Mizzbeautiful: You said 'but i really dont know how much more i can take from her at this point'
Now there's a thought of being trapped which is over the top for a person dealing with anxiety! Here is your mother
Here is you Does that sum it up well? Remember that no matter how dire cirumstances seem that there are always options and that you are never trapped..even if it feels like it. Since you are young and probably healthy, then you might try increasing your exercise intensity and frequency to relieve anxiety. You never know how far it may take you. Dealing with anxiety through exercise actually landed me in the fitness field! Keep venting..but don't get lost in it. Try free healing methods like yoga and emotional freedom technique. You can start overcoming anxiety and releasing its icy grip on your happiness. Have faith you will. We are all here to help you.
Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 1/22/2009 8:59:44 PM (GMT-7)
"Our greatest problems in life come not
so much from the situations we confront
as from our ability to handle them"
"Define the moment or....the moment will define you!"
I am looking at your problem from a different angle here and whatever I post I mean to be respectful to both you and your Mother.
Communication strikes me as the problem. You are an adult with a 5 year old and your still a child under your Mother's roof. I would guess that is how the two of you are looking at this problem.
I am a great believer in staying in the moment which I learned in therapy. Making ourself miserable is how we tend to spend a lot of time in the past or the future. We spend much time thinking about what was and what could have been. And we spend much time projecting into the future and wondering about what may happen.
I wish you the best and take care of you .
This way of thinking is indeed a great way to make much of your life a lot more miserable and limited than necessary. The key to solving this problem is of course to live as much as you can in the only moment that you ever really live in and control. This moment right now. The moment that is all there ever was and - probably - will be.
But how can you step away from the thought loops that whirl back and forth through your memories and fantasies?
How do you actually return to the present moment?
Focus on what’s right in front of you,
Try to be assertive with your Mom, think of putting a lock on you bedroom door as you do have a right to your privacy. I am not sure how your living arrangements are set up as this may not work unless you have a room all to yourself.