Yes, yes, yes, absolutely! Good topic Sam. I have always been a high achiever and expect perfection from myself at work, in my studies, as a friend, even in my weight and apperance. I would never put such stringent expecations on any other human being and yet it's okay for me to do it myself. Insane!
I would love to be one of those laid back people who doesn't beat themselves up for every little thing that goes wrong, but I guess it's a part of who I am now. It does feel great when achievements are made...but I can't help but feel that I would be a great deal less anxiious and prone to panic if I could calm down and allow myself to fail everyone once in a while.
Let me re-phrase that, I would like to be able to fail and be flawed and not spend two weeks beating myself up over it.
OH YES!!! I'm very Type-A and had high expectations placed on me since I was a kid. MY father made it very clear that once we all turned 18yrs old we were pretty much cut off and needed to get a scholarship or pay for our own college. He expected us to all make honors in school. MY mother favored the boys in the family and so the girls spent many yrs trying to be perfect to gain her acceptance...it never came.
I've relased my anger and bitterness towards them for the most part. Once I became and adult and had my own kids I knew I needed to get myself together.
I'm trying to learn that my value has nothing to do with the letters behind my name or the degree on my wall. I still have body image issues but Im working on those too. I've worked to spend more quality time with my family and schedule time for myself just to chill out and relax/meditate. I also try to help others/volunteer when I can because I know that I hve been very blessed even with the challenges I have mentally/physically.
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I always have unrealistic expectations and that is the main problem that is causing my anxiety!