Complainin again... hi all.

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   Posted 11/3/2008 8:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Happy Halloween late... sorry I didn't come for it... hum on my side is a bit confused...

My former stepfather who is on parole who has been living here in my house on the downstairs for 9 months, finally had a little trouble with parole and now the house is always like on lockdown, meaning the door upstairs that I go into my once free house is now always locked and I always have to use a key to merely get upstairs into my BATHROOM which was once his *including my grandfathers* but now the change was made... and now with parole rules and my grandfather's age it was bound to occur that the bathroom right next to my room on the bottom floor would be eventually... theirs.

So therefore, I had no choice, it was mandatory to give it up... but I'm having great difficulty giving it up in the mind... I'm so used to my own realm, my own bathroom, I've had enough bad things happen in the past few months, such as my Neopets account being lost, the Doctor saying those horrible things that put fear inside me, my everyday battle against myself, and so on... now everytime I want to merely use the bathroom I gotta run upstairs with a key, while it was always just right there at my doorstep... I was trying to keep my bathroom as long as I could, but now I've lost it... my mother has used quotes such as "Well when everyones dead it'll be the way you want it"... such a horrible thing to say, it's like a confusing conflict, I would never want everyone to be dead but I did not expect these rules to happen so powerfully and it seems the bathroom upstairs which was cleaned from their filth ... is in REVERSE compared to my old one, and the tub/shower is like... smaller on the right side so the shower curtain is ALWAYS on my arm...

I'm ocd, autistic, etc we all know that... I just have troubles adjusting to minor change, imagine major change... well I don't know what else to say except the famous thing... if I can't handle minor change like that, what the heck am I gonna do when it comes to major change. I think I'm in serious trouble.

"Make a joke and I will sigh, and you will laugh and I will cry. Happiness I cannot feel, and love to me is so unreal."-Loony from Rings of Power

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   Posted 11/3/2008 11:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Paul!

The hardest step you will ever make is admitting you have a problem and trying to find a solution to that problem. Another great step for you is coming to this forum to meet a lot of really nice, caring people that can understand what you are going through :) Everything will work out for the best one way or another :) Keep your head up, smile, and don't let things get you down. You have to put those scary thoughts from your head, because they are just thoughts. . . they can not really hurt you, and you know that :) Take care of yourself and welcome :)
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   Posted 11/3/2008 11:56 AM (GMT -6)   

Good Morning Paul,

May I ask why your former stepfather is staying in your home?  Is it your grandparent's home?  What is the relationship?

I know your thinking is bothering you and you are trying hard to accept the change but it feels unfair to you as you are the one that has to give up something due to the actions of your former stepfather.

Accepting change is hard. Try to take it one step at a time, first accept that you do not have control over this change but don't let it throw all the good you have been doing into the dump.

Make the upstairs bathroom yours, decorate it a bit with your own personal style. Remember to stay in the moment.  You cannot go back to yesterday and tommorow is not here yet so live in the moment.

Gentle Hugs



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   Posted 11/3/2008 7:38 PM (GMT -6)   
But I hate the upstairs bathroom, the tub is too small or something the shower curtain is always on my arm... but the rod that holds it up is going to be moved which is good, I'm just real bad with change... it is my mother's home legally and my home but not legally, basically I, my grandfather and former stepfather are tennants by libel.
"Make a joke and I will sigh, and you will laugh and I will cry. Happiness I cannot feel, and love to me is so unreal."-Loony from Rings of Power

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   Posted 11/3/2008 7:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Paulos, nice to see you back. Sorry you have people changing things on you.

Best wishes,
You must do the things you think you cannot do. -- Eleanor Roosevelt

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   Posted 11/3/2008 8:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Paul, I'm sorry that you are going through so much change at once. I agree that change is tough... we get comfortable with what comforts us. It's hard when others change that, but we can make it through a step at a time. Wishing you peace.
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   Posted 11/4/2008 12:58 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi, my only advice is to personalise the bathroom to your tastes- i dont know, i dont cope well with change, and i teach autistic kids who absolutely loathe change, it upsets and angers them. thinking of you at this time, hope it can be resolved.

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