It seems to be yet another bout

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YaGirlC
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 12/16/2008 2:59 PM (GMT -7)   
I was hoping that my anxiety/panic was possibly just due to my dentist appt that I had last Thurs., and yesterday. 
 
Well, it isn't gone.
 
It's almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy.  My S/O currently lives across the country.  We (the kids and I) have been planning to make the move for 2.5 years now.  Things keep coming up, life keeps happening, so our move has been postponed numerous times.  Anyway, the last few 'cancellations' have really gotten me down.  We were going to move right after my son (my youngest child is his, the other 3 are not; their father was very abusive and I left him almost 4 years ago, and shortly thereafter, I might my S/O).  Well, that was in late April.  Then we were supposed to move in June/July.  Then it got pushed back to Christmas.  Now it is pushed back to January (Christmastime would've been perfect for my older child, since he is in kindergarten, it wouldn't have been so hard on him if we could've moved during the break, instead of during a time when school was in session, and therefore, missing out on classes).
 
So right now, we are stuck with making visits out there.  It is a 15-17 hour drive, mind you.  And no, I cannot get on a plane.  I have made train trips out there (by myself), but that is not feasible with 4 small children (it is an even longer ride than in the car: 24+ hours).
 
We have gone so far in October (for about a week), during Thanksgiving break, and now we are planning for New Year's (we usually stay about a week, and the last two times have worked out good because the kids don't miss out on school).
 
But, I've noticed that whenever we come back, I get panicky.  In October, I was fine, until we came back home, and then I had a bout of heightened anxiety and panic.  Now I am having the same thing (we just got back about 2 weeks ago).  I was kinda anticipating it too.  So like I said earlier, it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy.  I'm making myself sick. :(
 
I keep thinking that I won't live to the next visit or something.  UGH, WHY DO I HAVE TO FEEL LIKE THIS!  It's horrible. :(  I AM SO SICK OF FEELING LIKE THIS.  I just want to be normal.  I haven't had a FULL-BLOWN panic attack so far (which leave me almost incapable of doing even the simplest tasks), thank God, but I have been right on the edge almost the entire time since I've been back.  It is absolute Hell.  I just want to be able to live again.
 
I've had so many tests done on my heart.  The heart ultrasound, EKGs, chest x-rays, blood work for enzymes during heart attacks, cholesterol levels, blood pressure readings, ct scans....all have come out fine.  I am just scared that they were all wrong!  These were done by at least 4 different doctors.  I seriously am just scared that they all just 'blew me off' because I am 1). a female, 2). young and 3). I've even told some of them that I have anxiety problems.  So I am scared that they just blew it off and didn't really LOOK at the results/tests.
 
I HATE THIS CRAP.  SO MUCH.  My therapist asked me what would help me.  I said that it is bothering me that I never got an MRI of my heart...or an angiogram...but I AM WAY TOO SCARED to even THINK about going through with something like that.  I seriously cannot get up the nerve to go see a cardiologist...a SPECIALIST in heart problems.  It makes me panicky just thinking about it, seriously.  I am scared that they would find something and immediately rush me into open heart surgery or something.  Of course, I remember thinking that way the night/week/month before my heart ultrasound.  I remember calling my S/O the night before crying, telling him of my 'final wishes' because I was convinced that they were going to find something terribly wrong and rush me into emergency surgery.
 
:(  Why do I have to feel this way???!  I am so angry.  Sooooo angry.  And bitter. 
 
I just want the anxiety to go away and to live my life the way I used to.
 
Can these symptoms truly just be psychological? :(  My stupid arms/shoulders hurt sometimes and my stupid neck (in the front...so really, the throat region) has hurt since July-ish...it comes and goes...kinda like a throbbing sensation...and I've had the chest pains for as far back as I can remember.  UGH!
 
ETA: I pay attention to every little twinge.  I know that back aches can be a sign of heart attack in women...and I've now had back pain! GAH.  I did have some physical therapy (just finished 3 months of it last week) and a lot of it was because I had some soft tissue issues in my back...and it is in basically the same location (left side...OF COURSE, right by/below my shoulder blade)...but it still makes me think the worst.
 


Cece, 24
 
Mommy to 4 kids, ages 5 and under.  Yep, I'm crazy.  In more than one way!

Post Edited (YaGirlC) : 12/16/2008 3:38:26 PM (GMT-7)


Green Grove
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   Posted 12/16/2008 3:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Cece. . . I sure hope things get better for you. You should have posted this under the Health Anxiey thread, because this is one of your Anxiety Issues that you will need to work on. I have the same problem and I really do not know what to tell you but to go see your PCP and be honest about everything. I know that the Health Anxiety is hard, and when you have other problems happening at the same time, it can get overwhelming from the crazy body sensations. I know how bad this is and so do many other people.

Has your therapist ever worked you through CBT therapy? It has helped me so much :)

Anyway, take care of yourself and take one thing at a time. Stay in the moment and maybe meditate/relax for awhile. Deep breaths. . . Everything will be OK :)


Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort :)
TTYL,
 
Sam
 
 


stkitt
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   Posted 12/16/2008 4:01 PM (GMT -7)   

I agree with Sam, the best way to get support and advice is to post your concerns in the thread that will help you the most.  You will see and meet others with your problems and as a group work out how to get past these anxieties.

Please review the Health Anxiety thread.

I hopd you can get the help you need.

Sincerely

Kitt


 

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YaGirlC
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 12/16/2008 7:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Ok, I understand how this board works, thanks y'all. I was wondering how this works. I will make sure to post there for sure.
Cece, 24
 
Mommy to 4 kids, ages 5 and under.  Yep, I'm crazy.  In more than one way!


stkitt
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   Posted 12/16/2008 9:35 PM (GMT -7)   

Great Cece,

It takes some time to get the hang of it but you got it.  WE are all going to support you in that thread too.

Peace,

Kitt


 

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