Are my children causing my panic attacks?

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virginialady76
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   Posted 11/3/2008 7:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Need some help in figuring out what is wrong with me. I'm a single mother in my 30's of two little children completely on my own with no help from anyone. I started having panic attacks in late 2006 after I became sick from a bad ear infection. After several 911 calls due to shortness of breath and feeling like I'm getting ready to have a heart attack I was told I am having panic attacks. The attacks only happened when I am taking care of my kids. Some other things I felt during that time was nausea especially when the sun went down, burning sensations all over my body, pain in my armpits like lymphnodes hurting, restless legs at night, insomnia, constantly thinking I have heart disease or HIV. The symptoms lasted about 6 months and then stopped last year. I figured I was okay. I have had mild anxiety but not the attacks.
 
I recently came down with Lyme disease. Last thing I needed. My doc says I recently contracted it but my panic attacks started again. Trying to get well and taking care of my kids at the same time was too much. I sent them away for a month out of state. I didn't have an attack while they were away. They have been back exactly one week. I am constantly yelling at them  now. They are only toddlers so I know it is not their fault. Yesterday morning I suddenly felt this weird fluttering in my throat and my hear was beating weird, my stomach tightened into a knot, and I felt like I was about to have a heart attack. The fear lasted for about an hour and then I was completely exhausted with sore achy muscles. I had another attack I suppose. I just don't know where to get help for this. My primary doc is quick to hand out a prescription for xanax. I feel like medication masks the problem.
 
Can someone point me in the right direction of where to get help? I can't raise my children like this. I love them dearly I am hurting them. Please help.

debaser
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   Posted 11/3/2008 9:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't think medication only masks the problem. I think it treats the problem to the point that it can be under control. At that point you can then work on the mental aspects of anxiety disorder.

Obviously I'm not a doctor but knowing what I know about Xanax, I'm not sure I would take that one if I were in your shoes. It doesn't last very long and since you're around your kids a lot, you may find yourself taking more than what would be prudent. Instead, I'd ask for a longer-acting benzodiazepine that is generally prescribed to be taken at a low dose twice per day. Ask about Klonopin. Addiction is uncommon, the side effect profile is quite low, and it begins to work quickly. Talk to your doctor about the pros and cons.

I'm willing to bet medication would help you, but you'll have to try to make progress while you're on the drug. Perhaps CBT therapy would be appropriate.

As for being pointed in the right direction, a psychiatrist would be the best type of doctor to see because they are more familiar with this type of thing than a family doctor would be. However, if you can't get in to see a shrink, it's not like Klonopin is the cutting edge of medicine or anything. They SHOULD know enough about it to discuss it with you.

I'm sure others will post their thoughts. Good luck.
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   Posted 11/4/2008 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Virginialady,

I agree with Debaser, I think that the medication would help you. You don't want to hurt your children I am sure of this. So I think a little pharmacological help would be in store. Also like she said, CBT therapy. You really need some support right now. And that is a way to go without drugs.

I wouldn't say that your children are causing your anxiety attacks per say. But being around them and maybe worrying about things is setting them off. So please think about the medication and counseling.

Best wishes to you for a nice relaxing day,
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nervymeg
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   Posted 11/4/2008 3:14 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi,

Welcome to HW, I am sure you have absolutely no desire to harm your children. It's tough to handle two young children at the best of times, but anxiety and Lyme would make everything worse. Are you considering some counslling for the anxiety? If you feel the xanax isn't working then maybe talking it out might be a better option.

Stick with us, I'm sure our members can come up with some support and suggestions.

Meg


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Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/7/2008 12:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I used to get so frustrated at times with the kids when they were young
but I never really did do too much yelling
I would instead hide away mostly on my real bad days

I am sure you are "Not getting sick
Because of your kids"

It is most likely you may need an increase in dose of meds and some self help techniques listed at top of page

Chronic illness does and willl cause many other problems many severe in our lives
Stay with us and keep us posted
Check on back threads and other threads to see IF something may help

You take care........LYN
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 11/10/2008 4:09:15 PM (GMT-7)


Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/7/2008 5:15 PM (GMT -7)   
I rethought about this and I am wondering could it be the intensified noises youngins make
Maybe the have toys all over
Do you have a routine with them

I really am hoping we can help you with this

I dont think as I did say
That your kids are making you sick
It is not easy being a one parent home
I know from yrs of experience

I am luckier now

........Email me if you would like...........LYN


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 11/10/2008 4:09:51 PM (GMT-7)


stkitt
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   Posted 11/8/2008 3:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Virginialady,
 
How are you doing?  We are concerned about your anxiety and hope you keep talking with us.
 
I am a mother of 4 and I remember sitting on the bottom stepts leading upstairs to the children's bed praying for them to settle down and go to sleep.
 
I knew better then to touch them as I truly was afraid I might hurt them.  They were not causing my anxiety, I was allowing myself to feel anxious.

Bless you
Kitt
 

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peacesoul
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   Posted 11/9/2008 10:53 AM (GMT -7)   
VL76, I also have lyme and understand the lyme anxiety very well. Please feel free to email me at any time to discuss.
Hope all is well

Jen
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/10/2008 4:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes

Although you had anxiety and panic way before being DX with Lyme
It might not hurt to pop over and have a look

Remember we are here for you and we are hoping you are reading posts written to you
Check out the lyme forum

Mods on this forum are available to email as well

Lyn
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