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stkitt
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   Posted 11/24/2008 6:38 PM (GMT -7)   
How to Beat Holiday Stress.  Erveryone join in and contribute your thoughts, practices and how you will make 2008 a peaceful Holiday Season.
 
Preparing feasts, attending parties and shopping obsessively can place even the most even-keeled under pressure. rolleyes

Later this month, many will begin preparing holiday feasts, attending parties and shopping obsessively for the perfect presents, all while counting blessings and enjoying the company of family and friends.

Millions will also spend it focused on reducing stress instead of spreading cheer.

From long lines to even longer lists, there are numerous opportunities to become mired in holiday strain, but experts say it can be overcome by tailoring festivities to your liking, as opposed to mimicking the grandiose displays reflected .

It's easy to get caught up in the enthusiasm of the holidays. However, if you don't take time for yourself, you'll quickly get burnt out and stressed out. Give yourself the gift of "alone" time. Fifteen minutes of solitude, without any distractions, may refresh you enough to handle the tasks at hand. Take a walk, listen to calming music, or meditate, or as I do, come here and post your feelings and thoughts as this is your private spot.

I have given up guilt and found I feel oh so much better during the holidays.  Bakers Square makes good pies and so it goes.  I cooked the huge meal every Christmas for 32 years and then I decided it is my family I was to spend time with not who makes the best green bean
casserole.

Share with us ways to remain in the moment during the holidays.

Loves,

Kitt


 

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racer x
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   Posted 11/24/2008 8:40 PM (GMT -7)   
The holidays---------------- yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh of course trying to relax at this time of year is hard, but dont forget to find a little time for yourselves, and have a great time this holiday season, giant hugs to allllllllllllllllllllllllllll

Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/25/2008 5:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Apparently I will be doing a supper for a bunch of adults and GK's .....

I dont mind I love to cook
I am okay as long as I do stay focused and I dont like Holiday fights
PUT them aside and have the memories instead.........

Will be back with more I am sure

Big sis out with love
Great Thread idea lil sis
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stkitt
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   Posted 11/25/2008 5:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Come on Everyone, Let's get into the right mindset going into the holidays so we are not crushed if something goes wrong or everything goe perfect.
 
We discuss daily what is wrong and how we feel sad so now is the time to stand up and make a plan to avoid getting struck by Anxiety and Panic Attacks now.
 
It will be a harder year because of the economy but I can easily get into making Christmas about love and children and pumpkin pie
 
What R You going to do ?
 
Holiday Blessings 
Kitt
 

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TeacherBetsy
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   Posted 11/26/2008 7:09 PM (GMT -7)   
This may help others here who have trouble with Christmas shopping. I find it very hard to get into big crowds in stores, wait in long lines, etc. It makes me extremely nervous. What I did this year was buy my gifts before Thanksgiving, something I have not done before. I know it won't work for everyone, I have only a few people to buy for, but it helped me to get that out of the way. Even if you have not started yet, consider going to smaller stores instead of those big department stores that can be so overwhelming with activity... I try to stay with small discount stores and places where I shop regularly so I am not so overwhelmed with the task. I also set a spending limit so I do not spend more than I can afford. I hope this helps others who dread the shopping part of it all!

Betsy
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/27/2008 1:26 PM (GMT -7)   
.I have already got almost ALL of Cat's shopping done
All I have to get her is a new cellphone for her big present
Now I will be going to friends from the 20 overnight a
nd having their Family Christmas with them
To my sisters in Port for Christams Eve....
Mom's tradition we are keeping going

THEN I guess somewhere in there I have Howies kids and GK's coming here lol
I will be turkied out but then I am determined not to let this get to me

I will fight this dd each way I can .........

I also volunteeered to Christmas Hampers for the less fortunate and that makes me feel good and useful
I have done this many yrs and I always walk away feeling good especially seeing the relief and happiness in a Mom or Dad's eye that there will be CHRISTMAS after all

Cait and I like to go to the senoir home and talk with the residents that have no family..
Pulls on the ole heart it does ......
THEY just love it

C'Mon how bout some more ppl
Theses are good things lol
I will be posting what angsts me lol
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   Posted 11/27/2008 1:27 PM (GMT -7)   
..........Just say 'Merry Christmas "
to that lil ole Lady who looks so lonely and sad.. smilewinkgrin
Your heart will fill with love and spirit of the season
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Buddha443556
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   Posted 11/28/2008 1:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Personally, I'm going to try sleeping through this holiday season. Merry Christmas ... wake me when it's over.

Hugs,
Buddha
You must do the things you think you cannot do. -- Eleanor Roosevelt


stkitt
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   Posted 11/28/2008 2:00 PM (GMT -7)   

Buddha,

My dear friend, you cannot sleep through all the challenges in your life.  I have some great ideas for what you might do.......................

Does your salvation army serve Christmas Dinners to all.  You could volunteer there and see the greatful looks on the faces of the homeless.

It is time to climb out of the dark hole.  Join us.

