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Hibee
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   Posted 11/22/2008 8:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all

some friends of mine are having a party tonight and want me to go. Just the thought of this has made my anxiety go through the roof i have said i can not go and i feel i am letting them down. Only my close friends now about my GAD and i think they sometimes find it hard to understand why i wont come.

when i do go out socially i tend to binge drink and once i start i find it hard to stop, when i drink i find my anxiety gets less but if i go out and dont drink i know i will be heading for the nearest exit and will be looking for an excuse to leave as my anxiety and paranoia will be high. This last few weeks i have been avoiding social gatherings for this reason as i know i should not really be drinking with the medication i am taking. I find this depressing as i feel that my GAD is controlling my life and wish that i could go out and be social and not have all the anxious feelings to deal with. I learnt through therapy that i feed my anxiety and i need to try and learn how to control it better but im finding it hard to do this which is really getting me down. I am a bit all over the place at the moment which might be down to all the med changes i am doing at the moment.

I really hope that over the coming months i can learn how to control these feelings and be able to get them to a level were they dont intrude on my life so much GAD really does suck and i wish i did not have it. I am going back to see mental health team on Tues so maybe i might be able to get some more therapy. I was on the moodgym website today which is a free CBT course and completed the first stage and found it useful (thanks Meg for the link).

It seems to be an endless battle with my mind and the smallest/stupidest things seem to really knock me down which is frustrating. It would be great to hear from other members who are in a similar situation and find out how you deal with these issues? I do try all the breathing techniques and find this can help to reduce the anxiety but what i really want to do is be able to break the cycle of anxiety before the anxiety gets really bad.



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   Posted 11/22/2008 8:43 AM (GMT -7)   
cry ..My sweet friend
.......Take my hand and others as well
WE will get you thru this.......
idea
YOU are making good choices even though you are going thru med changes
I believe in my heart you need to open up and be TOTALLY honest with one of your best friends about the drinking and your meds.......Ask them to keep it to self up until YOU have the energy and resolve to do it yourself
IMHO it is too early to tell all .......YOU have to be at that point and NO one can tell you when only you ...........
 
My experience was I would get well " one wont hurt ya" lil did they know I could never STOP at one nono
I was the best dang drinker around ........
 
This dang disease will take you for all you have and couple that with meds and booze and it is a bigger problem then just being an alcoholic.....you feel like a failure
A let down to your friends and to self right?
 
WELL dont you are doing this for self and you will still have the friends that are truly yours at the end of all this
IF you must tell a lil white lie with fingers crossed ( I dont condone this all the time BUT sometimes we have to do what we have to do )for personal safety and health related issues
BEN you are doing great and I know just ho hard this is
I really wish we could all hold your hand right now
WE ARE GOING TO BE HERE......KNOW THAT..........
 
Loves your friend and sober Canuck
 
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   Posted 11/22/2008 8:45 AM (GMT -7)   
BTW I do moodgym and also use other self help tech's too such as breathing and relaxation.......
Do you like to walk out in the air or do anything that would take mind off of tonight and please
FEEL NO GUILT.......
.Love
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   Posted 11/22/2008 9:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Ben,

I know your right in the middle of working hard at learning to deal with the anxiety but I agree that going to a party and being exposed to alcohol is not in your best interest.

The day will come when you will be able to go and have the strength to stay away from the alcohol and just drink soda,sparkling wate, coffee or whatever.

Do not give in to this today.

Be Aware

The key to switching out of an anxiety state is to accept it fully. Remaining in the present and accepting your anxiety cause it to disappear.

A: Accept the anxiety. Welcome it. Don’t fight it. Replace your rejection, anger, and hatred of it with acceptance. By resisting, you’re prolonging the unpleasantness of it. Instead, flow with it. Don’t make it responsible for how you think, feel, and act.

W: Watch your anxiety. Look at it without judgment – not good, not bad. Rate it on a 0-to-10 scale and watch it go up and down. Be detached. Remember, you’re not your anxiety. The more you can separate yourself from the experience, the more you can just watch it.

