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gilly-love
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   Posted 2/19/2009 4:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Guys,
 
  I just wanted to get your opinion on something that seems to be playing on my mind. "How do you know if it is a gut feeling or just fear about change??"  I am about to move town after 6 months living near my family and healing or finding myself if you like. I have an offer to move out with a friend, a male friend. It would save alot of money on the rent. I'm just not sure if this feeling I have is my gut telling me not to do it, or if it is just my fear of the whole moving and changing situation??  I have made terrible choices in the past and now question my own judgement.  How can you tell if it is your gut or fear??  I dont want to make the wrong decission and put myself and my children in a bad or uncomfortable situation?  I would really appreciate your knowledge or experience on this matter. 
 
 Thanks gill.  xx


 

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megie
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   Posted 2/19/2009 7:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Gilly , just tell you from my own experiance , go with your GUT feelings , you have babies involved . I dont know how old your children are , but you know , go with your gut feelings . We are women , hear us roar !!! hugs , Megie

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   Posted 2/20/2009 7:18 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Gilly

To me my gut feelings are when I see a red flag in the why of what I am doing or  I am seeing..........I am doubting the wisdom of my decision so I would sit down and write a list of the pros and cons.

Fear is feeling like your in danger and you may want to flee a situation that may cause you physical or mental harm.

Usually my red flags are right on............so trust your instincts.

Good Luck and Hugs

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Terps19
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   Posted 2/20/2009 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Usually I get myself all worked up over nothing- get those bad feelings in my stomach, get anxiety, etc and USUALLY I almost always am overreacting.

Do you commonly question things before you do them? When there is a rather big or life changing event do you find yourself stressing out come to find out everything is fine? Me I just worry a lot for some reason- I always think of the "what ifs" which is not a great way to look at things. Sure I can say I am preparing myself for the worse but usually I harp on those "what ifs" and that makes my anxiety increase.

I can see this being a big decision in your life because you have kids involved and your kids are probably the most important thing to you. My bet is your are worried about your kids and how they might take the change. Have you talked to them about the decision at all? Do they like the person you are going to be moving in with? Do you trust the person you might be moving in with to watch your kids if something held you up for a few hours or a day? Will s/he be a good example to your kids?

Have you talked to your parents about this? They might have some good advice as well. They will also look out for the best interest of your kids and you so remember that when they answer.

Good luck.
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   Posted 2/20/2009 12:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, you've gotten great advice and the question you asked is a good one. I have no idea how to tell the difference, but like some of the others have mentioned, go with your gut instinct.
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   Posted 2/20/2009 3:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Tons of great advice Gilly! I'm not going to rehash what everyone else has said, but I still wanted to wish you well my friend :)

Take care and good luck!
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   Posted 2/20/2009 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Gilly,

Hope you are good and working things out.  Remember we are here to support and help you so use us well. smilewinkgrin

Peace
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gilly-love
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   Posted 2/20/2009 5:25 PM (GMT -7)   

 

Thanks for your thoughts. I just wanted to let you know that I have decided to move in with this person...I do think it is just my fear of change and not my gut telling me not to do it.  I guess the way I see it is that I can always move if it dosn't feel right.  Thanks again for everything. gillx 


 

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xox

 

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