Gone into OCD overload for a reason tho

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   Posted 1/21/2009 8:55 AM (GMT -6)   
I just found my girlfriend whose in holiday in China for a month, is about month and half overdue for p. Thus is probably pregnant infact with anxiety disorder and im 99% positive she is jus makes sense. The thing is she Von Willebrands disease Type2 which is like haemophillia. So  there is a chance she could die in labour. Worse than that even is vWF is autosomnal dominant which means the baby has 50% chance of getting it. So there chance she and baby could die and also baby could be affected, i dnt even wana think about what tht could mean. Neways im just OCDin away constantly thinking about the if buts maybes. If she is pregnant do we keep the kid, how am im gonna support it and will they both make it through the child birth. Dnt think people with are suppost to handle situations like this well but will try and stay strong for her .. if of course she pregnant.. its definite yet jus really likely. I wont find out for sure until feb 2nd when shes back so i get to OCD my life away til then.
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   Posted 1/21/2009 9:05 AM (GMT -6)   


First of all I would have your gf see a physician to confirm if she is pregnant and then take it from there. Remember my friend, one day at a time.

If she is pregnant then I would ask the physician to seek genetic counseling as well as clarify if you gf is in danger and if so what does her physician suggest?

I would put a hold on your OCD and just stay in the moment.  IMHO you will do better if you fight off the OCD. You know we are here to support you.

Gentle Hugs to you




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   Posted 1/21/2009 12:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Kitt helped you already. My input is to tell you not to worry about the future. Try not to, anyway. Medicine has come a long way so try to remember that. Her doctor will have the answers. As for your OCD, you're stressed. Do whatever it takes to relieve the stress and anxiety. Keep your mind on positive things. Stay busy but not frantic. Good luck!
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   Posted 1/21/2009 3:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Badfish,

I have to agree with both Kitt and Aries. Find out the facts of the situation and do kick them scary/warpy thoughts to the curb. If you are going to be a father, then you have to stay strong for that little precious baby!

Take care and know we are here for you :)
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   Posted 1/22/2009 9:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey, badfish!

Hang on; we're all right here with you. Pondering a baby is certain a big deal, but you are realizing that you can't start looking for answers until your girlfriend gets back. I'm glad you're aware of how that's affecting your OCD and anxiety. It's so hard to avoid planning ahead for all the options - I think it's part of the way we anxious folks make ourselves feel safe: we're prepared, or at least we don't feel so unprepared.

Try to tell yourself now that you have thought through all the options that you can until she gets back. You *have* done what you're able to for right now, and that's a good and strong thing. Remind yourself that you have sorted it out so far, and so once you two have even more information, you *will* be able to sort out what comes next. In other words, you've handled it pretty well so far, proving you've got the ability to keep handling it well. I know you probably don't feel like that, but I think it's true. You've planned ahead, and so try to let it go until the time comes to put your plans into action.

Big, big hugs,


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   Posted 1/24/2009 12:10 AM (GMT -6)   
ty for advice every1 idea . im handling everything ok sort of... I aws much better after i got rant of my chest. I have phoned in sick 2day running but just needed some time to clear my head. I think there is not too much point in worrying bout things rite now until she is back so going to enjoy freedom while it lasts tongue I wil post with more news next monday probly. Hope evrey1 is well.


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