Please help me guys - I am an anxiety/nervous wreck

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anxiousman24
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   Posted 1/30/2009 4:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi guys

I am a male from UK and have been suffering from this problem and hope that someone can help me with it.

It all started when I had a protected sexual encounter with a person of unknown sexual status in 2007 October. After this incident I suffered for 1 whole year because of the fear that I had caught HIV. I could not handle the mental stress anymore and decided to get an HIV test in October 2008. My test result was negative and I was happy for some time. However, incidents which happened during the test and afterwards have generated new fears within me and I have become an anxiety/nervous wreck once again and it is destroying my life. I will tell you exactly what happened.

2 weeks after I received my HIV negative result, I suddenly remembered something which happened at the clinic. On the first day I went to the clinic for a blood test, I gave my real contact details to the lady on the counter (there is an option of giving false names/addresses but I gave my real details). Then she asked me to go to a room where some other people were also waiting. I went and sat there and waited for the nurse to come and call my name. After some time a nurse came and called a name which sounded bit like mine. However she pronounced it very differently. Her pronunciation was not clear but at the same time it sounded bit like my name so I went to her and pronounced my name properly to her. She said okay so I thought it must be my name that she called and went with her. She took my blood & urine samples and asked me to come after 2 weeks to get the result. I went to get the result 2 weeks after the test and this time the clinician called my name clearly and I went in and got my negative test result.

I’m worried that the nurse called someone else’s name and I have gone in and done the test thinking it was my name. I’m worried that the HIV result of my blood sample is now linked to someone else’s patient record and vice versa. I know this is virtually impossible and sounds stupid but I couldn’t get that thought out of my mind. When I went in to do the blood test, the nurse asked and got my date of birth from me so I think she must have checked it with the details I gave earlier to the lady at the counter but I’m still not sure. The same nurse phoned me about 10 days after my blood test to confirm that I was coming to get my test result. Even then she pronounced my name differently and I pronounced it correctly to her again. She said ok and made sure that I was coming to get my result.

3 weeks passed with these thoughts on my mind. I finally thought I’m going to visit the clinic again and ask them if there could be a possible mix up.

Below is what I said to the nurse (this was a different nurse) when I went to re-confirm. The nurse had my records and test results when I talked to her.

“I came for an HIV test about a month ago and received my results and I was diagnosed HIV negative. However, the day I came for my blood test, the nurse called my name and she pronounced it very differently. Her pronunciation was not clear but at the same time it sounded bit like my name so I went to her and pronounced my name properly to her. She said okay and took me to the test room and got my blood samples & urine samples. Thing is I’m worried that I went in for another persons name”

After listening to this, the nurse said that there could be no mix up as they use a unique number with date of birth for every ones test samples before they send it to the labs so no mix up can happen. Because she said that such a mix up can’t happen, I did not try to understand exactly how such labeling can avoid mix ups. I still don’t understand it but I trust her because I think they know better than us and I don’t think they would lie/misinform us on such a serious matter. If any of you understood how they avoid mix ups like this with the labeling method she mentioned, please let me know.

Anyway I thought (even u guys must be thinking) my problems are over but now another fear has entered my mind.

During the conversation with the nurse, I said “Thing is I’m worried that I went in for another persons name”

When I said that does it sound like

1) I went in giving a different name rather than giving my real name
2) I went in for another persons test because I thought I heard the nurse call my name when it was indeed another persons name

I’m worried because I think she must have given me an explanation on understanding something similar to number 1. If she said that there can be no mix up thinking if something like number 2 happened – then it’s okay.

Most of you must be thinking I’m the dumbest person on earth and I too wonder from where the hell does this stupid logic coming in to my mind. I want to tell you that I’m not joking and I’m still suffering from fear and anxiety.

Please give your views and help me because it will really be good for me to ease my tension & anxiety. Sorry for this long post.

Thanks
Nervous_wreck

Hibee
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   Posted 1/30/2009 6:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi
welcome to healingwell this is a good forum. Sounds to me that you are suffering with anxiety, you said the nurse told you there can be no mistake due to the number on label which has your date of birth on it so I think you need to trust what she said. Anxiety can really play with your mind and you can worry about things for ages. Are you taking any medication to help with anxiety? I would say once you have sorted your anxiety out things will be much clearer. I suffer with health anxiety and convince myself I have all sorts of things. If it is really bothering you, you could go for an other test just a suggestion.

Keep posting here we are here to listen.

Take care

anxiousman24
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   Posted 1/30/2009 6:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you very much for your reply. I think that the probability a mistake like this happening is low. It's just that these what if questions keep bugging me.

To tell u the truth i am able to forget these thoughts on some days but they keep coming back and haunt me.
The process of waiting an year to know my HIV status really put me down mentally.

What do u think about the probability of such a mistake happening ?

Anyway I will try to get more suggestion from you all and if it does not help i will go for another test as you said.

Thanks once again.

anxiousman24
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   Posted 1/30/2009 6:43 AM (GMT -7)   
no i do not take any medication

stkitt
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   Posted 1/30/2009 7:07 AM (GMT -7)   
anxiousman24

Good Morning and welcome to HealingWell. I am going to give you an answer and hopefully it will help you understand the steps a lab will go through to prevent mistakes from happening.

First of all you must have filled out a form and your name and date of birth were on the form. A chart was put together for you.

Many people mispronounce my last name and I correct them when I am called in for an appointment.

Did anyone else stand up and think they were being called when this event happed?

The Lab has to have an order with your name, and date of birth and clinic number assigned to you. Most clinics use labels that are printed from your registratioin each time you are at the clinic so the date is also on the form.

