Lyn, i couldnt have put it better- the whole reason i joined HW was the kind, non judgemental, sensitive atmosphere. im sick of people questioning the rules- the rules are what makes this place better than other health forums- its only recently that people have started getting this way, and its putting a dampener on the spirit of this place.
ALSO- the rules are extremely clear cut on what is allowed and what is expected. when i joined up, i agreed to uphold these rules.
i have had a member email me and attack a mod in it- i found it distressing and it made me angry, as i have nothing but time, love and respect for the mods, and this person was beyond out of line.
when i first joined up, there was a feeling of calm and peace about the place. now a few people have taken it upon themselves to be sarcastic and unkind, which is uncalled for as we all suffer and that should bring us together, not divide us.
i have had to physically hesitate before responding to posts, as i am not sure how the people who posted them will respond- when ive tried to be kind and helpful, ive definetly been given a dose of attitude in return, which is so unfair.
hope that made sense, im zonked on painkillers as i have ruptured BOTH eardrums, joy of joys- but yes, lets get that 'family' feelin back!
Post Edited (Mazfire) : 12/8/2008 1:27:12 PM (GMT-7)
HERE is a quick reminder of rules or DO's
Thanks for your posts all .....appreciated more than you know
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/8/2008 1:46:23 PM (GMT-7)
And some people took things the wrong way and took it personal. Or maybe someone spoke the wrong way by mistake. I just know that someone I love feels misunderstood and she didnt mean to offend anyone and I know! I understand that there are rules and thats good. Cant we just put this behind us? Forgive and forget.
i forgive, nikki, i know people are human. but the person you are referring to has made it quite uncomfortable for many members, by treating us quite poorly, and talking down. i dont usually let stuff get to me, and i try to be as understanding as possible, but comments WERE made that were hurtful, unhelpful and extremely patronising, comments that broke the forum rules, more than once. im sorry your friend feels misunderstood, but its not like it was one comment, several were made that were out of line.
its nothing personal, but we cant be a well oiled machine if parts of that machine seize up and refuse to comply.
LOL Maz.....am also on opites for major pain and I dont get a high but I do feel a bit of relief ..........
you guys im really scared right now. I did not mean for this big argument to happen, it was a dumb question and i should have just figured it out on my own. This website means more to me then anything and im sorry that my stupid post caused this- please know that im truly sorry and i have knots in my stomach right now :(
Kate you have NOTHING to be sorry for. this person has made agressive and insensitive comments in other posts, not just yours. your post was NOT stupid, you dont have to figure it out on your own, thats what we are here for. Kate you are such an asset to this place- the member in question has been trying to pick a fight for awhile. normally i would ignore a person like that, but she swore at me, and was really vicious. she belittled our problems and broke the rules by disrepecting mods and members. also i got an email from an angry member who just attacked the mods, which is so uncool, and was trying to get me on "their" side.
YOU are loved always. we are always here for you, the same way you are here for us. please tell the knots in your tummy to unwind- you did not cause this, you are not responsible. you are awesome! i hope the job interview goes great guns- keep us posted?
p.s Nikki, i am so sorry that you felt you had to apologise for your friend, no way. we love you so much, you are a special person and an asset to this place!
Ok Family, we are going to get through this tough time as we have gotten through tough times before.
Thanks Big Sis for posting, you know I love you and you will always be my dear friend, sister and mentor. I am so sorry you have been hurt by all this as I know you practically built this forum from scratch. It hurts to see all the hard work you do take a beating from a few. However, we are going to continue to help people in need and ask for help when we need it.
Remember all the good people which is 99.5% of our family who are benefiting from this great forum. We took a small hit today but remember we always climb back up into the light.
Kate, No way is this your fault. The question was a legitimate one and it was an easy one to answer. I apologize to you that a few people got off track. On HW we are all equals.
Nikki, you ask about why professionals not being able to give their opinions.........that is easy, libility. It would be unethical of professionals to give out dx or treatment without seeing a patient. And the best reason is because it is a rule to leave your credentials and your hat at the door.
No one is upset with you as you and I think now that everyone has vented it is time to move on.
Gentle Hugs to All.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Thanks Lil sis ..You know me so well
This forum and others here make me so happy and
I look forward each day to seeing how my family is ........OUR family
....EACH member has a place in my heart...........
You are my Sis and I am so grateful for that
Yes Kate you are NOT at fault for any of this .........I promise you that ......