HW needs your help with A/P sensitivity feelings

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freezinginAK
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   Posted 12/16/2008 12:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Over sensitivity behavior Please put your input here.


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Mazfire
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   Posted 12/16/2008 12:47 AM (GMT -7)   
im always paranoid that ive offended someone or made someone angry, or pushed people away- when in reality, i havent and its ME being highly negative and overly sensitive.

when people complain about having a cold, i get internally angry cos what i live with on a daily basis is sheer hell, but you dont hear me whining all the time? i know thats unfair, but when a colleague doesnt come to work cos they are feeling a bit 'under the weather', i feel a bit bitter, lilke telling them to toughen up. i know thats a bad approach.

i am assertive and strong by nature, but people confuse that for me being an 'ice queen' (or so ive been told). i think im a warm person, i just have trust issues and im trying.

i am overly sensitive to my surroundings, enviromental factors etc

im hyper sensitive about my physical appearance- it stops me from leaving my home, when in reality, i am not obese- im curvy. i spent the 1st 22yrs of my life like a stick insect (a 6ft one) and after my gall bladder was whipped out, i stacked on 30kg. this is my biggest sensitivity and insecurity.



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Green Grove
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   Posted 12/16/2008 1:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I have had a very sensitive nature since I was a child. I would get upset and angry over the littlest things because I did not know how handle and process negative situations. I would let them get to me. What was worse, is that many of these "situations" that I thought were "negative" were only MY own warped perception of things.

I finally learned to be a more effective person by finding out the facts and not jumping to conclusions. Also, by not having unrealistic expectations of people. Life is hard and is not fair. That is a reality that should be learned and accepted at a very young age, IMHO :)
Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort :)
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/16/2008 4:10 AM (GMT -7)   
I am..... was, and always have been very sensitive of others and what they may think or feel about me
BUT
I have decided I
"DO NOT CARE anymore
I am what I ams..........

CBT and a special Lady helped me thru this alot

Luvs
Cowgirl UP

Hibee
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   Posted 12/16/2008 10:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi

I have always been very sensitive about what others think off me and i can overreact to small things. Due to the bad experience which i had at school due to dyslexia i became very sensitive and withdrawn from everybody else and my confidence was knocked and i have never really recovered from that.

This is something i need to work on as it does play a big part in my anxiety as i am always paranoid about what people think and maybe thats why i dont like social situations. When i get back from my trip and start my CBT im sure this something that i will work on.

stkitt
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   Posted 12/16/2008 10:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Check out our resources. There is a paperback book available from Amazon:
The Highly Sensitive Person

by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.

You may find this a helpful resource to learn how to deal with your sensitive nature.

Take care
Kitt

Aries8
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   Posted 12/16/2008 12:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Unhappy 32 - Maybe if you began keeping a journal, it might help. Write down your experiences in school. Write about your problems, fears and include statements on how you've overcome some of them. You've obviously come a long way. We need to remember to take care of ourselves. Take yourself by the hand and be proud of who you are today.

percycat
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   Posted 12/16/2008 12:56 PM (GMT -7)   
All,

I'm usually very nervous and overly concerned about possibly offending people. I tend to be super observant about things, people, and behaviors around me, and I guess I just expect others are the same. So I almost expect them to take some giant offense at every little thing I do, and then blow up. It's funny - if someone said something that struck me the wrong way, I'd just speak up in an ordinary way, and not blow up at them, but just somehow, I expect that people around me are stewing and brewing and constantly thinking about something I did and letting their opinion of me fester.

Heck, it even took me ten minutes to type this post because I was worried about how it would come across! :)

percycat

Mazfire
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   Posted 12/16/2008 1:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Ben i am SO sorry that your dyslexia was a problem. i teach high school english, and i specialise in literacy and reading/writing difficulties. in this day and age, your teachers should have shown you that dyslexia doesnt have to be shameful, and that it wont hold you back in life. i feel so passionate about this. in my opinion, you are a champion. prove your teachers and classmates wrong!
Maz XX

Hibee
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   Posted 12/16/2008 2:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Maz

Thanks. Dyslexia is something else i have to deal with on a daily basis and is probably the cause of a lot of my anxiety and why i am so sensitive to situations, it is something which i am embarresed about and i avoid situations were i need to wright things down in public as my hand writing and spelling is awful. I only officialy found out i had dyslexia when i was 25 and at college i felt really let down by my school as i did not get the support i needed and as a result did not enjoy school one bit. I got bullyed at school by the other pupils as i did not pick things up as quick as them which also knocked my confidence.

Thank you Maz for your kind words it means a lot to me.

Benm

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   Posted 12/19/2008 10:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I've been working on my sensitivity. I actually was mad at my doc earlier and did not let it bother me. He is just one of those non caring individuals that make you feel like pulling hair :) lol

I decided to become more effective and less affective and realized that I am in control of the way I feel :)

freezinginAK
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   Posted 12/19/2008 11:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Ben my bud, you are not alone on this dyslexia thing, I have it and always will, but in my case in school I was one of in a group of peers that no one really messed with, getting kicked out of school and so on I finally got my sh$# together and by doing so I took 9 courses of night school to graduate high school on time but I still got it in my head that I did it on my own.

