Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Kitt that is just awful. your son sounds like he cant catch a break. how dare your DIL charge up that money and not tell? taking the kids as well? from what you have said, your son is a good man. and from what i know of you, i know that you would have raised a gentleman, not someone who deserves to be dragged through the mud.
absolutely he is in my prayers, as are you. you need this like a hole in the head. please give yourself permission to be upset, i know you want to be strong for your son and grandkids, but its important that you try and stay well for yourself.
i teach kids with special needs, and i understand the child with aspergers will not react well to change, and change in the structure of his life. this can be really detrimental. the mother doesnt sound like she has it together (you mentioned she may be bi-polar?)
sending hugs and prayers and bucket fulls of love your way my precious friend,
I could just cry buckets right now. I hate when these things happen. I almost divorced earlier this year, so I know the awful feelings he's going through! The first thing he should do is go to counseling. He needs to hear that none of this is his fault. His wife needs counseling too, so she can see what she's doing to the family.
Your son needs to document everything from now on. The more information he has, the better. Courts always tend to side with the woman. Doesn't matter that she's a homewrecker or whatever. If he has things written down, he'll have a chance. Also, he obviously shouldn't give permission for the kids to leave the state. And his wife can't sell the house without his permission.
Kitt, you said you didn't know if you could take one more thing going wrong. Yes, you can. It doesn't feel like it, but you can. And so can your son. You both need to cry until you can't cry anymore. Counseling will help. Your poor son! I will pray for all of you!
Kitt... I am sooo very sorry this is happening to your son... and that you now this extra worry on your tired shoulders.... someone suggested he document everything... I think that is good advice... also it would be great if he could get his wife into a doctor for assessment...but I don't see how he could manage that one...How are the kids reacting to all of this. I think he should see a lawyer immediately and seek full custody of the children... before she has time to take any legal action... or has time to flee with the kids. I'm wondering what she has spent that 8,000.00 dollars on... its very suspicious. OH kitt... Lord, I wish I could be there to give you a big hug... If your son is anything like his mother... he will be strong and WILL get through this. ... and so will you... now you have to come to us often... complain, cry, vent... do what you need to... we all here for you!!!! YOU have held us up sooo often... in my case too often to count... now let us help you get through this... take the mod hat off and let it all out! There is nothing worse than watching your chidren suffer.... it is the absolute worst especially when we feel unable to help. You will help him though this... call him often... let him call you... let him vent.... maybe you should mention this site to him... we would all be here to support him.... Lord knows he probably has his share of anxiety at the moment.... send him to us.!
Thanks all, right now I am feeling so anxious I am feeling sick to my stomach. That is not like me. I just can't quit the tears.
Please pray for me...............someone, anyone. please.
Thank you all and I am trying to stay out of it for now and see how my son and his wife handle things. I do not want to interfere but I am praying and today has been a not so good day.
Thank you All
Bless you, My DIL is also ADHD. Now I fear she may be Bipolar and in some sort of manic phase with the irresponsible spending and running around to parties etc.
The one I fear for most is my granddaughter with Aspergers. She is on at least 5-6 meds and she needs stability in her life.
This is not good but I will hold tight. I want to call my son today to wish him a Happy New Year.
I am afraid to hear how it is going and praying it is going better.
I'm sending you and your entire family thoughts and you are in my prayers always. Gentle Huggles to you my friend. Sending you the strength you need.
Anxiety 2007; IBS 2004; Chronic Hives 2002. Medications: Allegra, Zantac, Xanax, Darvocet.