No Tootie, it is not you. You are 100% normal, however I feel like, IMHO, your husband is being insensitive to your needs. He is being verbal abusive by yelling at you. That is how what you have posted feels to me and no one should be abused verbally by another.
Be assertive sweetie, just put up your hand in a none threatening way and tell him to stop talking. Then walk away.
He is not going to understand how you feel. Don't count on him for that.
Come here and know we understand.
The loss of a significant loved one: a spouse, a parent, a sibling, a best friend, or a child, throws our entire world upside down, creating what feels like a crater- sized hole in our heart, that we often believe will never be filled again.
Please consider therapy to help you through, grief counseling is a great support for you.
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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 12/21/2008 10:52:03 AM (GMT-7)
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Tootie, your husband sounds like a grade A bully, not like the caring, supportive partner you need. obviously you need to make the best out of your situation with him, but l doubt talking to him will work (i get the feeling he is a poor communicator and wont listen...). You take as long as you need to grieve your tremendous loss. marriage is not a dictatorship and there is no time limit on the grieving process- especially at holiday time. p.s id like to see him do his OWN laundry, or baking, or try and do HALF the chores you do, keeping the house and family together- then maybe he'd appreciate what you do.
thinking of you- Maz XX
p.s you can ALWAYS come here for support XX
Post Edited (Mazfire) : 12/21/2008 12:54:13 PM (GMT-7)