Hugs

Kitt


 

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Green Grove
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   Posted 11/28/2008 3:59 PM (GMT -7)   
One of my anxiety triggers is "perfectionism" or a.k.a. OCD :) I am really working hard on conquering this problem for the past several years, and I'm have made leaps and bounds :) The holidays used to really stress me out, with the "perfect" decorations, food, presents, pleasing everyone. . . but I was not being please or having fun myself. . . Well I finally quit, do what I can, buy what I am able, and if my house isn't clean, so what. . . Are the people coming to see me or my house? Anyway, the no nonsense approach to the holidays is great, I highly recommend this for everyone. Just let your family and friends know how you stand in a polite way, and have fun. This is what the season is supposed to be about, right?
Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort :)
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   Posted 11/30/2008 4:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I had that SAME prob with OCD but whn it comes to the Holidays I have to let things
"Go whatever Way They Will" lol
Meaning I dont freak about the mess nor noise
I love to see the kids happy and having a good meal.....

I clean after with caits help

I loves when I did Sally ann and thats where I will be again doing the Hampers
Cait is doing Christmas Dinner I believ not certain IF she is picked she wants to do it

TAKE time to say helo to the ppl you bump into or excuse me does go a long long way
I am so happy that Cait will open doors for seniors and help them as well

WE have to Pay It Forward I believe........
Talking to the bestest family I got
Right here....gets me thru everything.............

Love
Big sis
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stkitt
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   Posted 12/1/2008 5:24 PM (GMT -7)   

Well I think my weekend was Holiday stress and today things have calmed down.

I am practicing staying in the moment..................Merry Holidays.............ho ho ho.

Lets hear from more members.

Kitt


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   Posted 12/1/2008 5:36 PM (GMT -7)   

This sounds lame but...

I like to chase the elfs around the shopping mall...keeps me sane! turn

Meg


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stkitt
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   Posted 12/2/2008 2:22 PM (GMT -7)   

I like to sit on Santa's lap and then I can tell him to put coal in my hubbies stocking when he is naughty.

Ho Ho Ho.


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   Posted 12/2/2008 5:29 PM (GMT -7)   
my problem with the holiday season is it is summer here in australia, and it gets REALLY hot. i have seasonal mood disorder and summer agitates the heck out of me. i live for winter  (which i know is uncommon for people with SAD, but thats the way it is for me) and i get overwhelmed by going out and seeing everyone cos im still quite agoraphobic...

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   Posted 12/2/2008 7:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I've picked up some great ideas..
thanks all..
 
Maz..we need to send you down to Tasmania, or build you an igloo. Has school term broken up for you yet? At least you can escape the heat from that un-airconditioned classroom. I find keeping ice handy, and putting it in a bucket, along with my feet is helpful in the heat. I live just across from the ocean so some days me & my BF just sit in the water up to our necks and chat until we go pruny...just a couple of ideas!
 
I have already had my x-mas test. On Monday where I volunteer we had a party for all the people in my group and their partners (40!) and I managed to feed them all with fruit, cheese, chocolate (of course) and mini meat pies. It went really positively and I feel like I can cope with the rest that this season throws at me. Plus I'm really handy with a cheese knife now.
 
I wish you all an exciting but sane december. Remember, its about having fun, celebrating and giving. Not the amount or expense of presents you have to buy.
 
Meg
 
 
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/5/2008 7:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Great ideas all

I love making crafts and doing them with Cait

I have been volunteering today taking names for the
Christmas Hampers

It sure fills your heart when you know you are helping others
AND keeps your mind occupied as well

Luvs to all

LYN
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Spent last night putting up the Christmas tree and all the lights on it
Tonight we are finishing the decorating .........

I was again volunteering and I just love the feeling I get when I see ppl a bit more happier when leaving then when they came out ...........

A sad fact is a 2 ppl income family is now using food banks and other resources to make the bills and have food in the house

NO it is not the price oif gift it is the meaning and the thought put into giftIMHO
Thats why Cait and I make alot of homemade gifts for ppl
I know I love getting them as you know they are made with lots of love and care as well as thought.............LYN
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   Posted 12/8/2008 7:05 PM (GMT -7)   

Meg,

I never thought about chasing the elves around the Mall.  Kitt, I actually did sit on Santa's lap two years ago and had my picture taken with him and I actually framed it and gave it to my twin sis as a Christmas present.  She loved it.

This year my family has decided it is really all about the kids and presents.  We adults have enough "stuff" so are foregoing the gift exchange stuff this year as money is tight for me and the rest of the family actually went along with me requesting we put the adults gift exchange on hold.

I know a few of the adults were kinda bumbed about it but they all have spouses so will still be getting presents.  To me it's not about presents.

I have actually been for the last two months working on writing special poems and/or a letter to each member of my family as a special Christmas surprise.  I don't know if people will appreciate them or what but I really want to voice to each adult member of my family what they mean to me and why.  That is what Christmas is about to me.

Great thread by the way.


Diane
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stkitt
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   Posted 12/8/2008 10:00 PM (GMT -7)   

Diane,

Great post. Christmas is about the children and families and caring about others. Your family is right on track.

The wreath has significant meaning for the season. It's circular shape represents eternity, for it has no beginning and no end.

Today, it is sometimes hard to remember the real meaning of Christmas. We get all caught up in the hype of Santa and his arrival. The wreath over the hearth brings a warmth to our hearts as we stop to reflect upon the true meaning of this very special day.

Whenever I look at a wreath I will think of each of you with special thoughts and prayers for a peaceful holiday.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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