A: Act with the anxiety. Act as if you aren’t anxious. Function with it. Slow down if you have to, but keep going. Breathe slowly and normally. If you run from the situation your anxiety will go down, but your fear will go up. If you stay, both your anxiety and your fear will go down.

R: Repeat the steps. Continue to accept your anxiety, watch it, and act with it until it goes down to a comfortable level. And it will. Just keep repeating these three steps: accept, watch, and act with it.

E: Expect the best. What you fear the most rarely happens. Recognize that a certain amount of anxiety is normal. By expecting future anxiety you’re putting yourself in a good position to accept it when it comes again.

You know that I am here and that I support you so don't let it take over your life. Remember you have anxiety, it does not have you.

Gentle Hugs Carpet Man,

Kitt


 

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   Posted 11/22/2008 9:31 AM (GMT -7)   
.Ben as you can see we are worried about you and we DO really care about you and hope you know we are NOT preaching at you but lovingly giving you our input

Love

big sis n lil sis
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stkitt
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   Posted 11/22/2008 9:51 AM (GMT -7)   

Ben,

FYI I am in anxiety mode and trying to deal with it and it is all about my leaving my comfort zone.  I am invited out for dinner tonight but the trick is I have to drive into downtown Minneapolis.  I would rather do cartwheels at the mall. I  immediately feel frightened and want to cry but I know I have to face this as it seems to be my life.

I am not good at saying no and this is my sister with the cancer.

So I know you will make it through today and many days, weeks and months ahead.

Take my hand and we will fight the anxiety together.

Big squishy hugs.

Kitt


 

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Hibee
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   Posted 11/22/2008 10:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Ladies

You have both given me so much good advice and i do listen to you both. It means a lot to me that you take time out off your personal time to reply to my posts. I really do want to goto this party and i do feel bad saying i cant go i just hope they understand what im going through at the moment. My emotions are very up and down at the moment and i am feeling drained, i wish i could wave a magic wand and every thing would get better but i know i have a lot of hard work ahead. I need to make some big changes in the future to try and beat this GAD, i know i may always have these feelings but if i can manage them to a reasonable level i think i would feel so much better. I do have goals and have taken your advice from past posts and written these down.

My mind is always active and i have all these anxious thoughts running through my head which i find hard to switch off some of the things i know i should not be anxious about and are just every day to day things but i seem to blow them out of proportion and make myself stressed why do i do this to myself?

I do value friendship a lot and really hope i dont loose any friends, I sometimes feel quite alone and can struggle meeting new people i would love to meet someone and spend the rest off my life with them but feel unable to do this at the moment maybe this should go on my goals list.

Kitt and Lyn thank you both you have made me feel part of the HW family and you always give me good advice its good to know i can come on hear and wright down whats on my mind which is helpful. I also like to help others as well and together we can all help each other. Lyn get better soon my thoughts are with you, Kitt thanks for being there and thanks for teaching me how to fly the magic carpet you are a great co-pilot.

Hibee
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   Posted 11/22/2008 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt

I can relate to what you say re comfort zones and yes i will take your hand and we can beat this together, i to find it hard to say no i hope every thing goes smoothly for you today take care Kitt.

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   Posted 11/22/2008 10:44 AM (GMT -7)   
My friend
That feeling or feelings you are having they honestly do go away and I know you will get to a good space in your life where you can tell this bleeding beast just where to go
YES we all have fallback with anxiety and it is normal
BUT you are fighting all the way Ben and I am so PROUD of you
Now you are going into more details and saying more to us in posts
'YOU are learning to trust in us and that is a good thing IMHO

AND you know we are all truly here for you ...........

ANYTIME ya need me ..........Us ........you know what to do k

Love
AND Pride.....
Strength and
Wisdom.....
I got your other hand Lil sis and yours too Ben
One day at a Time my friend........
Lil sis you wil make it you are strong.....

