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Mazfire
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   Posted 11/14/2008 11:20 PM (GMT -7)   
As many of you know, im a high school teacher at a pretty rough school. i also have fibro and didnt feel up to work,l but i went anyway. on that particular day i had a female student approach me - she asked if we could talk. she then promptly burst into tears and spilled out that she wasnt coping with life, home was making her anxious, bullying was making school difficult, she wanted to know if she was going crazy- the symptoms she described were classic anxiety- she was hyperventilating right infront of me. she has sat in my class for the last 6months, smart, fun and bright. she is polite and respectful. she was doing what i spent alot of high school doing- wearing a mask.
 
i am so glad i didnt call in sick that day- i got her into an adolescent counselling program and we worked out a plan to tackle her assignments at an easier pace. the bit that really hit home was this "miss- i dont know who to tell or what to do- you were the first adult i chose to speak to cos i knew you would listen. i knew you wouldnt call me a freak."
That is better than any salary i get paid. those words are worth millions to me. if i hadnt gone in that day, i dont know if she would have got the help i was lucky enough to organise.
 
I was so busy thinking about my own problems- it never occurred to me that i could help someone else when i often struggle to help myself.
even when you dont know why you are dragging yourself out of bed to face the world, just think, you may be instrumental in helping someone else.
Kind of like the help everyone gives each other here at healingwell.
Blessings,
Maz XX
'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovaries, Chronic ear/nose/throat infections, Panic Disorder, Reactive Arthritis, Agoraphobia, Migraines, GERD, Anaemia, Sinusitis, Chronically perforated eardrums, Pinched Nerves, IBS, Tachycardia, Allergies, Insomnia, Trichotilomania, Glandular Fever, Bursitis, Encapsulitis, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, Mild OCD.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Nexium. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie. XX.
 
 


stkitt
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   Posted 11/15/2008 12:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Maz,

That was straight from the heart and thank you for sharing with us.  If each of us could help one person every day oh what a wonderful world it would be.

I am glad you went to work that day too.  You are awesome.

Hugs

Kitt


 

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/15/2008 12:15 PM (GMT -7)   
MAZ
I am so glad too you never called in
'My daughter Cait wears a mask
SHE definitely has anxiety...body issues( anorexia) and so many other issues
An honor student is happy and go lucky at school
Helps everyone and gets involved in the community
At home she was not talking and I KNEW she was in trouble
Something happened awhile back that I cannot go into here

YOU did a great thing..........

I am proud of you ..........LYN

I SO hope that Cait is helped at school by a teacher like you IF the need arises...........
BTW

That is her life goal.......and she will acheive it
TO be a high school English teacher........

She just won An Honors award on Thursday
but it didnt make her as happy as I thought it would......

luvs
lyn


 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 11/15/2008 1:34:27 PM (GMT-7)


Green Grove
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   Posted 11/15/2008 1:32 PM (GMT -7)   
That's so cool Maz:) You made me cry again (you really need to stop doing that;) I had a teacher like that in school that helped me in the same way, and she has always been a positive memory in my life, because she made such a difference. I'm so happy for you. What an accomplishment :)
Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort :)
Sam
 
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Mazfire
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   Posted 11/15/2008 3:15 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks guys-
i knew something was really wrong because she didnt just cry- she kind of collapsed into my shoulder and just sobbed. we have strict rules about tocuhing between teachers/students, you use your own discretion- the fact that she felt comfortable enough to want me to hug her back meant she was really in trouble. her pulse was racing, she explained that home life was quite emotionally abusive- and the bullying. she is not your typical 'plastic pretty skinny blonde' and she was being victimised for not being a stick, for not conforming, for wearing too much eyeliner etc. i explained that the superficial stuff, were only words and that she could rise above this. she is so smart- she was being teased and left out for being academically inclined. she genuinely feared she was going 'crazy' and was extremely edgy and had begun self harming.
 
