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jordaNZone
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   Posted 1/2/2009 8:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there..well it's been a rough month really..my dad passed away after a long illness shakehead anxiety has set in..I have lorazapam to help..but not wanting to be reliant..feel soo sad...even tho u are expecting someone to die - it's still hard to cope with sometimes..it's the phone calls I miss..and being able to ring Dad and tell him what I have been doing etc...Any helpful advice and understanding would be great :)
Maree

Nanners
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   Posted 1/2/2009 8:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Awww Maree I am so so sorry to hear about your father's passing. Its okay to grieve and cry, in fact I think it would be better to just let it all out. Go ahead and take your meds to help you make it thru. Sometimes we need a little help, and I think this is one time when you need the added help. I will keep you in my prayers.

God Bless,
Gail *Nanners*
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stkitt
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   Posted 1/2/2009 8:59 AM (GMT -7)   

Dear Maree,

You have all my sympathy.  I understand the death of a Father.  Let out the tears and know we are here praying for you. ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))

Life brings tears,
smiles and memories.
The tears dry,
the smile fades,
but the memories
live on forever.

Many prayers for you.

With deepest sympathy to you  and to your family

Kitt

 


 

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Georgie Girl
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   Posted 1/2/2009 9:01 AM (GMT -7)   

Oh Maree I can so relate.  I knew both of my parents' time was short but it still didn't make their deaths any easier.  It's been nearly 3 years since they both passed away (89 days apart) and it still hurts every day. 

I say use whatever help you need to see you through the most difficult times.  If it's medication, so be it. 

Believe it or not, eventually the pain from your loss will not be as sharp.  It will always be there though, you will never forget.

Best wishes to you.

GG

 


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Junebug05
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   Posted 1/2/2009 9:11 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry about the loss of your father.  My dad died almost 15 years ago, it's never easy to lose a parent.  Give yourself time to allow the feelings to be there, yes they are uncomfortable and I know that the anxiety seems to flare, but it's okay to let it be there and feel it.  There really is no way around it, just through it.  I promise you it does get easier, you will always love your dad and miss him, but it won't always hurt the way it does now.  All of us here are for you, so keep posting.  It does help to talk to others who have been through what you are going through now.  Hugs to you!

Aries8
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   Posted 1/2/2009 11:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Maree, I'm sorry to hear about your father. I will pray for both of you! Hang in there and do what you have to do to feel better. Carol

ocean1
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   Posted 1/2/2009 2:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Maree, I am so sorry to hear about your lost.  I want you to know you and your family are in my prayers.  Gentle hugs to you.

Diane
LET US BE GRATEFUL TO PEOPLE WHO MAKE US HAPPY. 
THEY ARE THE CHARMING GARDENERS WHO MAKE OUR SOULS BLOSSOM.

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/2/2009 2:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Maree
I am so sorry
I do know what you mean
I still go to pick up the phone to call dad and hear his voice
he has been gone a few months mom just about 3 yrs in March
When a father passes it is hard
I am fining it harder than when Mom passed away
I always see his face and hear his voice
I made memories so many of them during his last months here
I draw on them
Lil sis and I talk and she brings me back to the moment and I am okay again til I see something of his

The pain is something I cannot rid self of but I do know dad is now out of his pain and the world he was in and with the woman he loved for so long ............
That at least helps me out a bit
I wrote a poem or lil didy to dad on the Alzheimers forum ........crying all the while

I do feel your loss and you pain hun
I am so sorry ...........
Luvs
Lyn
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Green Grove
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   Posted 1/2/2009 3:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Maree,

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It is hard to lose a parent at any age. I lost my mother when I was young and still think about her daily. I feel blessed that the years have allowed the grief to subside and I think about all the happy times now. Please take care of yourself and let your grief have it's process. That is all any of us can do.

We are here if you need a shoulder Mauree.


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Post Edited (Green Grove) : 1/2/2009 7:13:49 PM (GMT-7)


Mazfire
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   Posted 1/2/2009 4:09 PM (GMT -7)   

Maree our lovely Mod- i am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I genuinely hope you find comfort and peace- this must be a terrible time for you. although i have lost family members i have not lost my dad, and will not pretend to understand the pain that must involve. cry, cry, cry. dont let people tell you you have to be "strong for the family" etc. the grieving process is long and complicated and very unique to each person- when i say you are in my prayers- you really are.

Again- im sorry for your loss and more sorry that i cant take that pain away-

Maz XX


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stkitt
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   Posted 1/2/2009 4:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Maree,

I have been thinking of you all day and I remember when my father died, I was 37 or so and he was my one person in the world I knew wold never abandon me............but cancer took him.

I am praying for you. Let those tears out and if your in public, just put on sun glasses............my therapist taught me that one.

Hugs to you my friend
Kitt



 

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jordaNZone
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   Posted 1/2/2009 5:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all sooo much for your your love and support..means the world to me to know you are all out there..hope I can help u all in someway soon xoxo Am gonna check out some counselling in the coming week - am sure that will help and have decided to start journalling my inner thoughts - I know these things work :)
 
 
 
 
 


Mazfire
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   Posted 1/2/2009 6:10 PM (GMT -7)   

Maree, i recently lost my precious uncle and was given the honour of doing his eulogy. i included this poem at the end cos the words really comforted me at a time when the pain was raw. I hope that maybe you can get some comfort from these words also:

Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury,pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.


O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen

much love to you Maree, you and your family are in my prayers at this time,

Maz XX



            'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)                  
 
Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, CFS, Fibromyalgia, TMJ disorder, Endometriosis, PCOS, Chronic E.N.T infections, Reactive Arthritis, GERD, Sinusitis, IBS,  Allergies, Glandular fever, Migraines, Anemia, Chemical/Noise/Light sensitivity, Trichotilomania, PTSD, Seasonal Mood  Disorder, OCD, Benign Vertigo,  Impaired immune system. Tachycardia, tinnitus, low clotting factor= bruising. Tendonitis, Bursitis.
Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Celebrex. Mobic. Panadeine Forte. Digesic. Nexium.
Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
Age:28. First diagnosed at 14. Proud Aussie.
 
 

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