The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook.
Please do stay in the moment sweetie and remember, the "scary guy" is dead and you cannot blame his faults and actions on his family. Your S.O. felt a need to go and out of respect to him I think you would be best to let go of this anger and hurt.
Just my 2 cents worth.
He did not go to hurt you. I am sure of that.
Forgive the deceased and let him rest in peace.
I agree with Kitt, Machelle, and I would just like to say I'm sorry that you went through this. . . The man is gone now so now you can move on into your future without the fear. As a guy I can say that many of us men don't feel the deep emotions a woman does and the scary thoughts many of you carry with you because of the things that could happen to you all that we don't experience as much, so your husband is probably doing what feels right for him and can not understand the depths of your feelings about this situation. . . I'm sure he loves you deeply and would never hurt you if he knew.
I wish you and your hubby the best. . . I pray you can let it go and just be the great woman that you are :)
Post Edited (Green Grove) : 2/4/2009 1:18:27 PM (GMT-7)
I still think the funeral is for this man's family and I don't know that staying away from his funeral because of his illnesses and threats is fair to the family. I really would think about the good things in your life and choose your battles.
Other then wanting to pay his respects to the family and perhaps connect with some old friends who never did you harm I do not see that he was disrespectful of your wishes.
I hope you can let go or this or talk it out with your hubby.
"Define the moment or....the moment will define you!"
Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably . And never regret anything that made you smile
Post Edited (gilly-love) : 2/4/2009 5:18:03 PM (GMT-7)