Kick those fears to the curb sweetie. It is time to begin a new year and you need to get past the worry about your body image. Now this advice is coming from someone who has been fixated on body image since she was 17.
Because thin females and muscular males are seen as the ideal in our society and because we have come to believe that body size and shape are totally under a person's control, most people enter diet and exercise programs with unrealistic goals and expectations. If you continually strive to achieve a socially imposed ideal, you will never be free of your insecurities or your self-consciousness. You must truly realize and then learn to accept that we are not all meant to be fashion-model size.
I have gained 25 pounds since starting AD and I do not want to run into anyone who knew me before as I am sure they will assume I have really packed on the pounds by eating............and people can be stupid. They will tell you right out.........."see you have porked up a bit." OUCH. I understand you well.
For many people, life's problems are projected onto their body. "If only I were thinner......., I would have made the team, gotten the job, been chosen. . . . If only I were thinner-- I could meet more people, find the right guy, be happy." This self-defeating habit is reinforced by the images we see in advertising; your body becomes an easy target for everything wrong in your life.
Accept your size. Love and appreciate the body you have. Self-acceptance empowers you to move on and make positive changes. You need your meds. :)
Recognize your unique attractivness. I have seen you pictures...................you are beautiful .
Gentle Hugs to my friend,
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
I am 47 and never married. I understand the feelings you are describing. I see my brother and sisters married many years now with kids and yeh, at times, I feel very alone and sad that I don't have what they have. I'm one who used to look at my body image and hate myself. For me, now, I have accepted that I am who I am and if someone can't love me for me, then he isn't worth having. I can't say I love being single, but if it is how my life was meant to be then so be it. I do pray to god for a special man but until that special man arrives, I live my life to the fullest. You are still very young at 29. Many people I know did not get married until their mid to late 30s or later. You still have your whole life ahead of you. So much possibility out there for you. I really do understand but instead of focusing on what you don't have and what your life is lacking, sit down and really look at what you do have and what you want and where you want to be and full steam ahead GO FOR IT.
Anxiety 2007; IBS 2004; Chronic Hives 2002. Medications: Allegra, Zantac, Xanax, Darvocet.
i really appreciate the support guys- when i was younger i never lacked male attention, i (for real) had the same body measurements as Elle Macpherson (im not arrogant, its just a fact- same measurements) and since i stacked on the weight, i have withdrawn as i see any potential suitors withdraw when they see i went and 'let myself go' as someone once told me.
so im still 6ft tall, but now im curvy- and because im assertive and confident and choosy, men run a mile. heaven forbid i have an opinion, an original thought, be intelligent- i dont want to be someones piece of meat or trophy wife.
i want someone to love me for my substance- i pray that i learn to love myself and give myself permission to be happy-
Try the old list writing.............
Write down all the good things about you and look at that list and say "Hey I am a great person"
I am sure it is harder having been thin and then having to take meds that pack on pounds. I was never thin but for once in my life.
OK, tis Monday here so heads up my friend.......and I might send you a laugh or too.