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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 1/26/2009 8:17 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm 55. I have a sign of Altzheimers, maybe.
I am upset.
I'm a mess over a stupid thing.

I can't remember my address and phone number.
Concentration comes very hard for me because I have Chronic Pain.
However, this number thing is awful.

When anyone asks me my phone number or address, I panic.
I have it written on my purse now so I just glance down.
Today I had to give this information on the phone.
My mind totally blocked. I didn't know up from down.
I hung up.

I have house moved about eight times in the past seven years.
I have found the moves traumatic. I believe moving is traumatic
to most people. I have lived in my current home for three weeks.

I don't drive. I'm lost in this big city. I'm embarassed by how many
times my husband and I have moved. (This time we moved because the
rent was too high for the changed economy)


There's the street number, the apartment number, the zip code
There's the area code, the phone number
There's the cell phone, the area code

I'm serious about this. Can anyone help me? smhair

Jan Marie
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   Posted 1/26/2009 8:31 PM (GMT -6)   

Hallo Pamela.  My goodness... you have moved eight times in seven years???!!  No wonder you have trouble remembering the numbers, especially with chronic pain to deal with too.  AND you have only been there three weeks.... you are being too hard on yourself. 

I am 53 and today I couldn't remember the registration number of the car I have owned for eight years.  Relax, don't worry, you are normal!  Writing the numbers on your purse was a really good idea.... how about a list by the phone too for the next time you may need it, or anywhere else that might be handy.  I live my life by lists..... especially at Christmas when I need lists of my lists!

I honestly don't think you have Alzheimers.  All my friends of the same age have the same problems.

Take care and I hope your latest home will be a very happy one for you.




Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 1/26/2009 9:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for your quick response, Jan Marie.
I believe my problem doesn't sound too bad.
BUT it is.
I could not put into words the way I feel.
It has to do with the moves and all that my
life has become.
So hard.
I think I need to hang out a bit on the Anxiety Forum.
Maybe I'll get better.
I go to a psychiatrist but he doesn't talk. (Not at all)
I don't think any psychiatrists talk.
If you want talk therapy, you have to go to a psychologist and
I don't want to go to one.
(Last one I went to - a woman - tried to date me!)
At the time, orientation was not my problem
but it sure became my problem really quick.
(That was a long time ago - but stuff stays with us)

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   Posted 1/26/2009 10:11 PM (GMT -6)   

Hey there my friend,

I understand why you cannot remember your address after only 3 weeks and I agree that  writing it down was a great idea. idea

I cannot remember my cell phone number and I forget my debit card access number and have to call home and ask my hubby. smhair

I think you have hit on your problem, your anxiety is up and with the financial situation in dire straights you are anxious about what will happen next.

America's financial crises is fueling chronic stress and limiting some people's ability to think clearly, control emotions and regulate bodily functions in a healthy manner.

Now is the time to take control of emotions and better regulate the mind-body stress response.

Productive worry is thinking on situations you can control, and you should use productive worry to take actions that reduce stress and relieve anxiety.

Unproductive worry is thinking about things you cannot control.

Take a break. Don't saturate yourself with stressful information. Stay informed, but take a news break. Most people don't need to track the markets minute by minute."

Stay connected. Don't let the rest of your life dwindle away. Make sure you are paying attention to daily activities: family, friends, social occasions and recreation.

Have you ever done the fre CBT online.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy is based on the idea that our thoughtscause our feelings and behaviors, not external things, like people, situations,and events. The benefit of this fact is that we can change the way we think to
feel / act better even if the situation does not change.

Here is the link:

Please take a look at it.  It may be just what you need.

Take care and know we are here for you.




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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 1/27/2009 5:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Wow stkitt you have my problem nailed. I guess I'm not the only one here in a
Worryland. What has our government done to all of us?!

I have the added stress of Chronic Pain. When it first hit me seven years ago we
moved and spent so much of our savings on trips to high-price clinics, hotels. And
then there's the expense of learning to cope in a changed world that is now filled with physical

I don't even know where I belong ... Chronic Pain, Stress & Anxiety, Depression Stomach Problems
... or all of the above.

The stress has found it's way into our marriage - blame, anger ... Oh, the situation is not good.

Your post did help. I will try moodgym tomorrow. But I still have this feeling that the prroblems
have just gone too dam deep. My husband of 38 years is a million miles away in his thoughts. I don't
know him any more and we were so close.


Green Grove
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   Posted 1/27/2009 3:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Pamela :)

Can't give you much more great advice than you already recieved. I'm glad you are starting MoodGYM, it will help you get rid of those Scary/Warpy Thoughts :) Don't worry so much about not being able to remember the numbers, I'm 33 and have that issue myself a lot! My grandmother is 87 and is gets scared when she can't remember everything, and I always tell her that a person's mind can't hold onto everything, or we would spin out of control. Our brains protect us to some degree by not having total recall because it is just too much info and the older we get, the more we have in our heads. We started scrapbooking with our photos and family stories to help remember, plus we keep important numbers on hand by the telephone and on our person when we go somewhere. I think things like this is very helpful to help with the fear :)

With the darned anxiety comes many other challenges, like depression, chronic pain from tension, and of course the stomach issues due to the stress as well. . . Plus many other things. I am sorry that you and your hubby are on different levels right now but I'm sure that you all can sort yourselves out with a bit of time. Maybe you all can sit down as friends and talk about the way you both are feeling. . . Even see a counselor to help mediate if you need. It is no wonder you both are stressed and lashing out each other with all of the moves, changes and illnesses you both have experienced for several years. That would be hard on anyone. Plus most men tend to bottle up their emotions the older they get, while women become more emotional and loving. . . It can be a really difficult transition without that good communication.

You take care and keep marching on. Do your free online therapy and some of the Breathing and Relaxation exercises. It is so helpful for all of the issues you are dealing with. Maybe you can get your husband to join in with you? When I'm in the middle of my relaxation stuff, I have both family and friends join in with me and we have a lot of fun with it :)

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Good luck!

Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort . . . Your Bro . . . Sam :)
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