RebelSkye, welcome to HW. I am so sorry that you are dealing with family illness- of course you want someone to be strong for you- its ok to feel helpless. is your sister in hospital at the moment? are you dealing directly with her physicians? Your brother-in-law sounds insensitive- im sorry if that seems harsh, but to wait 2 weeks to get emergency medical attention is simply not good enough. Do YOU have a support system? Friends, parents, other family who can help you carry this weight? Im sorry you have to experience this and just want you to know that we are here to listen, support, advise and encourage. Its normal in a situation like yours to feel overwhelmed- no one should have to carry the load of nursing a loved one by themselves. Is there anyway to get home help or a community nurse to stop in and check in on your sister? im sure you need a break, but feel guilty if you take one. if your feelings are truly troubling you, maybe you could talk to your doctor about counselling?
Please, stay with us, keep us posted. dont give up and dont give in, we are here to listen.
I'm so sorry you are going through such an awful time. It is incredibly difficult to lose a loved one. Please don't feel that you need to be strong for your family. You should be supporting each other..not feeling you need to act.
We are here to listen and support you too k? I am not a health professional so I can't comment on your sisters disease. I hope you have time to say goodbye and I am sure she knows you love her.
Let us know how you go,
Thanks everyone for you comments. No I don't have anyone else to go to. The one I always went to passed last April from cancer. Both my parents are gone, which I cared for also. One brother is in Indiana the other one here I care for also. One sister has Parkenson in Colorado, the other is not really well since her hit and run, it affected her brain. I have cared for everyone for years except for one.
She is not in the hospital she is under hospice care at home. I am close to all my siblings but this one well tight just isn't the word. I see her getting worse everyday. It's hard.
You were not being harsh my brother in law and I don't get along with him. I pretend to keep my stress down, but its not real.
I appreciate you all for responding it helps gives me a little piece. I have not given up hope but on the other hand I can feel it coming. I have a panic disorder most of my family has it too, so that makes it harder. I average at least 5 a day most times more.
Again thanks for responding, I needed it.