Love
LYN...
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   Posted 11/22/2008 11:29 AM (GMT -7)   
The best of luck to you Ben. . . I'm going through the same thing myself with my friends, and I'm only 3 months sober. It is hard to do, and I finally had to care less about what everyone else thought, told them the truth, and am working on taking care of myself first and foremost. Take care :)
Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort :)
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   Posted 11/22/2008 12:01 PM (GMT -7)   
smilewinkgrin ......Sam.........So proud of you .......
Sis in Sobriety
 
  smilewinkgrin     Nikki...........Kudos to you as well ..
   Sis in Sobriety
 
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..........One day at a TIME we can do it .........Love
 
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   Posted 11/22/2008 12:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi All

Thanks so much for your posts it really does help me to read them. This really is a tough time i do miss alcohol as i found it a good way to relax and as i said i find that my anxiety goes and i can enjoy myself when im out rather than suffer bad anxiety and paranoia when out in social situations, but on the other side i new it was making me worse and the next day was hell really paranoid and loads of anxiety. Since swapping to Effexor 3 weeks ago i have avoided going out were i know i will be tempted to have a drink i feel depressed about this because i feel i am missing out.

When i do drink there is no stopping me and i am known for getting very drunk i used to drink very quickly to keep on top of the anxiety and i often spent over £100 on booze. Until a couple off weeks ago i was drinking whilst on the medications which cant of done me any good, i told my doctor and he was shocked and advised me i must stop whilst on the medications and pointed out that alcohol is a depressant and it will be making my symptoms worse.

I have suffered with anxiety for most of my life but was only diagnosed with GAD & Depression about 1 and half yrs ago. At the time i was relieved and felt a big weight had been taken off my shoulders and was feeling positive that i could beat this illness and expected it to just go once i started on medication and had some therapy but here i am and still having problems. Through speaking to people at HW i have relised that it takes small steps to big improvement and i am trying to stay positive. I think its going to take a long time before i feel comfortable in social situations with out drinking but hope that some day i will be able to do this. I do know that over the years i have developed a lot of coping skills or should i say avoidance skills and it will take a while to unravel all these cycles of anxiety and depression.

Lyn thanks for your kind words you really have helped me i must repay the favor, get well soon.

Sam thanks for your post if i can be of any help just let me know i hope we can beat this together. I know how hard it is and my thoughts are with you.

Nikki thanks for your advice what you say is right and i hope i can learn some good coping skills so that i can have control and not the anxiety. What you say does make sense and your right about alcohol not being a coping skill. I have taken note off Lucinda Basset centre and will look that up. Thanks again Nikki i really do appreciate your help and advice.

I have just spoke to my brother and we are off to the pictures to try and take my mind of things

Thank You All

Ben



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   Posted 11/22/2008 4:38 PM (GMT -7)   

thinking of you ben, sorry you are going through this. it will pass, sending positive vibes and peace your way,

Maz XX


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   Posted 11/22/2008 6:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Ben,

I am proud of you for knowing and acting on what you need right now. It's so disappointing to have to miss out on things you enjoy, but, as you point out, you wouldn't really be enjoying the event, at least not right now. I don't mean that you should let your anxiety rule your life, but rather that you're smart to know that you and alcohol and parties are not a good mix. I agree that after you've had the chance for your medications to settle, you'll learn how to go to parties and have fun without overdoing it with alcohol.

And your true friends will certainly stick by you. They would never let a (healthy!) change in your habits or your needs interfere with caring about you.

We're here for you, too.

percycat

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   Posted 11/23/2008 4:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi

Percycat and Maz thanks for your support. You are wright percycat it is disappointing to have to miss out on things which i enjoy and i find that hard i just hope that over the coming months i can work towards achieving my goals and reduce the symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Im feeling very spaced out today did not get much sleep and i have a sick feeling and tightness in the chest could this be down to an increase in my medication? went from 75mg to 150mg of Effexor day before yesterday.

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   Posted 11/23/2008 5:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Ben,

I don't know anything about Effexor. When I've increased my Paxil - or decreased - for that matter, I've sometimes had the spaciness for a couple of days.

percycat

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   Posted 11/23/2008 9:09 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Ben ,

I hope you are feeling well today and you have left the thoughts of feeling bad for not going to the party last night in the past.

