Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/13/2008 7:36:10 PM (GMT-7)
It has been a rough day or couple of days for me as well
My younger brother my fav actually was picked up and put in jail for non payment of support
Hids wages are guarentied( sp) everywhere he works and then they go take him in making him lose job and miss Christmas with the family
WHAT got me so upset as I told lil sis on phone was the fact that his so called WIFE was asked and even OFFERED gas money from us to go visit him tomorrow morning.........
Sher( SIL) just got an 800.00 plus check for Child tax credit we have here in Ontario
(I get 374.00 for Cait .........it is banked for her eduacation and her needs
Anyways I asked her again as she did at first jump at the chance when we offered her money but now she does not WANT to go and stated that if he is in for more than 30 days she is leaving and going to Manitoba
YES.....He is wrong for NOT paying off the child support and procratinating over it but he also has 3 children of hers ( his step children) to also support and feed...........
When my bro calls me tomorrow
I have NO idea of what to do but to tell the truth to tell him
I am afraid he will do something drastic ..........Last time Howie caught him just in time with a weapon........ in Mouth
He has supported her and the kids for over 10 yrs ....she left once and got preggars by another man and he took her back when still preggars ,,,,,I cut Dakoda's cord and we all have treated him as family.........Dakoda is asking all the time when is daddy coming home
I am so angry and hurt by what she is doing to him
The jail he is in has the Bandido's in it and it is Maximunm security
I am literally falling apart but I WILL not break out in sores I am too angry and will not let them come out.....
I also here ya on the fight with the other half we had a dosey the other day as well and he is blaming it on his sugar ( diabetic ) but I have lived with Caits dad and he did the same thing
I will not live like this again.......................It is up to him to control his food and sugar and blood levels
I am so sorry for all you have gone thru as well hun
THANKS for posting on this thread.......you are an asset to our forum............
Also I am so sorry about your family and those you are missing.........yes it is going to be a rough Christmas this yr IMHO......***.BTW I am not the only one that comes up with ideas for threads
Lil sis and I kick thoughts about them around in our minds and we then find a way to start a good one hoping it will help and get others involved LYN
LUVS Sam n (((( )))))) your friend ......LYN...........thanks for letting me vent all ......
Have NO idea what I did
But lil sis ..........if you can fix it for me .........lol ......I would appreciate it soooooooooo
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/16/2008 9:01:45 AM (GMT-7)
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/13/2008 9:23:12 PM (GMT-7)
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The term for hair loss is alopecia.
Yes libido and anxiety may be connected.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Regarding your hair loss -- are you on any medication in addition to birth control? I took Depakote for two months this last spring and lost alot of hair. It has come back now and is slightly wavy where before it was extremely straight. Alot of medications can cause hair loss.
Prayers for you and your daughter. I undertand how you are feeling. Having raised 4 children I have been through some situations and felt helpless as what to do to help.
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/15/2008 5:07:59 PM (GMT-7)
My Dear Big Sis,
I know you have had an extremely rough year and here it is the holidays and you are dealing with the the relatives and your son's problems and worrying about the grandkids.......who by the way are beautiful.
Your Lil Sis is having a good day today and perhaps the dang medication change is starting to work or this spell of anxiety is passing.
I keep my goofy fringe relatives in North Dakota but my sister is home there for Christmas and will not be back until January 5th so I am missing her and of course I want her to have the best Christmas ever. The single best way to cope with familial turmoil is to give up the hope that your relatives will suddenly become cornucopias of emotional health....You invite inner peace when you stop trying to force yourself either to change your relatives or to think of them as sane.
You have been the wind beneath their wings for so long it is time to let them fly on their own and keep the toxic ones away from you.
Your daughter-in-law is all about her wants and addictions and until she admits it and gets help all you can do is pray and make sure the little ones gets Christmas Gifts.
I know we are much alike as we have always been care givers and we have that need to fix things but when it starts to affect our own health we must take a step back and reassess where we are headed and what is best for us.
Cait is your number one priority right now and knowing she will soon be off to college and the empty nest syndrome does exist, be selfish and spend time with her and with Howie.
You are good and kind, gentle and merciful, you work so hard to help others and your caring is genuine. You give yourself credit for all you do and remember it is alright to think over what is best for you and then just do it, no guilt.
Big sis you have built this forum and the Alzhiemers forum. Be proud of that but know that you cannot take on your shoulders all the troubles of each member. You can only advice them and hope each member looks upon the mods as their peers as that is what we are.
We have no special powers, we have pain and anxiety and phobias and if we did not we never would have been drawn to this site.
So know I love you and you are always there for me.............this I know as I feel it in my heart.
I leave you with this today..............and with love.
Are you willing to believe that love is the strongest thing in the world - stronger than hate, stronger than evil, stronger than death - and that the blessed life which began in Bethlehem nineteen hundred years ago is the image and brightness of the Eternal Love? Then you can keep Christmas. - Henry Van Dyke
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/16/2008 11:17:25 AM (GMT-7)