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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/8/2008 12:45 PM (GMT -7)   
......I have NO idea what is going on lately but'
I do know there hads been a drastic change here on A/P
 
PPL supposedly emailing a member with complaints about how
this forum is run and what the rules are
PLEASE email the moderators of this forum IF you have complaints and we shal come up with a SOLUTION yeah
 
WHEN you sign up you are supposed to agree to rules and regulations of HW smilewinkgrin
 
I really believe in my heart there is a couple of things happening
'
ONE.....PPPL taking posts wrong way
Making assumptions that are just NOT true nono
 
TWO........PPL thinking Moderators have all the Power....we do not
WE are sick with the same as you have .........and some with more
 
Three.......Constant enabling of persons that will not listen to or
take advice which is 99 to 100 % correct.......Instead they continue to keep
staying in the bad place they are
Not moving ahead not gaining any ground..........
 
Getting all kinds of support yet not able to give some in return........ cry
 
THis was /is a family here and by all intents and purposes it has always been that way
No judgement no rudeness .........acceptance support.....caring and sharing........
 
Disrespecting Members and (Moderators=  members too ) is not tolerated
 
.......PLEASE let us get the "Family " back..........
 
..I KNOW I sure miss it .........How about you
 
LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


getting by
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Lyn,

I wonder if it is the season? Everybody is under a lot more stress than usual.

Either way, I hope that this forum gets back to where is was. It is a wonderful place to come when feeling anxious or panicy. I am sure that things will settle down and that we all can be happy once again. Knowing that we can come here for help when needed.

I love this forum and never want it to change. It has been a place for me to visit when I am feeling down or insecure. I hope all goes back to the way that it was.

I think if we just agree to disagree it will be fine. Not everybody has the same opinion of things, but I don't think anybody should try to sway anybody else into their way of thinking. We are all different and that is what makes it interesting.

I feel assured that I can continue to come here for advice. I think that it is the season and all the stress of the hustle and bustle of the holidays. Once things settle down, I believe it will be the same as it once was.

Just want to say that I love you all and hope you all have a joyous holiday season.

Luv and hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
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Hibee
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:14 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with you Lyn there does seem to be a bit of bad feeling on the forum at the moment which is a real shame. I cant see why people would have any problems abiding by the HW rules as they only make this forum the brilliant place it is, a place were we can come and talk to other people who are going through the same kind of issues and gain support and advice as well as give support to others.

Since being a member i have had a very positive outlook of HW and find this a wonderful place to come, i think if people did not follow the rules it would be a totally different vibe. As Lyn says when we sign up we are to agree to the rules which are there so that every thing runs well with out causing offence to any of the members.

I think the moderators do a fantastic job on this forum and i thank them for that.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen
Yes I believe the Holidays have something to do with it
BUT it is more than that IMHO
Thanks for your input....appreciated my friend...........LYN



BEN
It saddens me too to feel what I am feeling and that is why I will stay away for a day or so
I miss you all so much and worry about you all
WE are going to GET the HW family back
This will always be a place for you and others to come my friend
PROMISE

Love
LYN
Canadian Good Luck Charm..........
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


Mazfire
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:23 PM (GMT -7)   

Lyn, i couldnt have put it better- the whole reason i joined HW was the kind, non judgemental, sensitive atmosphere. im sick of people questioning the rules- the rules are what makes this place better than other health forums- its only recently that people have started getting this way, and its putting a dampener on the spirit of this place.

ALSO- the rules are extremely clear cut on what is allowed and what is expected. when i joined up, i agreed to uphold these rules.

i have had a member email me and attack a mod in it- i found it distressing and it made me angry, as i have nothing but time, love and respect for the mods, and this person was beyond out of line.

when i first joined up, there was a feeling of calm and peace about the place. now a few people have taken it upon themselves to be sarcastic and unkind, which is uncalled for as we all suffer and that should bring us together, not divide us.

i have had to physically hesitate before responding to posts, as i am not sure how the people who posted them will respond- when ive tried to be kind and helpful, ive definetly been given a dose of attitude in return, which is so unfair.

hope that made sense, im zonked on painkillers as i have ruptured BOTH eardrums, joy of joys- but yes, lets get that 'family' feelin back!



            'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)                  
 
Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, CFS, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, PCOD, Chronic E.N.T infections, Reactive Arthritis, GERD, Sinusitis, IBS,  Allergies, Glandular fever, Migraines, Anemia, Chemical/Noise/Light sensitivity, Trichotilomania, PTSD, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, OCD, Benign Vertigo,  Impaired immune system. Tachycardia, tinnitus, low clotting factor= bruising. Tendonitis, Bursitis.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie.
 
 

Post Edited (Mazfire) : 12/8/2008 1:27:12 PM (GMT-7)


Howlyncat
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Date Joined Jan 2005
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   Posted 12/8/2008 1:39 PM (GMT -7)   
idea .I have wanted to post this for some time now
I do not like the fact that membes are emailing and complaing to other members about the forum nor members /mods
They can go directly to Admin@HealingWell.com to lodge complaint
We spend countless hours here all of us or the vast majority supporting and sharing......caring and giving..........THIS has been a "Family" for so long and yes we will get it back
I can promise you that...........
I dont know if you realize just how many hours I spend worrying and thinking about you all as does our Kitt and other Mods...........WE read all the posts we may not reply to all but we sure do read them...........The Admin has the power ( only him) to lock threads.......ban ppl and he has the fianl say in all that goes o here and on Healing Well......NOT US as some may think.........
I really do not think it is fair to have to worry about what you post in fear of repercussions or anything else........LIKE stated we WILL get the Family back and tout suit......... yeah
 
 
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Thanks for your posts all .....appreciated more than you know

Lyn

'KITT

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 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN

Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/8/2008 1:46:23 PM (GMT-7)


Mazfire
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   Posted 12/8/2008 2:05 PM (GMT -7)   
justbreath said...

  And some people took things the wrong way and took it personal.  Or maybe someone spoke the wrong way by mistake.  I just know that someone I love feels misunderstood and she didnt mean to offend anyone and I know!  I understand that there are rules and thats good. Cant we just put this behind us?  Forgive and forget.

 

i forgive, nikki, i know people are human. but the person you are referring to has made it quite uncomfortable for many members, by treating us quite poorly, and talking down. i dont usually let stuff get to me, and i try to be as understanding as possible, but comments WERE made that were hurtful, unhelpful and extremely patronising, comments that broke the forum rules, more than once. im sorry your friend feels misunderstood, but its not like it was one comment, several were made that were out of line.

its nothing personal, but we cant be a well oiled machine if parts of that machine seize up and refuse to comply.

Maz XX


            'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)                  
 
Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, CFS, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, PCOD, Chronic E.N.T infections, Reactive Arthritis, GERD, Sinusitis, IBS,  Allergies, Glandular fever, Migraines, Anemia, Chemical/Noise/Light sensitivity, Trichotilomania, PTSD, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, OCD, Benign Vertigo,  Impaired immune system. Tachycardia, tinnitus, low clotting factor= bruising. Tendonitis, Bursitis.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie.
 
 


Howlyncat
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Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 12/8/2008 2:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I am not mad at you neither Nikki but I totally agree with MAZ..forgiven

The family is HERE we just have to get it oiled as Maz said ..........and back to the way it was not so long ago yeah

Luvs
LYN

LOL Maz.....am also on opites for major pain and I dont get a high but I do feel a bit of relief .......... wink


 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN


katekate888
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Total Posts : 109
   Posted 12/8/2008 2:42 PM (GMT -7)   

you guys im really scared right now. I did not mean for this big argument to happen, it was a dumb question and i should have just figured it out on my own. This website means more to me then anything and im sorry that my stupid post caused this- please know that im truly sorry and i have knots in my stomach right now :(

Kate


Nanners
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Date Joined Apr 2005
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   Posted 12/8/2008 3:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Kate, honey I don't think this was aimed at you. I too got a hateful email from someone else degrading a beloved Mod. I think that action was childish and uncalled for. And I know it wasn't you.