i shared with her a little of my own experience with anxiety so she didnt feel alone- i was 14 when i ended up having a nervous breakdown. she warmed to the fact that i had struggled at times also. i was just sooooo grateful that she agreed to a teen counselling program where her anxiety could be explained to her and monitored. i gave her some teen anxiety websites and breathing excercises.
 
i didnt write this post to "toot my own horn". i shared it because i believe that my P/A can be used for good. having been burdened with this illness since i was 10, ive learnt that IMHO God let me have this struggle so i could help others. i believe that P/A makes you more intune with the emotional needs of others. we all have the ability to make a difference in the lives of others, even if we cant always see it.
 
i believe my panic is a blessing and a curse. its a double edged sword.
 
Also, next year while i continue teaching by day, i am starting my Masters (by correspondence) in Adolescent Welfare so i can be a certified school counsellor & youth social worker. i want to keep teaching, but i want to branch out a bit. i will need many prayers from you guys when i start that, as my health is totally stuffed (see my signature) and it will be an exhausting process. but its something i really want. (i need 3 lots of surgery before april)
 
my teen years were horrendous- i should have got an oscar for my role in "popular, confident girl" which hid my role as "emotionally traumatised, mentally fragile girl." if i can feed off that experience and use it to help others then i will.
 
i pray we all have opportunities to be the light at the end of someones tunnel. i know that the comfort and support i have felt here has been exactly that- you guys show me the light when im trapped. and i thank you for it.
 
much love to all,
extra special helping for Sam, Kitt, Lyn and Meg smilewinkgrin smilewinkgrin smilewinkgrin smilewinkgrin
Maz XX
'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovaries, Chronic ear/nose/throat infections, Panic Disorder, Reactive Arthritis, Agoraphobia, Migraines, GERD, Anaemia, Sinusitis, Chronically perforated eardrums, Pinched Nerves, IBS, Tachycardia, Allergies, Insomnia, Trichotilomania, Glandular Fever, Bursitis, Encapsulitis, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, Mild OCD.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Nexium. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie. XX.
 
 


Mazfire
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   Posted 11/15/2008 3:45 PM (GMT -7)   
p.s Lyn, im an english teacher (and art). If Cait ever has any questions, or you do, please dont hesitate to ask. turn
'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovaries, Chronic ear/nose/throat infections, Panic Disorder, Reactive Arthritis, Agoraphobia, Migraines, GERD, Anaemia, Sinusitis, Chronically perforated eardrums, Pinched Nerves, IBS, Tachycardia, Allergies, Insomnia, Trichotilomania, Glandular Fever, Bursitis, Encapsulitis, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, Mild OCD.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Nexium. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie. XX.
 
 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/15/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Maz
I will let Cait know this for sure
her user name is "crazycrohniegurl"

I am sure she would appreciate conversing with you about many things to do with her Goals

Thanks so much

No one would ever think hun that you posted to toot your own horn

It is so good to read a post that proves our anxiety can be useful as well

Thanks so much

Luvs
God Bless
LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
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                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


Junebug05
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   Posted 11/15/2008 8:15 PM (GMT -7)   
What you did just warmed my heart, I'm glad that you were there for that young girl.  I know that during my daughters high school years that she had teachers she could go to when she was having difficulties and as a mother I want you to know just how much it means that another adult will give of themselves to help.  I knew that my daughter was safe and cared for when she wasn't at home which made her feel better and of course helped me be more calm.  You may never know the full extent, of what your caring and help, will be in this girls life.
 
Whatever school you work for is very lucky to have such a kind, understanding teacher!
 
Love to you!

percycat
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   Posted 11/16/2008 1:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Maz,

That is marvellous that you could be there for her! I'm so glad you were there that day, and that you did have some good advice and support to offer her. That two-edged sword sure showed its good side for a change.