But after being overexposed to chemicals as a painter changed my life that I even panicked having a cop follow me but now I tend to like fighting for my rights even though I know the cop is in the wrong from not fully knowing the laws as we get a lot of the new-bees trying to prove themselves

Heck I even shaved off all my hair and got a lot of looks but by looking right back at then they would turn there heads, but I do tend to like doing extreme things just to prove I can do it.

Cowboy up

panic queen
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   Posted 12/20/2008 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello everyone,
I know that if I wasn't so very Sensitive, that I would NOT have all of my Anxiety and panic problems.
I hear myself somewhat in eveyones post... I am going to check out the book that was suggested. Thanks..
That is something that I just hate about myself. I admire people who can just let things slide off their backs or made a decision and not second, and third, fourth, ect guess themselves. I have tried so very hard not to be this "super sensitve" person, but that's even harder to do for me.... I get tired of fighting with myself...
Thanks for the subject ...I am glad to see that I am not alone...

stkitt
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   Posted 12/20/2008 8:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Panic Queen,

I feel just like you, if I could get past being overly sensitive and taking things the wrong way or to heart I would feel so much better.

Over sensitivity is being over affected by an external influence that can hardly affect normal people, for example not being able to tolerate Constructive criticism that other people normally tolerate. In order to know if you are an over sensitive person see if your answer to most of these questions are yes?

Do you get hurt by some words or comments that are told to you about your personality?
are you unable to tolerate criticism?
Do you hate loud noise or loud music?
Do you feel other people's pain and suffering more than anyone else?
Do you stop for more than three minutes when you see an accident on the street in order to watch?
Do you find it very hard to tolerate high or low temperatures?
Do you find it very hard to gain muscles by working out?
Do you have lots of mood swings as a result of small events?
Over sensitive people are more likely to have bad moods, to get depressed and to be moody because their mood changes whenever any small event happen. An emotionally sensitive person is like a fragile person, or a person who is labeled "handle with care".

OK, I am an overly sensitive person. But I want to kick it to the curb............you all with me?

There are many ways that can help you deal with your over sensitivity but most of them root to one source, changing your way of thinking and your perception of situations. After all if you are over sensitive you wont feel bad when being hurt unless you have perceived the situation that happened as a bad one, if you managed to change your way of thinking you will be able to reap the benefits of emotional sensitivity and avoid its drawbacks.

OK, this is where you go to work, share with us how you are going to work on your sensitivity issues.

Happy Holidays.

Kitt

Nanners
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   Posted 12/20/2008 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   
I too am a overly sensitive person, but am much like Lyn, I am what I am, and am learning not to care so much.
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stkitt
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   Posted 12/20/2008 8:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Ben,

I empathize with you and the problems you have had with dyslexia.........

I am going to post a link to a site that is very informational re dyslexia for people who do not understand this disorder or who may feel they have this disability.

http://www.ldonline.org/article/16282?gclid=CMSkiaW9z5cCFQEoGgodBjXbDg

Just click on link and you will find a wealth of information.

Big Christmas Hugs to you dear Ben.

Kitt

Hibee
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   Posted 12/20/2008 8:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt

Thanks for your post i will look up the link.

Take Care

Ben

Green Grove
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   Posted 12/20/2008 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Nikki, wacko movies like that put me on edge too. . . along with certain music and other's pain or "vibes." I can totally relate and the crazy thing is the only solution is avoidance which we are supposed to keep limited in our lives as Anxiety/Panic Survivors:) I think it's just fine to avoid the bad stuff though :) lol

panic queen
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   Posted 12/21/2008 1:07 PM (GMT -7)   
It seems like we are all on the same boat. At times the boat feels like it's sinking....
When I see or here an siren, or see a rescue truck go by, I pray for the person who needs the help, and the worker themself.... I feel eveyones pain, happiness, sadness, anger,embarassment .... I feel guity if I am not the sensitive one, because this world had gotten to be such and unsensitve place....
I feel that maybe that somehow I can change this crazy place by being so sensitve to others needs.
With doing this, someone else may catch on, and it would be a much kinder place..
Who cares if "peoples needs" are driving me into a panic right ? I am also a people pleaser BIG TIME!
It is very hard for me to say "No" and when I do, I feel like I should go to confession or something...
Does anyone understand me ? lol
Movies ?? Don't even get me started there.........lol Anything that is based on a true story.....
I still haven't, and won't watch the Titanic.....NO WAY !
Forest Gump? I was so sad that Jenny took advantage of someone who was "slow" People making fun of him....ect... My husband, said, it's just a movie he didn't know the difference anyway...
This is such a great subject ...now if we could all get thru it.
I have a very hard time during the holidays with being so sensitive..... anyone else ?
L

debaser
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   Posted 12/21/2008 4:49 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm not really all that sensitive, at least not to people I don't know. Then again I am. It's weird. But one thing is for sure, I used to be the "strong" type and since getting sick a couple years ago I've been extremely self-conscious about getting sick. If a friend calls and I have a really bad headache, for example, I won't tell them that. I'll make up a white lie and give them some other non-anxiety, non-health related reason that I can't meet them for lunch or whatever. Used to not care at all about what people thought but I sure do now. I guess it's a "showing weakness" issue.
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