But Lyn, I do agree with you that the board has changed. I have decided to ignore some posters as everytime you make a recommendation this person finds another excuse. And quite honestly I will not enable them anymore, because that is what it has become.

I believe most folks come here for support for their a/p, and to support others living with the same a/p. But sometimes some people take advantage and abuse the system. And some just ask and ask and never give back to others having a hard time.

But I do love the folks/mods on this site. Many have been amazing in helping me deal with my anxiety. But sometimes one bad apple can try to ruin the whole bunch. JMHO
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Mazfire
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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 1683
   Posted 12/8/2008 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
katekate888 said...

you guys im really scared right now. I did not mean for this big argument to happen, it was a dumb question and i should have just figured it out on my own. This website means more to me then anything and im sorry that my stupid post caused this- please know that im truly sorry and i have knots in my stomach right now :(

Kate

Kate you have NOTHING to be sorry for. this person has made agressive and insensitive comments in other posts, not just yours. your post was NOT stupid, you dont have to figure it out on your own, thats what we are here for. Kate you are such an asset to this place- the member in question has been trying to pick a fight for awhile. normally i would ignore a person like that, but she swore at me, and was really vicious. she belittled our problems and broke the rules by disrepecting mods and members. also i got an email from an angry member who just attacked the mods, which is so uncool, and was trying to get me on "their" side.

YOU are loved always. we are always here for you, the same way you are here for us. please tell the knots in your tummy to unwind- you did not cause this, you are not responsible. you are awesome! i hope the job interview goes great guns- keep us posted?

Maz XX wink

 

p.s Nikki, i am so sorry that you felt you had to apologise for your friend, no way. we love you so much, you are a special person and an asset to this place!


            'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)                  
 
Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, CFS, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, PCOD, Chronic E.N.T infections, Reactive Arthritis, GERD, Sinusitis, IBS,  Allergies, Glandular fever, Migraines, Anemia, Chemical/Noise/Light sensitivity, Trichotilomania, PTSD, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, OCD, Benign Vertigo,  Impaired immune system. Tachycardia, tinnitus, low clotting factor= bruising. Tendonitis, Bursitis.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie.
 
 


stkitt
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Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 12/8/2008 4:58 PM (GMT -7)   

Ok Family, we are going to get through this tough time as we have gotten through tough times before.

Thanks Big Sis for posting, you know I love you and you will always be my dear friend, sister and mentor.  I am so sorry you have been hurt by all this as I know you practically built this forum from scratch.  It hurts to see all the hard work you do take a beating  from a few. However, we are going to continue to help people in need and ask for help when we need it.  

Remember all the good people which is 99.5% of our family who are benefiting from this great forum.  We took a small hit today but remember we always climb back up into the light.

Kate, No way is this your fault.  The question was a legitimate one and it was an easy one to answer.  I apologize to you that a few people got off track.  On HW we are all equals. 

Nikki, you ask about why professionals not being able to give their opinions.........that is easy, libility.  It would be unethical of professionals to give out dx or treatment without seeing a patient. And the best reason is because it is a rule to leave your credentials and your hat at the door.

No one is upset with you as you and I think now that everyone has vented it is time to move on.

Gentle Hugs to All.

Kitt

 


 

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/8/2008 5:18 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks Lil sis ..You know me so well

This forum and others here make me so happy and

I look forward each day to seeing how my family is ........OUR family turn

....EACH member has a place in my heart...........

You are my Sis and I am so grateful for that

 

Yes Kate you are NOT at fault for any of this nono .........I promise you that ...... smilewinkgrin

 
 
Happy days ahead and all is good in the Family of A/P ............ yeah
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
    CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            ~ FIGHT the FIGHT with all YOU HAVE ~
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
..........LYN

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