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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/7/2008 3:00 PM (GMT -7)   
nono ......Contrary to some beliefs this is a family forum........
WE come here to talk about what is going on with
our A/P and depression( at times) but yes our families
DO come into our posts many times turn
 
I know I come here and vent or ask input
on how to deal with Cait and her problems as well
as ask about my relationship
My Parents.......How to get thru the deaths ect......
 
If we could not talk about our family
or certain family members than we would really have a problem here IMHO.
 
Post what you NEED to post to help you get thru even
if its about family and the pressures......
The non understanding you get from them and others
OR how your family helps you GET thru the issues you are dealing with smilewinkgrin
 
....Just wanted all to know we are here for you with your family as well .........
 
LYN
 
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


Hibee
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   Posted 12/7/2008 3:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi

Does any one else have this problem, I spent the weekend with my family which was great and my family are very supportive and give as much help to me as they can in regards to dealing with my anxiety. My problem is that i get really anxious and sometimes depressed when i am with my family for no apparent reason this makes me sad as i love my family dearly and i know they love me. This happens to me a lot and also happens with close friends who i should feel within my comfort zone i find this frustrating as i seem to have no control over this and worry that they will notice my anxiety. Anxiety seems to hit in strange ways and i really wish that when i am with people i am close to that i dont have the feelings of anxiety, anxiety can really make life tuff and its a constant battle at the moment.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/7/2008 3:50 PM (GMT -7)   
.....Ben
This was such a common theme with me and my family especially the siblings
They never have gotten what anxiety is or why I am on meds
ALL are agaist them but they do surely drink their share.........LOL

Yes my frind
I am sure I am not the only one here that this has happened to
I used to avoid family gatherings but now

I go and I am who I am .........and I am proud of me ...........

All the best my friend

Your Canuck Good Luck Charm
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


stkitt
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   Posted 12/7/2008 6:02 PM (GMT -7)   

Lusima,

Why are you listening to what others think?  The members here are only giving you their views and if you and your Physician feel you need medication then you make the decision.  We are not professionals.

I take meds, others don't..........works out good for all.

Hugs sweetie,

Kitt


 

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gonuts
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:05 PM (GMT -7)   
I have anxiety... worse than ever!!! I have recently gone off peroxitine. I was put on it because I was exhausted. Turns out it was my thyroid.. it was taken out!!! I have been off of it now for a month or so and the anxiety I feel seems worse than it was before I went on the drug... Now, I am going to the doctor tomorrow about this and my weight problem that was worsened by the thyroid issue... I am afraid to go on any seritonin based drug. It was so difficult to go off of. I am still having brain shocks or zaps. But strange as it is, Since having my menstration, seems to have gotten better. ??? I have recently lost my job, my brother almost died from alcohol abuse and is now home with my mom and dad from out of state.. and we almost lost our niece on my husbands side from being run over by a truck!! I really feel like i am losing control or something.. my own son can't seem to get it together with any of his jobs. and now since his car accident is being sued for non-payment of his charge cards(long story)... ahhhhh!!!!!
Cervical C-5 and C-6 fussion 2004, thyroidectomy 2008,
possible ms or some neurological problem 2007.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for sharing with us
it is good to get it off your chest IMHO
My son cant get it together either and I am not going to enable him anymore
I am done feeling the guilt he lays at my door all the time

Luvs
LYN



Now as to the question why are ppl agaisnt drugs
In my family they saw me on heavy opiates for all the diseases and health isues I have'
Plus they never thought I needed meds for anxiety'
Drink they said....yep to a sober alcoholic since 1979
'NICE EH

AS Kitt said IF your doc wants or thinks you need the meds then do take them........LYN


 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN

Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/8/2008 4:38:35 PM (GMT-7)


gonuts
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   Posted 12/8/2008 2:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so afraid!!! I don't want to lose control of my body in that way ever again!!! I feel like I can't take care of my family when I am on them or off... I am just to laid back when i was on them.. and now I am constantly having fatigue, some nausea and occasional brain shocks. I feel like I will never go back to normal.. not that I was normal but I don't believe the problems were as intense as now.. I am afraid to go back to work... because when I was started on them.. my ignorant x-boss... rudely continued asking me "what's wrong with you!!!" and would stare me in the face... I didn't have a clue as to what she was talking about... only that i couldn't stand her witchy ways about her.and i would have blown up in her face if i said what i felt, so I said nothing.. so now that job was resolved and is no longer a part of the company!! therefor I have no job.. My blood pressure is way down.
Cervical C-5 and C-6 fussion 2004, thyroidectomy 2008,
possible ms or some neurological problem 2007.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/8/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Gonuts

I am not a doctor but I would like to suggest asking doc for
a short term acting med for your anxiety

You do sound like you need something hun to help you thru all of this

I am on Valium as needed and I have had anxiety for 30 plus yrs ...........

