Tuesday Roll Call 2/17/2009

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Green Grove
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   Posted 2/17/2009 10:42 AM (GMT -7)   
G'Day Team A/P!  Hope you all are doing great today tongue
 
Do you have a healthy inner dialogue?
 
This question is basically asking if you talk to yourself with kindness and respect.  If not. . .
 
Would you let somebody else speak to you like this?
 
 
 
Sam smilewinkgrin

stkitt
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   Posted 2/17/2009 11:19 AM (GMT -7)   

Sam I am having a sad dialogue with myself right now...........trying to pull on all my strength to remind myself I have rights.

Kitt


Celey
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   Posted 2/17/2009 11:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Weeeeeeeeeeeelllllll..... This is a hard question because my inner dialogue consists of "two me's" talking to me. One is cold, rational to a fault, critical, and unforgiving. The other one is warm, gentler, kinder... They usually come at me at the same time during an incident in my life. For instance, if I got yelled at.... This will always upset me...

Here's how it goes:

"She's yelling at me for not doing enough around the house, and yet she's the one that begs Grandma for pain pills just to do anything. You're being a complete idiot. What do you think crying is going to do? You need to just shut up, do what you're told, and block them all out." - Cold, rational me.... (If I make a mistake, say, if I forgot half of my homework or something, this voice will berate me to no end.)

"Shh, shh. It's okay. It's okay. Don't cry. Calm down. It'll be okay. It'll be all right. Think of happy things. Hugs, pillows, dogs.." - Gentle voice....

...

And that's how it is.... And yeah, I would let people talk to me like this... because as I already mentioned, I'm a spineless chicken. :(
I think I am being picked on by life, sometimes. But's that okay. Life and I are good buddies... I know life doesn't mean no harm. It just is the way it is. I can accept that.


Green Grove
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   Posted 2/17/2009 1:55 PM (GMT -7)   
My inner dialogue is usually pretty good thanks to CBT and other things, but I am my own worst critic and enemy. . . I'll sometimes pick myself apart and be mean to myself if somebody hurts me or I don't follow through with my goals. I am so glad I'm slowly getting better with this :) I don't know why I do it, because the way I am today, I would never allow anybody to speak to me like this. . . Guess I need to apply the same rules to myself.
Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort . . . Your Bro . . . Sam :)
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stkitt
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   Posted 2/17/2009 5:16 PM (GMT -7)   

Great Question Sam,

Hey my family,  take the time to post your thoughts on this question........... confused shocked rolleyes idea turn wink smilewinkgrin smilewinkgrin turn nono turn :-) :-)

Kitt


 

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melbe
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   Posted 2/17/2009 6:49 PM (GMT -7)   

Sadly the answer for me would be no.  I constantly beat myself up and I'm way too hard on myself.  Hopefully the CBT will help me with this soon.  Celey, I do the same thing sometimes, it's like an angel and a devil on your shoulder and usually the devil wins out for me lately anyways.  Hey I'm a spineless chicken too and if someone talked to me the way I talk to myself I would probably just cry and feel sorry for myself.  Some days I am nicer to myself than others and I can tell on those days that my anxiety is so much easier to deal with.  You think it would be easier to be nice to yourself.

Mel


AuroraRavencrow
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   Posted 2/17/2009 8:30 PM (GMT -7)   
I would have to say no. I really don't think that I have a healthy inner dialogue. As I said before, I really don't have a high self-esteem so it's hard for me to talk positive or think positive about myself. Most of the time I don't think that I deserve it. I know that is not a very good thing but I just have so mucy wrong with me, that I think that I am undeserving of good feedback from myself as well as others. I don't know. I have been working on this my whole life but I have yet to achieve this goal.

Junebug05
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   Posted 2/17/2009 10:22 PM (GMT -7)   
At last I can say yes!  For the majority of my life I was not very nice to myself, but now with the help of therapy I have learned to treat myself kindly.  It's a wonderful change and one I had not really thought much about until this was posted, so thank you Sam!
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