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summer_girliexo
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   Posted 12/21/2008 8:46 PM (GMT -7)   
i'm just so upset right now, i was fine all day now all of a sudden i cant stop crying...i've been so good all week since the incident that happened in my last post. he hasn't answered me back in 3 days, but i've held it together, haven't been annoying or texted him uncontrollably, i just blew it off and went on doing my thing. but now its really bothering me. i don't know whats wrong with me yes i love him but i know hes just a friend, yet it still drives me crazy.  sometimes i just feel like i'm never going to find anyone else and no other guy is gonna love me like him. i know i'm young but it all just scares me so much and when i think about it all it just puts me into an anxiety attack. i'm trying so hard to control it right now but i just can't stop crying... 

stkitt
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   Posted 12/21/2008 9:30 PM (GMT -7)   

Summer,

You are going to be fine.  Continue to stay in the moment and do not worry about yesterday.  Tomorrow will be here soon enough so do not anticipate what tomorrow will bring.

When you find yourself so upset, breathing exercises are a wonderful way to learn how to control anxiety, reduce stress, and promote relaxation. Studies have shown that anxiety sufferers tend to breath shallowly and from their chest. Learning to breathe deeply and from the belly can bring great relief and control to anxious individuals.

 

Belly Breathing

Belly Breath Exercise

1. Lie on your back and place one hand on your stomach and one on your chest.

2. As you inhale, fill your belly with a slow, even breath, and watch your hand rise on your belly and stay still on your chest.

3. Exhale gently and watch you hand fall as you slowly and evenly breathe out.

4. Repeat for five minutes and practice every single day.

Use this technique when you are under stress for relief. It is also important to practice this breathing technique when you are not under stress. Practice when you are watching TV, sitting at a stoplight, before you fall asleep, or during breaks from work. Practicing when you are not stressed will enhance you well-being and give you mastery over the exercise so that when you need it you will be confident in your skills.

Practice this and let us know how it works for you.

I wish you peace and happiness.

Kitt


 

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getting by
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   Posted 12/21/2008 9:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Do you think that the anxiety comes from being angry or from being sad?

Sometimes we get anxious when we are sad and can't control our crying.

Sometimes we get anxious when we are angry and can't do what we want to do. LIke texting your friend. That is a learned condition and can be unlearned. You need to start rewarding yoursself for not texting and annoying as you said. The longer you can go, the better the reward. Pretty soon you will learn that when you control your emotions and don't get up set when you can't do something, it will become a rewarding experience. Then the reward is the control over yourself.

I know that you can do this.

Hugs, Karen
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Aries8
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   Posted 12/21/2008 10:00 PM (GMT -7)   
You are obsessed with this whole situation. At least that's the way I see it. I'm not an expert. I think for some reason you're hanging on to him. You may not even love him as you think you do. He may be an old habit that you can't let go of. Find other ways to occupy your time. Lots of places need volunteers. Whenever you begin to think about him, change your thoughts. This is not healthy! Hang in there and remember things will get better.

Green Grove
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   Posted 12/22/2008 12:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi again Summer Girl.

I am sorry you are still feeling bad. You have great advice already given to you and the only thing that I could add is for you to remember "This to shall pass." Everything does on it's own time, and you move on with your life.

I wish you the best luck and happines!
Much Love, Hugs, Peace and Comfort!!!
Your Bro,
Sam
 
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~ Carlos Castaneda ~

 
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~ Abraham Lincoln ~
 


Shia
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   Posted 12/22/2008 2:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Summer
Remember there has still been many fishes that you yet need to swim by. I understand you're upset :( But what you've done so far is good, you're doing your own thing and gaining support from us :) It's wonderful!
Good luck Summer :)

Kitt thanks for the breathing exercises :)

summer_girliexo
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   Posted 12/22/2008 3:03 PM (GMT -7)   
thank you all so much for all the advice, i'm trying really hard to be strong and not let it all bother me. i'm starting to realize i did nothing wrong and whatever is wrong isn't my problem, its his. yes i know that i'm going through a rough time and i've been leaning on him a lot lately, but you know what hes gone through hard times too and i've always been there for him, even when it hurt me i sucked it up for him cuz he needed me. maybe this is for the best right now, as much as i hate it maybe we both need some space. everything happens for a reason, and whats meant to happen will happen, i truely believe that. i just really miss my best friend right now, not the guy he's acting like.

xoxox
I'm alone, on my own, and that's all I know
I'll be strong, I'll be wrong, oh but life goes on
I'm just a girl, trying to find a place in this world
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stkitt
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   Posted 12/22/2008 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Summer,

You are talking very wise right now and acceptance that things are not good right now but they will get better is very brave of you.  You facing your demons and showing them who is boss.

You go girl.

Kudos to you

Kitt


stkitt
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   Posted 12/22/2008 3:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Shia
You are very welcome and I found my self practcing breathing today.  It does work but takes practice and of course remembering to use it.
 
You are doing great.
Kitt
 

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summer_girliexo
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 12/22/2008 4:33 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks i'm really trying to just stay in the moment and just focus on the exciting week ahead :)
I'm alone, on my own, and that's all I know
I'll be strong, I'll be wrong, oh but life goes on
I'm just a girl, trying to find a place in this world
a


Mazfire
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   Posted 12/22/2008 5:37 PM (GMT -7)   
summer_girliexo said...
thanks i'm really trying to just stay in the moment and just focus on the exciting week ahead :)

thats the spirit! distract yourself by focusing on upcoming events. i KNOW how much it hurts, i really do. you have to distract yourself and most of all, dont cave in and call/or txt him. im so proud of you for not contacting him, its really the best way. cut the cord!!
Maz XX
            'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)                  
 
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