Needing some encouragement I think

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   Posted 12/7/2008 9:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Everyone.  Been a while since I've been here.  I've kept up with reading posts but just haven't posted in a long time and really need you alls support and advice and help right now.  I'm having big time anxiety nowadays and it is really getting unbearable.  We are going live with a new computer stuff at work this weekend and unfortunately I have had to call in sick the last 4 days from work due to a virus.  My boss the past three mornings when I called was very sympathetic and understanding and this morning was a total b*#@$.  She reemed me about just about everything possible even knowing how sick I am quoted protocols and rules and now all the sudden today tells me (on a Sunday) that I have to have a doctors note to return to work tomorrow.  Someone could have mentioned this like yesterday don't you think.  To top it all off today she tells me my hours will be changing and that is gonna be a hard thing for me since I pick up my niece and nephew every day at school and work a second job.  Don't you think they could have told me this sooner than today?!!!!!!!  I'm freaking out right now with being sick as it is and now the job change stuff on top of it all.  I just can't get past the fact that the last three days she was so supportive and understanding and today did an about face and was cruel and nasty.  It is not my fault I got sick two days before we were supposed to go live with the new computer system (believe me I would have MUCH RATHER been at work than here sick to the point of feeling like I was dying - LITERALLY feel like I was hit with a locomotive).  I'm sorry if this is long and rambling but my anxiety was already high with being sick and now all this this morning has put me to the edge and I needed to vent.  Thank you for listening.


Anxiety 2007; IBS 2004; Chronic Hives 2002.  Medications:  Allegra, Zantac, Xanax, Darvocet.

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   Posted 12/7/2008 11:36 AM (GMT -6)   


Hello and it is good to hear from you.

I am sorry you are going through a tough time at work and I hope you can get it all worked out. I know different companies have different rules as using sick days so I can't contribute much to why your company is demanding a note from your physician.

I am glad to see you are comfortable coming here and venting.  sometimes just writing it all down makes you feel better as you have shared it with us and do not have to keep going over and over it in your head by yourself.

Hope your feeling better soon.

Gentle Hugs



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   Posted 12/7/2008 1:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Just fyi my job requires a doctors note if I am out longer than 3 days. Could you maybe call your family doc and ask that he fax one in? Also, if you are still so sick maybe it is an infection and you need to get in to see the doc anyways. Hope you get feeling better soon.
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   Posted 12/7/2008 2:22 PM (GMT -6)   

Thanks for your thoughts and advice everyone.  I just talked to my boss again and she says my hours are changing and is not even willing to listen to the other commitments I have going on outside of work.  We all work but we all also have a personal life to deal with and she just isn't willing to listen to the fact that I take care of my sister's kids right now after I get off from my job at 1:30pm and they go with me to my second job after I get them from school.  My boss has been aware forever of what my life revolves around and the fact I have to have a second job to make ends meet but she isn't listening.  On one good note, I did get the doctors return to work and my boss has that so I can go back to work tomorrow.  I did warn my boss that I wouldn't be up to full speed but will be there and ready to work.  Whatever happened to compassion and caring and sympathy.  It is not my fault I got sick (yeh, like I wanted to miss work and stay at home camped out on my bathroom floor for 3 days - NOT).  I just wish I worked with people like you all here who understand feelings.  I understand there has to be rules and protocols and they need to be followed but can't they be followed with some understanding and compassion.  I'm not asking for "oh poor you" or anything like that but a little caring would be nice.  I guess that is too much to ask for from my boss.  Okay, done venting again.


Justbreath:  I also have a "blankie" made by my Grandma and use it when I am sick or needing comfort from the outside world (which is most days).  It is well worn but still holding strong.


Anxiety 2007; IBS 2004; Chronic Hives 2002.  Medications:  Allegra, Zantac, Xanax, Darvocet.

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   Posted 12/7/2008 2:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Ocean, I am sorry that your boss is so unsympathetic. You have lots of responsibilities and at least you had let her know about your illness... some people don't... but you have made the effort to communicate honestly with her about your situation. I like Nanners' idea about having the doctor's office fax in a sick note for you and I'll bet they would do it, or his/her nurse would take care of it for you. In the meantime, take care of yourself, breathe deeply, and come here to vent all you want.

Betsy (-:
Dx Crohn's Disease 1996
Have taken Prednisone, Pentasa, Rowasa, and Asacol
Currently on Asacol 2400 mg daily to manage remission

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