Anxiety 2007; IBS 2004; Chronic Hives 2002. Medications: Allegra, Zantac, Xanax, Darvocet.
Your boss is grieving and as she gets closer to Christmas she is going through anticipatory anxiety sensing that she is going to be unable to make it through alone.
You are not responsible for her feelings and I do not believe she is blaming you, she is just lashing out.
I lost a son to death and shortly afterward my cousin lost her husband. I went to visit as I had been dealing with grief and thought I could help.
As we visited she said to me losing a husband is much worse then losing a child. " He was my whole life, now I am alone." I did not argue and we went our own ways. 2 years later she was remarried so you can replace the relationship of a husband and fall in love again.
Shortly after that her daughter committed suicide, she was my goddaughter. My cousin now understands. Losng a child is not something you can ever have back.
I hope this explains grief a bit.
Millions of people live alone and you have done this before so just be yourself and never
So turn that frown upside down. You have done nothing wrong and Christmas will be a wonderful day of peace and good cheer. Get back on that horse girl and ride like the trouper I know you are.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Thank you so much. I do understand the grieving process but thank you for reminding me. I lost my young nephew and I know that first Christmas without him was very hard. I will try to keep how I felt in mind as I try to be the compassionate person I know I am. It is just hard to deal with the "lashing out" part of it. I do understand how she feels. Really I do. I guess I just don't understand the way she is taking her grief out on others. I'm not like that and I will just try to remember that each person deals with grief differently and I must try to be the person I am and that is all I can be.
As far as me waking up alone Christmas morning. Yes, I have done it many times and I guess I am having a bit of a pity party tonight. I am gonna put on my iPod and sing for a while and get things done for tomorrow.
Thank you so much my friend for reminding me about the grieving process. I really did need that.
I hope you and your family have a great Christmas.
I do know how you feel. Even thow your boss is grieving it hurts to have her lash out at you. I have been there many times here at home..........my hubby gets upset and hollers at me when it is someone or something else he is upset with. I have also been yelled at because my staff did something wrong......whoaaaaaaaaa. So I know the tears of feeling sad as you were having a good day and boom the bottom falls right out.
Put that Ipod on and dance to the music..............Let go of today and stay in the moment. Christmas will be Good.
Im sorry that you are bearing the brunt of your bosses grief at times, but what she is going through is something i cannot fathom. it would be like having half of you ripped off and thrown away. just keep doing what you are doing- be patient, even when she's hurtful- keep being the really awesome person you sound to be. just tell yourself that she is NOT angry with you and that she isnt hurting you intentionally.
stay strong and positive, blessings and peace to you-
Thank you all so much for being here for me. All of you have said some really wonderful things and I am going to work tomorrow with a renewed sense of who I am and that I am a good person and I will be as business-like as possible with my boss and keep the personal stuff at bay if I can. I truly understand the grieving she is doing. I feel for and I really wish there was something I could say or do to help make it all better for her, but there isn't. She knows we are there for her if she needs us.
Words cannot express how much I appreciate all of you here and how supportive and generous and giving of yourselves you all are.
How are things going, Diane? any improvement?
I hope you had a good christmas, please take care and keep us posted!
Good Morning Diane,
I hope you enjoyed your Christmas and found some peace. I have been thinking of you and just wanted to remind you that you are wise and wonderful and keep that self esteem up.
I am always here for you.