"Define the moment or....the moment will define you!"
Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably . And never regret anything that made you smile
I agree with Gilly
Nip it in the bud right now and say NO! This is absolutely ridiculous and these young people need to learn some respect. . . The sooner the better in my honest opinion. I used to have people use me right and left. . . Felt like a victim and started my little pity party because of getting hurt, but then I realized something. . . I was too soft and I was empowering these leeches to hurt me. Ultimately I knew that it was not so much their fault as it was mine. . . . Don't do this to yourself. It is not worth your health and peace of mind trying to please people that obviously won't help themselves, with the exception of to your money.
I wish you the best and put your foot down before it gets worse! You take care of you with no regrets for it my friend
Post Edited (Green Grove) : 1/26/2009 4:00:37 AM (GMT-7)
Sydnee, this is not the 1st time you have posted a thread about being used- is it the same friend as last time? it sounds like people take you for granted, which is unfair. but you are right, as you said they are USING you and thats not what friendship is about.
I should have only put $10 Gas in her Vehicle.I can't expect anyone to take me places and not put Gas in their Vehicle.I bought the 3 of them Food,because it would of been wrong of me to buy something to eat and they go without.Where she took advantage of me was asking for $30..they were with me when I returned the items to Wal-Mart,so knew I had Money.
Though I don't feel like a victim,not trying to please or pitying myself,I feel at the mercy of others because I don't have a Car.I'm stuck until I can buy a Car.
Just a Woman struggling to get the necessities I need (Car) so I don't have to rely on others and can regain all of my independence.
These young People don't know the first thing about respect.Their lives are chaotic and they thrive on ever constant drama and $h*t stirring!
Post Edited (Sydnee10) : 1/26/2009 4:23:53 AM (GMT-7)
Think I posted threads about 2 Friends.One Friend who borrowed $480..finally got $200 back.She is gonna have to "cough" up the remaining $280 she owes me coz I have Bills to pay..I deposited $700 into the Checking Account of another Friend (Mother of the Gal who cost me $75 +) who is very sick.She has been sick in Bed 12 + Weeks and no one other than her Hubby to take care of her.He hasn't worked in like 2-2-1/2 Month's.Ungrateful Daughter works 12 hour shifts 4 on/4 off,but her chaotic,drama filled and Video playing life is more important than her Mother.She,her Partner and the 2 young Boy's live 1 House down.They only go over to use the Phone,get Food,Dishes,Towels or whatever they want (without asking of course!).My Friend was $600 overdrawn in her Checking Account,so I bailed her out of overdrafts and deposited an extra $100 in her Account..I'll NEVER see that Money again.We're supposed to help each other,but it crosses the line when we have hoards of People with Hands held out or when we go without.Sick Friend Adopted her Daughter who belonged to a life long School Friend.Her Dad and Grandmother BEGGED and PLEADED that she NOT Adopt her Daughter because of "bad-Blood" in the Biological Mother's Family.They knew what they were talking about,but she wouldn't listen.
Post Edited (Sydnee10) : 1/26/2009 4:47:45 AM (GMT-7)
Good Morning Sydnee,
May I ask that you post all your answers under one post instead of making 3 posts to answer the members........bandwidth is a commondity on the site. Lyn has been posting this request throughout the forum for all.
You have posted about friends using you re money and stealing your charger etc. This is where you become assertive and just exercise your right to say No.
I know you are struggling, well now is the time to take care of you. You are venting as your upset with them for asking and for you for giving in. If you had said No to the money they asked for, food, cigarettes etc, what would have been the worst thing that would happen?
Post Edited (stkitt) : 1/26/2009 5:37:59 PM (GMT-7)
Co-Moderator, Anxiety and Panic Forum
Post Edited (Green Grove) : 1/26/2009 4:21:51 PM (GMT-7)
I meant exactly what Maz said, post one answer and address all the people you want to respond to at that time. I know when a thread gets long of course you are going to have times you will post more then once. A thread is different then a post.I am getting the feeling that you are being sarcastic of my replies to you. We have been trying to help each other in A & P by asking how we might have handled a situation different when our anxiety or anger kicks in. We have all been working on ways to decrease our anxiety.
The members here are family and we do our best not to hurt one another. I was not trying to hurt you and if you reread what I posted you will see that was not my intent.
I am sorry you feel you have been disrespected.
Again I was not criticizing you..............
Post Edited (stkitt) : 1/26/2009 8:25:59 PM (GMT-7)
EDIT: I have edited my post. I agree the written word can be misunderstood. Kitt
We can't see each others Faces/Body language when posting/replying threads,so of course it's easily to misunderstand..
Meg,regarding your response,I didn't disrespect Kitt.
Post Edited (Sydnee10) : 1/26/2009 10:09:13 PM (GMT-7)
Can we please remember that this is a forum for healing? Kitt is tireless in her efforts to help us all. If you wish to disrespect her and others who simply wish to help then why be angry? We all want peace.
Take gentle care. I wish you no harm.