The lab did the correct process for identifying you before drawing blood. The asked you your name and your date of birth. 2 proofs they had the correct patient. If it matched you order then they proceeded to do the lab draw.

When the results came back they were attached to the medical record that was created for you the first day.

The probability of another person with your last name and same birthday are extremely low.

Yes, we have all heard of mix ups happening so if your anxiety does not go away, go to a different lab and have a redraw. Remember I am not a professional.

I hope this has helped you understand the process a bit better.

Take care
Kitt

paniccu
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   Posted 1/30/2009 7:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Well, I really do think you are worrying for nothing, but that's easy for me to say right? I think you're having a lot of health anxiety and you can't convince yourself that you tested ok. I could see how the labeling thing would throw you off, because if you presume you went in for the wrong person, than the label info would have been listed for them and not you right? After you were called in did anyone take further info or were you just tested? Whenever I've had blood tests done they always ask me my dob and address. Did they do that for you? If so, they would have made sure it matched with the info they had on you at that time. If not, what were the chances that you were in the waiting room with someone who had an almost identical name as yours at the same time as you for the same exact test? What were the chances that when the name was called they wouldn't have responded if it were actually their name called? If the nurse who called you in was really pronouncing someone elses name that sounded like yours, what happened to that person? What are the chances that the other person would have actually tested under your name? These scenarios seem highly unlikely. Also, the fact that the nurse who called you had the same accent and mispronounciation as the nurse who tested you makes me think she just can't say your name right :-). Still need convincing? If you do, than I would also suggest another test. Hope you can put your mind at ease about this.

anxiousman24
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   Posted 1/30/2009 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you very much paniccu and stkitt. u guys r great.

I am starting to feel better after i read your replies. I think u guys r right. I have a very weak mind and can't accept the real factors and the low probability of such an occurrence.

I feel good now. Lets see if my anxiety passes away & if it doesn't, i will retest. It's good to talk o people when one is worried like this.

thanks

anxiousman24
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   Posted 1/30/2009 8:26 AM (GMT -7)   
To stkitt:

First of all you must have filled out a form and your name and date of birth were on the form. A chart was put together for you.

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Yes I gave all my details - name , DOB, mobile no, address. The nurse had a a record which i think is mine when she called my name for the blood test
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Many people mispronounce my last name and I correct them when I am called in for an appointment.

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I pronounced my first name to her. I assume she heard it correctly
||

Did anyone else stand up and think they were being called when this event happed?

||
No one stood up. I think i went towards her the 2nd time she called me.
||

The Lab has to have an order with your name, and date of birth and clinic number assigned to you. Most clinics use labels that are printed from your registratioin each time you are at the clinic so the date is also on the form.


The lab did the correct process for identifying you before drawing blood. The asked you your name and your date of birth. 2 proofs they had the correct patient. If it matched you order then they proceeded to do the lab draw.

|| The nurse asked my date of birth inside the room. I think she asked my name as well but i can't rmbr.

When the results came back they were attached to the medical record that was created for you the first day.

|| Yes. I saw this clearly

The probability of another person with your last name and same birthday are extremely low.

|| yes thats true

Yes, we have all heard of mix ups happening so if your anxiety does not go away, go to a different lab and have a redraw. Remember I am not a professional.

I hope this has helped you understand the process a bit better.

Take care
Kitt cool cool
THANKS MAN

anxiousman24
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   Posted 1/30/2009 8:30 AM (GMT -7)   
To paniccu:

Well, I really do think you are worrying for nothing, but that's easy for me to say right? I think you're having a lot of health anxiety and you can't convince yourself that you tested ok. I could see how the labeling thing would throw you off, because if you presume you went in for the wrong person, than the label info would have been listed for them and not you right?
|| Yes||

After you were called in did anyone take further info or were you just tested?
||She asked for my date of birth, i also think she asked my name but i cant remember clearly||

Whenever I've had blood tests done they always ask me my dob and address. Did they do that for you?
||She asked for my date of birth, i also think she asked my name but i cant remember clearly||

If so, they would have made sure it matched with the info they had on you at that time. If not, what were the chances that you were in the waiting room with someone who had an almost identical name as yours at the same time as you for the same exact test? What were the chances that when the name was called they wouldn't have responded if it were actually their name called? If the nurse who called you in was really pronouncing someone elses name that sounded like yours, what happened to that person? What are the chances that the other person would have actually tested under your name? These scenarios seem highly unlikely. Also, the fact that the nurse who called you had the same accent and mispronounciation as the nurse who tested you makes me think she just can't say your name right :-). Still need convincing? If you do, than I would also suggest another test. Hope you can put your mind at ease about this.

|| yes they seem to be very low ||

THANKS MAN. I'M FEELING BETTER. KIT.

stkitt
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   Posted 1/30/2009 8:49 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so glad you are feeling better. Support groups are a place for people to give and receive both emotional and practical support as well as to exchange information.

I am glad we were able to help lower your anxiety. Bless you and stick with us.

Kitt

paniccu
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   Posted 1/30/2009 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Glad we could help and you are feeling a bit better about this!

Green Grove
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   Posted 1/30/2009 1:00 PM (GMT -7)   
I am glad that you are feeling more relieved Anxiousman24! Nice to meet you and I hope you enjoy our Anxiety-Panic forum :)

anxiousman24
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   Posted 2/2/2010 9:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi guys,

How r things ? It's been a long time since I posted here so i decided to come back. I have significantly improved since posting here. My mental health has improved a lot & my anxiety has gone down. I still get scared once in a while with irrational thoughts but when i come here i'm able to calm myself.

Thanks again for d help. Everyday I appreciate your help.

TC - anxiousman24

Post Edited (anxiousman24) : 2/2/2010 9:24:37 PM (GMT-7)

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