Difficulty in managing stress is the most confusing and aggravating part of alochol withdrawal. Recovering people are often unable to distinguish between low-stress situations and high-stress situations. They may not recognize low levels of stress, and then overreact when they become aware of the stress they are experiencing. They may feel stressful in situations that ordinarily would not bother them, and in addition, when they react they overreact. They may do things that are completely inappropriate for the situation. So much so that later on they may wonder why they reacted so strongly.

You may be going through some of this as the alcohol is detoxing from your body. 
 
How about AA meetings, I know of them but I also believe you need to find a good group that is organized well.
Imagine what it would be like if you could finally get control of your life again. Think of all the wonderful things you would be able to enjoy again.
 
Overcoming alcoholism is about changing your life in ways that sustain you without your drug of choice.
 
Ben, you have my support and I know you realize this is something you have to do for you.  I believe you have the power and the strength to do this, to learn how to change how you feel and love yourself.  Be proud of who you are and never apologize for being you.  You are a super hero...........my Ben the Carpet Pilot.
You go big guy. Remember we are all concerned about your health and with Lyn as your mentor you cannot go wrong.  She is the best. :)
Gentle Hugs
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Hibee
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   Posted 11/23/2008 10:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi

Kitt you really do make sense, i do overreact to low levels of stress which causes me to get depressed later when i think how i reacted to the situation. I know this is something i need to work on. I would not say that i was an alcoholic but when i drink i binge drink which is probably just as bad. At the moment i dont think i could go out and just have a few beers it would be lots of beers to deal with the anxiety.

I seem to be really hard on myself at the moment and i am getting frustrated with myself that i cant control these feelings of anxiety/depression. i just feel stuck in a rut at the moment things dont seem to be going my way not enjoying my work anymore which saddens me as i used to love my work but know i just want the day to be over so i can come home. I am also getting frustrated with the meds in that i have not found an AD which seems to help and wonder why? I also have a lot of anger building up and completly overreact to things and take this out on my brother who does not deserve that. I fear criticism and react badly to this which i think is down to a lack of confidence in myself and also feeling very sensative to things at the moment and my mood and anxiety are all over the place.

i really do want to be able to deal with social gatherings and talk to people freely without anxiety and without being to drunk. You are right Kitt i do need to make some changes and realize this is down to me, Thanks kitt for your support

Hibee
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   Posted 11/23/2008 2:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Justbreath

Thanks, i agree with you and kitt about having to find other ways of managing my GAD in other ways which is something i have not done in the past hence my abuse of alcohol and other substances. Its going to be hard with the festive season coming up, most of my friends drink and on one hand i just want to go out and enjoy myself and forget all my worries just for that little while but on the other hand i know i should not go as at the moment i cant control how much i drink which in the long run is going to cause me more problems. I do find this hard as i am struggling to manage my anxiety and mood which is frustrating as i did learn in therapy ways of doing this but finding it very difficult to implement those techniques as i dont seem to get any warning and the next thing a know my anxiety takes over. You are right and i must practice these coping skills and its good to hear from people who have been through the same and managed to control your anxiety so i know it can be done.

I am seeing my clinical phycologist & phychiatrist on Tues who i have not seen since i finished my last course of therapy and will be able to chat things through with them.

Thanks so much guys for all your posts i really appreciate it, HealingWell is a great place with great members.

Ben

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   Posted 11/23/2008 4:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Ben,

I'm just sending some positive thoughts and prayers your way. You are understanding so much about how you function, and how your anxiety grabs you. With that kind of knowledge working for you, you'll BEAT this thing. It will just take time, and being patient with yourself when the guilt-ridden "stinkin' thinkin'" comes knocking. Feeling beaten is natural when we battle anxiety every single day, but it does not mean you're losing the war.

Hugs,
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   Posted 11/23/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   
BEN
YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB..........KEEP THAT IN YOUR MIND

Some anxiety will disapate soon it takes time.....