Just a suggesstion sweetie

Keep us posted plz...........LYN


 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN

Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/9/2008 10:50:50 AM (GMT-7)


stkitt
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   Posted 12/8/2008 5:51 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey there, good advice from Lyn.  I agree you need to get a good physical from your doctor.  Write down your concerns so you are sure to cover all your issues.  I am so sorry you are having issues.

Take care and feel free to start a thread of you own.

Kitt


 

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It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~
Clickable Link: Anxiety-Panic Resources


gonuts
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   Posted 12/8/2008 8:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all, you are all so wonderful here.. i am so glad i have you all to turn to when life gets ruff!!! and i do have like a short journal i started last week for the doc... tomorrow will hopefully be somewhat of a good day!!! I see my regular physician and my neurologist!!! hey if i don't get back on here soon... Merry Christmas and a Better New Year to all!!!!!!

Many hugs to you all!!!! gonuts
Cervical C-5 and C-6 fussion 2004, thyroidectomy 2008,
possible ms or some neurological problem 2007.


stkitt
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   Posted 12/8/2008 8:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Gonuts.  Happy Holidays to you to.
 
Kitt
 

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& GERD  Forums
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It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~
Clickable Link: Anxiety-Panic Resources


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/9/2008 10:52 AM (GMT -7)   
I hope you do get back and post what doc has to say but if not

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you as well

LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


gonuts
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   Posted 12/12/2008 9:45 AM (GMT -7)   
confused Well, you asked me to respond to my doc appts. Well, I really got nowhere. My neurologist said i have to go to another neurologist because he is handling my compensation case..he is not sure if this is related or not. but he doesn't want them using this against me... my primary doc said to go to my neurologist.. so now i have to wait to see the new neurologist and also the rheumatologist. He also mentioned that shocks can be from fibromyalgia. Does anyone here have that problem? OH. he wants me to get physical therapy for my lumbar/saroiliac area. So, now I wait again for more appts. I am so scared to look for a job right now, because I am scarred I won't be able to handle it... I am a health care biller/ collections. It is a very high stess type job.. when I get stressed that is when my head shocks up again. Although, like I said it seems abit better since my mentral cycle, Which btw is just about nothing these days. I am 45. my mom was done at 47. Well, that is where I stand right now!! Any suggestions I would love to hear them.
Thanks again,
Gonuts
Cervical C-5 and C-6 fussion 2004, thyroidectomy 2008,
possible ms or some neurological problem 2007.


stkitt
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   Posted 12/12/2008 10:42 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning,

Whoaaaaaaa sweetie, it is going to be OK.

Sometimes we get stressed out when everything happens all at once. When this happens, a person should take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem. A person could get some fresh air, listen to some music, or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things.

Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.

One of the best remedies for anxiety is to talk about it. Here's where good friends and family can come in. The old adage "A problem shared is a problem halved"

Look how many you have here on HealingWell to help you through the tough times and to share your thoughts and feelings with.

I understand your feelings about the meds.  How about therapy?

Keep taling to us and know we care.

Hugs

Kitt


 

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& GERD  Forums
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It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~
Clickable Link: Anxiety-Panic Resources


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/12/2008 10:22 PM (GMT -7)   
..........All I can do for you hun is to wish you all the best
And sending thoughts.,healing energy, and Prayers to you
keep posting and let us know whats happening'K

LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


gonuts
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   Posted 12/14/2008 9:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone,
I just wanted again to thank you and i hope i am not being a pain.. but i really have no one else to talk too.. everyone i used to talk to is so preoccupied with there own issues for example: my mom.. she has major issues of her own.. my brother, grandmother lives there too... she was the one and only that I used to talk to... i try to now and she just complains to me without suggestions as to a resolve... So then neither one of us is listening to each other... so much has to be figured out for my brother there is no time for us anymore... mom and i always were each others support... now that is gone. At least for now. The stress at my mom and dads is so high.. everyone just wants to enjoy my brother being there and try to breath again even though it is very difficult... the adjustment in our lives is so extreme for all of us, I don't know if mom and I will ever get back what we had. I really don't want to rock the boat and discuss it because i know the major hill her and my dad are trying to climb and they too have to try and keep their sanity. So I just try as you said kitt go one day at a time.. but know my unemployment is in jeopardy because they sent me a job for insurance (customer service rep) with 6 wks training and if i don't take it I my lose my unemployment payments/// and if i take the job how am i going to all these appts and therapy.. I'm going to go through the same thing i just went through with my last job... mind you i never lost a job before... i usually left for something better. I am thinking the only way to handle it is to be open about my issues and see what they say.. I have to call my recruiter tomorrow at unemployment. I will tell her the same thing... see what happens...
My neurologist mentioned something about getting payments from compensation.. I am not... so he said he will have to look into that... but didn't let me know what the details of getting that would be. I really wonder if all the problems i have besides my anxiety and shocks like my thyroid issues, gastrointestinal (gallbladder removal) exhaustion... cervical,thoracic and lumbar issues are enough to go on disability... i realize that it is very difficult to get, but i really wonder if all the documentation from all the docs i have would be enough.. I am really grasping at straws these days... anyone know the process for disability.

turn gonuts
Cervical C-5 and C-6 fussion 2004, thyroidectomy 2008,
possible ms or some neurological problem 2007.


gonuts
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   Posted 12/14/2008 9:36 AM (GMT -7)   
shocked omg. I hit the wrong thing in my email... I do want replies What do i do to fix my goof up!!? i reselected notify me ... i hope that does it.!!!
Cervical C-5 and C-6 fussion 2004, thyroidectomy 2008,
possible ms or some neurological problem 2007.


stkitt
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   Posted 12/14/2008 11:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Dear Gonuts,

I think you fixed your snafu re replies.  :-)

I am so sorry you are going through this rough time.  I understand about the job anxiety. I too should have looked into using my short term and long term disability from my job but I had no one to talk to and was in such rotten shape at the time, I chose early retirement.  My boss knew what was going on and she never mentioned talking to HR about disablility............I still feel very betrayed that no one came forward and helped me.

So yes do check with your Physician about disability and know it will take a long time and lots of paper work but when you are finally approved, you will be paid back to the date your filed for the disability.

My heart goes out to you and your Mom as I am sure she wishes things could be as they were.

Know we are always here and someone will respond to you so postyour thoughts and fears right here.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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& GERD  Forums
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http://www.healingwell.com/donate *~*
Not a mental health professional of any kind
It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~
Clickable Link: Anxiety-Panic Resources


gonuts
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   Posted 12/14/2008 12:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Kitt thanks so much. Employers stink!! they get away with so much... they are so worried about there companies and forget who helped them to get where they are, mainly because they will rehire and retrain.. Anyway, if you don't mind my asking... how long did it take for you to get ssd. I spoke to others in the lupus forum and they said 4 and 5 years!!! That means you must lose alot that you had and live w/o example: losing your car because you have payments you can't afford anymore... How can i get to my appts then!!! Life can really bring on those lemons. How to make lemonade is the question...?
thoracic and lumbar injury
<FONT color=#ff0000>possible ms or some neurological problem 2007.
cholecystectomy 1999. anxiety.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/22/2008 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
HI there
I had to go in front of the SSD board 3 times
I was retiring from Registered Nursing due to many heath issues
'BUT I am in Ontario so that may not be the same for you

I did end up with a good chunck of monies for waiting lol 10,000 plus which I really did need at the time

I am sure that once this is brought back up to front more will reply
'It was way back on page 6 or 7

LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/22/2008 10:15 AM (GMT -7)   
LIL sis
I have to go to the Hearing aid place as I have to see if they are in and pick up a few small items
I will not be long okay

love ya tons miss ya too

Love
BIG SIS
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


stkitt
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   Posted 12/22/2008 11:55 AM (GMT -7)   

Big sis, I am here now and I got news for you............. smhair

I will visit with the members til you get back.

Hugs and Love,

Lil Sis


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/1/2009 5:54 AM (GMT -7)   
kk
WE have to keep this line of commuication open
and talk about whatever may be on your mind no matter how minute you think it is

IF something is bothering you then by all means get it out and I am sure you will feel better for doing so

I know I had a real hard time this first Christmas w/o my Dad but I had my crying time and then I had toi go on auto pilot getting the family to stop asking about wil snd house sale monies..........

I GOT THRU IT
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN

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