Thanks Sam, its amazing how narrow minded people can be- especially when its a 'supposed' friend. Like you said, I too eat very carefully cos i cant excercise- im on a program where they deliver the calorie & portion controlled food to your house (it costs a pretty penny) but im losing a steady, consistent 1kg a week, so it is worth it. yeah im not morbidly obese either, i think its because i spent the majority of my life being underweight, that my weight gain seems more mammoth than it really is. it truly amazes me how many people have put their 2 cents in about my weight, they just come right out and say it, as if im not aware of it? its times like these i am grateful i have height on my side as it stretches the chubbiness out- im a hair under 6ft which i used to hate, but now embrace!
thanks as always for your kind words of support, my mind boggles that people will place SUCH a huge value on societal norms- they dont understand what it does to people- i teach many students (both male and female) who struggle with body image.
YOU are awesome- have a super relaxing weekend my friend,
I once saw a woman who I hadn't seen in years and she said, "You've put on weight". (So glad she was there to tell me that, I hadn't noticed, ha!) I wanted to say, "But you look just as witchy as you always did!
And oh the meds! At tbe beginning of this year we started Biggest Loser at work and I'd lost 19 lbs when I had a period of anxiety that put me in the hospital, kind of out of my mind for two weeks and out of commision for five weeks. I wouldn't eat or drink and I still lost only 3 more pounds. Left the hospital on 5 different medications and since have gained back all 22 lbs plus 4 or 5. It's sad to have to deal with the weight gain on top of the underlying emotional illness.
Maz, My dear Friend,
You posted "I am acutely aware that my physical appearance has changed. I have mourned and grieved the loss of body confidence " You have taken the words right out of my mouth.
If only the world would look at the person and how wonderful they are instead of only looking at the cover of the book.
AD's are notorious for putting on weight. I have fought a weight problem all my life and now the AD's I started 2 years ago have added a nice 25 pounds and I have trouble leaving the house..........because as you I always run into some bimbo that thinks they have the right to make comments about how I look. I have tried to let it go, but it does cause me to feel very hurt and like a failure. I know better but sometimes you just can't shut off the feelings.
You are beautiful my friend, hold your head up high.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Geepers, what a cruel frenemy that was. You are what you are. I battled anorexia for so many years...and looking like a skeleton did not make me happy..sure..morons appraised me for looking like a skelton but I was miserable.
Be curvy..laugh at all the lassies who pay for boobs!!! Dweebs! You are so beautiful and caring and I know you are gorgeous. Your friend was coming from her own place of insecurity..don't take it on. Let her go home and be miserable!!