YOU are making a heck of a lot of GOOD decisions and thinking right
albeit you might think some is off the wall.........
I think if you did have someone that was in AA or a friend
who didnt drink to talk to especially with festivities coming up on us pretty fast...
IT could help IF you want that .......

I KNOW I WILL be here for you as others will
The holidays were so hard when I first quit
Got lotsa tips on that one for ya hun.....
Then the next one I was better equipped mentally and emotionally
I use to walk around with a glass of Eggnog plain and anyone that was my friend KNEW I wasnt drinking
I had gotten also to the point where I diodnt care what they thought anyway
I KNEW it was for my life .......I wasnt drinking

I am going to do a thread on this very subject anxiety and all the issues that come up during Holidays ......Tomorrow am

I can be the toast of the party and have a great time .......YOU can acheive anything I believe that Ben....
Have a Good Night my friend and KNOW you are so cared about from all here
Love
LYN
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Hibee
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   Posted 11/24/2008 3:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Guys

Really suffering with the new med and side affects feeling a bit sick and not eating much. Thanks for your words of support guys going to find this festive season very hard going i think as all my friends drink so i think it will be a real test not to drink. I have a rep for being a drinker and when i was drinking i got quite wild due to the amount i would put away. As i have said before only my closest friends now about my GAD and Depression as i dont want many people to find out i suppose i am embarrassed buy it. Maybe i should be a bit more open and try to explain to people why i am not being as social at the moment. Its something i find hard to talk about to people i think i fear what they will think off me. I was asked to day buy someone why i did not goto party at the weekend and i just became anxious and had to walk away angd got bit teary i hate it when this happens. When i get anxious whilst speaking to someone i get worried that they can see me anxious and i end up walking of, this is one of the things i hate most about anxiety because it is such a powerful feeling i dont know how i will react to it. I suppose the coping skills are a way of dealing with this and i must practice them.

Lyn it would be good to hear some of those tips. Percycat thanks for your post.

Ben

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   Posted 11/24/2008 4:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Ben My friend
I will send you an email in the morning okay

I was going to do a thread on some
things today but have had a bad day a really rough one

Coping skills are needed for sure and so is knowing
who and what friends to tell your issues to IMHO
BUT you have to be comfortable in doing this as well

Right now you are working on Ben and it is hard hun
I know and others know
WE are here never foget that and many of all can really give you ideas
I do have a few up the old sleeve..lol

With the coming of Holidays I believe we are all gonna need some coping skills whether its drinking or not ya know ........

Take care and I will yak at you tomorrow

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   Posted 11/24/2008 4:12 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Ben

When I drank more regularly, I too would drink until I was drunk everytime.  Then I would do things that were embarassing. Sometimes I didn't even remember what I did and someone had to tell me.  These things ranged from smoking (which I didn't normally do) and leaving a lit cigarette in the backseat of my friends car and the seat burned up overnight; telling a girlfriend that her boyfriend was calling another one of our friends; spending nights in places where I should not have been, and after I was married coming on to other men even with my husband nearby.  On our first night in our newly built home 15 years ago, I drank so much wine that I threw up twice on our brand new carpet.  My point in saying all this is that each time I killed brain cells which caused me to be more depressed for the next 2-3 days and often didn't recall what I'd done, which caused me increased anxiety until I could figure out who I'm pixxed off or hurt while I was drunk then try to make amends.  I'd say, if at all possible, stay away from alcohol.  I know it's easier said than done, I should have stopped long before I did.  Having pretty much stopped drinking now, at least I know alcohol doesn't contribute to my depression, mania, or anxiety.

Edited to add:  I also drove dozens of times and didn't remember driving.  Bad news.  There were many opportunities for me to kill or be killed.  Some One was watching over me.  And afterward, always felt more depressed and very anxious.

GG


Georgie Girl

Post Edited (Georgie Girl) : 11/24/2008 4:49:00 PM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 11/24/2008 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   
OH man the amount of blackouts I had were outrages
I once drove down a highway the 401 going wrong way

I have hitchiked when drunk and never gave a thought to my safety

It is amazing I am still alive
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