I hope you keep flying high feeling good about how *you* were able to help and give back to someone just because of who you are.

percycat

Mazfire
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   Posted 11/16/2008 1:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Thankyou Percycat!  :-)
 
i have found my A/P has enabled me to help many of my students who dont cope emotionally, due to abuse, neglect, violence, drugs, learning disorders, low socio-economic, foster kids who feel unloved and unworthy- they often begin to manifest anxious, depressive behaviour.
 
 i never dreamed 14yrs ago as i fought my own pit of darkness that attacked and attacked me that i would be able to lead a normal life, let alone channel my hurt, my trauma, my confusion into deep empathy for kids who are battling against the odds. my teen years were a mix of anger, resentment, confusion, and an inability to cope with the basic facets of life.
 
yes, my job is challenging- alot of my friends told me to find something 'easier' on both my body and my mind, but i love a challenge and i love my kids. even when they are being just plain rotten devil   they are still MY little rotten kids.
 
Being a teenager was pretty rough for me, with the breakdown, diagnosis, horrible medication side effects. i look back and dont know how i got where i am. i still struggle, as do we all. i just no longer choose to be a victim, i choose to not be a prisoner of this illness. i have faith there is a greater purpose for my life. if that means teaching in a really rough school, but helping kids with major issues, then heck yes im gonna do it.
 
I have noticed that since joining HW, i dwell less on the hurts of my past and i focus more on the dreams of my future.
God bless,
Maz XX
'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovaries, Chronic ear/nose/throat infections, Panic Disorder, Reactive Arthritis, Agoraphobia, Anemia, Sinusitis, IBS, Tachycardia, Allergies, Insomnia, Chemical/Noise/Light sensitivity, Trichotilomania, Glandular Fever, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, Mild OCD.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie.
 
 


percycat
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   Posted 11/16/2008 1:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Maz,

I loved what you wrote: "I have noticed that since joining HW, i dwell less on the hurts of my past and i focus more on the dreams of my future."

Here's to all of us focussing more on our dreams of the future!

percycat

Hibee
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   Posted 11/16/2008 7:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Maz

What a great post i am glad that you were able to help that girl and it shows you must have the trust of the kids if they feel they can come to you for help what a gift you must be a fantastic teacher. I had a horrible time at school and wish i had a teacher like you who i could of gone to for help, most off my teachers did not have time for me due to learning difficulty. I can relate to a lot off what you right about in regards to having a rough time growing up. i think you will make an excellent counsellor and youth social worker in the future and we will be here if you need us.

Take care

Mazfire
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   Posted 11/16/2008 10:59 AM (GMT -7)   

thanks guys, i truly believe i am meant to be at that school. ive had offers from cushy private schools in more affluent areas, but i just cant shake the feeling that this particular school is where i need to be. its been 3 years there now and ive been able to develop a real rapport with the kids.

 

Nikki- i promise i wont judge your spelling- or anyones! turn   although i can spell very well, im a sloppy typer and will make plenty of mistakes myself- my fear is that people will go "she cant even spell- how can she possibly teach english?" lol

Hugs to you all- just remember, you never know how a few kind words can make the world of difference in someones life. and yep- i will be calling on you guys for support when i start studying again next year. XX

Maz XX


'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, Polycystic Ovaries, Chronic ear/nose/throat infections, Panic Disorder, Reactive Arthritis, Agoraphobia, Anemia, Sinusitis, IBS, Tachycardia, Allergies, Insomnia, Chemical/Noise/Light sensitivity, Trichotilomania, Glandular Fever, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, Mild OCD.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie.
 
 


TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 11/17/2008 7:26 AM (GMT -7)   
(((Maz))) how amazing that she came to you for help... obviously she sees in you a trusting, caring soul. Thank you for sharing this with us and I hope that she is getting the help she needs, a step at a time.
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Have taken Prednisone, Pentasa, Rowasa, and Asacol
Currently on Asacol 2400 mg daily to manage remission
 
 

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