Dear Sweet, Wonderful and Witty Maz,
Good Morning my friend. I hope you are doing better. I know your anxiety feeling well. I can not figure out why I am feeling anxious and I really want to do something but the wall slams down in front of me and it is to high to climb over, to long to run around and to thick to punch my way through.
I often wish at time like this that someone was with me who would keep telling me what to do as I feel like I don't know what to do. I do fall back on these:
One of the best simple ways to deal with Anxiety is breathing. Simple things like inhale into your lungs full capacity, hold it, then exhale imagining all of the stress to leave your body with the air that is exhaled. Getting yourself to a quiet calm place is another way to help and be able to breathe. Imagining a beautiful scene in your mind, counting to 100, counting your breath and trying to slow it are all techniques that really do help.
Cold water is often very good for anxiety. Running your wrists under cold water, placing a cold compress at the nape of your neck helps to calm and relax you instantly. It lowers body temperature, and helps focus the mind. Drinking some cool water is also very good.
My prayers are with you and know you are never alone.
Special Hugs to you my friend.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
You guys are the best! i SO knew i could count on you for support! Kitt- i drank some cold water and before i knew it, family had arrived and i was ok. i also took my Xanax earlier than i normally do and that helped. I also did my breathing exercises religiously, they are the most sure fire way to calm the crazy in me. I ALWAYS, no matter where i am, since i was diagnosed at 14, sit at the end of the table so i dont feel trapped, and can get up and leave without any fuss if i need to, but the nerves settled down- and i enjoyed myself. i also didnt eat too much because i tend to panic if i stuff myself, i find it harder to breathe and sit there thinking about vomiting, so i eat cautiously, but i enjoy myself. (trust me- with my 'Zoloft weight' as i refer to it, i can afford to eat carefully!)
why does this happen when you least expect it? (i know the answer- there is NO rhyme or reason with A/P, it has its own twisted sense of timing) it just jumped at me out of the blue and that old, unwanted yet highly familiar feeling set in and so did the dread that accompanies it. i said a prayer, a very long prayer and began slowing my breathing and focusing on the fact that anxiety will NOT hurt me, i simply wont let it, when i realised i wanted to go straight to HW and to my HW family and share with them cos i KNOW they are superstars who understand and would know what to say- and i was right!
Ben, Junebug- thankyou for your kind words and thoughts- helped more than you know. Kitt- you are super sweet and so practical, your advice never fails and i just thank you, you are such a gem and your words make a huge difference. you are so amazingly supportive and in tune with the needs of others. im so very grateful to have come to know you. your optimism is contagious! XX Mary: precious Mary, you made me laugh so much! you had better put your teeth back in, i have leftovers and mum made the most amazing Raspberry, White Chocolate and Macadamia Torte which is a slice of heaven. oh i wish i had super stretchy arms to send some your way. how bout i have it for you?
Thankyou everyone for letting me collapse here and say 'im struggling' without fear of judgement. There is power in community and we have the power here. XX
Cake, did you say cake? You are my heroine today. You faced the anxiety and whooped it's behind.
I am so proud of you.............you are truly winning out over the anxiety.
One of the best remedies for anxiety is to talk about it. Here's where good friends and family can come in. The old adage "A problem shared is a problem halved"
Sweetie, sorry I am so busy..but thinking of you. I hope you have not got any friends in bris-vegas who are in trouble?
Love, Meg..be back soon!!! two exams to dust off..
Meg, i DO have some friends who are roughing it out up in brissy- im just praying they stay safe and no one gets hurt. the weather in sydney today is nuts, its snowing on the blue mountains (which are in my back yard, great view of them) weve had hail, and the wind has cut the power and knocked down trees, powerlines etc. i hate to think what they are facing up there, with all the property damage, must be sooo scary. its only 18 degrees today, and more of the same forecast for tomorrow. p.s what are you studying? are you at uni?
thanks Sam and Kitt as well, i struggled some more with anxiety attacks today, but i managed to not let it turn into full blown panic, which is an immense relief, im not sure why i have all this anxiety lingering at the moment, its just a general feeling of fear and nausea mixed with a bit of frustration, as i havent been panicky for ages and i was hoping to keep it that way.
Sam, my eye has improved heaps, however i still have migraine type pain behind the actual eye, and referred to my jaw and ear on the left which is super painful. using prescription meds for that. i WILL be back at work on monday, someone has to keep those teenagers in line! (which is ironic, cos i still feel 17 at the most?). cant believe i feel like a spent old lady at the age of 28.
much love to you guys, my HW family. there is no place like home XX
Just wanted to let you know that Toto is at my house and that yellow brick road has lots of bends and switch backs. Like anxiety it is not a nice straight freeway but you will always be ok. Your a wonderful and gentle person.
Remember we can learn to value ourselves in spite of feeling anxious. . . As adults we often believe we must continually justify our place in the world, that we have to somehow prove to other people that we are , extremely self confident and worthy of their esteem . We will spend excessive amounts of time feeling anxious and afraid that we won’t meet other people expectation and we lose sight of the basic fact that we are usually all right just as we are, in spite of the fact that we are not perfect.
Love you my friend and know I believe in you.
I am so with your on desserts.........bring them on. Oh shame on me.
Hi Betsy, im struggling a bit- middle ear infection with referred pain to eye and jaw. migraine as well, although its decreasing with pain meds. mostly just exhausted, busiest time of year for teachers, very hectic!
Thankyou so much for caring, i hope you are super well!
Maz, that sounds painful. Do take gentle care of yourself..and do not go into work on monday if you feel like this. I know the weather is nuts right now..remember to put your sanity before all else. Better to take a day or two off than to perform badly at work and then kick oneself in proverbial nuts for days.
Respect yourself as we at HW certainly do.
Have you seen the carpet yet???!! Where should we take them first? Toad racing? lol!!!!