Good Morning Ben,
I know your right in the middle of working hard at learning to deal with the anxiety but I agree that going to a party and being exposed to alcohol is not in your best interest.
The day will come when you will be able to go and have the strength to stay away from the alcohol and just drink soda,sparkling wate, coffee or whatever.
Do not give in to this today.
The key to switching out of an anxiety state is to accept it fully. Remaining in the present and accepting your anxiety cause it to disappear.
A: Accept the anxiety. Welcome it. Don’t fight it. Replace your rejection, anger, and hatred of it with acceptance. By resisting, you’re prolonging the unpleasantness of it. Instead, flow with it. Don’t make it responsible for how you think, feel, and act.
You know that I am here and that I support you so don't let it take over your life. Remember you have anxiety, it does not have you.
Gentle Hugs Carpet Man,
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 11/22/2008 10:00:06 AM (GMT-7)
FYI I am in anxiety mode and trying to deal with it and it is all about my leaving my comfort zone. I am invited out for dinner tonight but the trick is I have to drive into downtown Minneapolis. I would rather do cartwheels at the mall. I immediately feel frightened and want to cry but I know I have to face this as it seems to be my life.
I am not good at saying no and this is my sister with the cancer.
So I know you will make it through today and many days, weeks and months ahead.
Take my hand and we will fight the anxiety together.
Big squishy hugs.
thinking of you ben, sorry you are going through this. it will pass, sending positive vibes and peace your way,
Good Morning Ben ,
I hope you are feeling well today and you have left the thoughts of feeling bad for not going to the party last night in the past.
Difficulty in managing stress is the most confusing and aggravating part of alochol withdrawal. Recovering people are often unable to distinguish between low-stress situations and high-stress situations. They may not recognize low levels of stress, and then overreact when they become aware of the stress they are experiencing. They may feel stressful in situations that ordinarily would not bother them, and in addition, when they react they overreact. They may do things that are completely inappropriate for the situation. So much so that later on they may wonder why they reacted so strongly.
When I drank more regularly, I too would drink until I was drunk everytime. Then I would do things that were embarassing. Sometimes I didn't even remember what I did and someone had to tell me. These things ranged from smoking (which I didn't normally do) and leaving a lit cigarette in the backseat of my friends car and the seat burned up overnight; telling a girlfriend that her boyfriend was calling another one of our friends; spending nights in places where I should not have been, and after I was married coming on to other men even with my husband nearby. On our first night in our newly built home 15 years ago, I drank so much wine that I threw up twice on our brand new carpet. My point in saying all this is that each time I killed brain cells which caused me to be more depressed for the next 2-3 days and often didn't recall what I'd done, which caused me increased anxiety until I could figure out who I'm pixxed off or hurt while I was drunk then try to make amends. I'd say, if at all possible, stay away from alcohol. I know it's easier said than done, I should have stopped long before I did. Having pretty much stopped drinking now, at least I know alcohol doesn't contribute to my depression, mania, or anxiety.
Edited to add: I also drove dozens of times and didn't remember driving. Bad news. There were many opportunities for me to kill or be killed. Some One was watching over me. And afterward, always felt more depressed and very anxious.
Post Edited (Georgie Girl) : 11/24/2008 4:49:00 PM (GMT-7)