubby with Crohn's and he has had 3 major surgeries. He has had this disease for 32 years and he only missed work for his surgeries. He has been very lucky and I will admit when he starts to complain of belly pain I go on full alert but then I remember Crohn's patients get other bugs too. I can tell when he is anxious and into overload so I give him space.
2 years ago I was at my GYN's for my regular check up and the next thing I know she is wanting to do a biopsy.........I almost bolted off the table. Well the biopsy came back normal.
The next year's pap was normal too. I try to kick the "Stinkin Thinkin" to the curb when I start with the what if's. Time goes by and I will receive the answer and I will live everyday to the fullest by staying in the moment.
I am thankful for every day I can make a difference in the lives of others.
Hugs and Have a good day.
Hi Betsy, i understand trying to manage anxiety and chronic illness- let me give you a timeline:
age 10- panic disorder begins
13- partial left mastectomy
14- have nervous breakdown- officially diagnosed panic disorder, ocd, agoraphobia
15- glandular fever
16- diagnosed chronic fatigue
17- so anaemic, have to have transfusions- insomnia
18- first of 4 surgeries on Polycystic Ovaries & endometriosis
20- tonsillectomy, appendectomy
22- GERD. gall bladder removed due to stones and infection
22- diagnosed reactive arthritis
23- bursitis/ chronic joint & muscular inflammation
25- gout/IBS/seasonal mood disorder
26- FESS sinus surgery
28-present: still battling all of this while trying to defeat my panic/agoraphobia demons, working full time.
It can be done. its so hard sometimes and i wish other people could understand. this place is the best forum ever for dealing with all this and more. I hope you can find some balance and relief.
Peace & Blessings,
Post Edited (Mazfire) : 11/1/2008 4:52:22 PM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (TeacherBetsy) : 10/30/2008 5:30:09 PM (GMT-6)
p.s Betsy, im a teacher- high school. it took me longer to get my degree cos i had to keep deffering and having surgery, but i got there. im a high school teacher, english & art & special needs.
my doctors, pyschiatrists etc told me i couldnt do it, wouldnt ever be able to focus, be strong, be capable of studying, working etc. proved them wrong!
looking forward to getting to know you!
What a great response you have received.
First off your Mother means well but it is time you gently tell her for your health you have to take care of you first and worrying about what may happen tommorow does not help you get well today.
Mom will have to deal with her own anxiety and first of all accept that she is a person with anxiety.
CD is a disease that strikes children and may go for years without the right dx. You probably did have sx of Crohn's but your physician did not pick up on it.
We are with you every step of the way. One footstep at a time we will help you over that mountain.
You have a support and caring.