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keepingthefaith
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   Posted 3/6/2009 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I have worked very hard to overcome many obstacles in my life from teenage drug abuse, dx with Crohns disease early 20's, being totally dependent on family & boyfriend to going back to school, having a career in health care field, owning my own home by myself, even rescuing my pet at age 37.  Then married to my husband for the past 2 years, going on disability due to CD, MD/GAD & many other health complications.  When I was on my own & completly independent I felt emotional great, even with the physical issues.  I am very open minded, but with high anxiety.  Everything bugs me & my husband who is not "well rounded" and has some health issues but won't do anything about them.  Well, I try to better myself every minute of the day & its starting to make me feel insecure being with him, money mgt, etc.  He doesn't understand the GAD & of course thinks he's just great the way he is.  I have zero children & he has 2 girls 18 & 22nd & maniputive exwife. He doesn't understand how hard fitting into his life. OK my point, don't think he's doing enough to better himself of teach life lessons to the kids, he's a push over.  I feel like I'm parenting him & its getting toxic.  Any suggestions other than flying the coupe?  Its so much easier when people take care or try to take care of themself.  Does this make sense?  Help
Dx with CD 1987, 3 colon resections, 3 rectal abcess sx, anterior cervical neck fusion with plate & screws,6/2008. Major depression/anxiety, kidney stones & sx to remove, now 45 yrs old.  Still trying to figure out this disease & all the little extra complications that come with this rollarcoaster of a life with CD. Meds:Humira 40mg every other wk, Imuran .75 daily, welchol 625 x 3 daily, cymbalta 60 mg daily, fish oil, folic acid,Vit B12,inject monthly, Oscal w/Vit D, Darvocet N 100 4-5 daily, xanex .5 nightly
 
         
 
 


stkitt
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   Posted 3/6/2009 8:18 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello keepingthefaith,

Yes what you have posted makes sense to me.  If your daily life is causing you stress then you must take a look at what can make it better to reduce your sx and help you to be happier and healthier.

Perhaps it is time to ask yourself if you love this man and if you both want the same things?

Are you getting and receiving respect from one another?

Do you feel the two of you sustain a mutually fulfilling relationship ? If not is this something that by working together you can achieve?

Tough questions but they may be able to help you understand your feelings.

I wish you peace and happiness,

Kitt


 


 

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keepingthefaith
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   Posted 3/18/2009 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Skitt, I didn't know you responded to me.  I am going to discuss these ?'s with my therapist & then the hubby.  We had a long talk & I stood my ground on issues that I must stand by to make me feel better.  Thank you very much.  God Bless. 

Dx with CD 1987, 3 colon resections, 3 rectal abcess sx, anterior cervical neck fusion with plate & screws,6/2008. Major depression/anxiety, kidney stones & sx to remove, now 45 yrs old.  Still trying to figure out this disease & all the little extra complications that come with this rollarcoaster of a life with CD. Meds:Humira 40mg every other wk, Imuran .75 daily, welchol 625 x 3 daily, cymbalta 60 mg daily, fish oil, folic acid,Vit B12,inject monthly, Oscal w/Vit D, Darvocet N 100 4-5 daily, xanex .5 nightly
 
         
 
 


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   Posted 3/18/2009 11:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Good luck Keepingthefaith with everything! I hope things keep looking up for you :)
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keepingthefaith
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   Posted 3/19/2009 11:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Green Grove, we are working things out so both of us are happy.  Sometimes we wife's just have to sit on our hands & let the husbands do the work with us taking the chance its for the best of us.  Its funny how they all of a sudden know how to make decisions & take care of things when us wifey's don't do it.  Thats my problem, I'm a caregiving type of person & have a degree in Occupational Therapy which trains us to assist people to be independent.  I now have to apply those principle to the home life.  Like I said "sit on my hands" & wait it out.  Thanks again, have a blessed day.

Dx with CD 1987, 3 colon resections, 3 rectal abcess sx, anterior cervical neck fusion with plate & screws,6/2008. Major depression/anxiety, kidney stones & sx to remove, now 45 yrs old.  Still trying to figure out this disease & all the little extra complications that come with this rollarcoaster of a life with CD. Meds:Humira 40mg every other wk, Imuran .75 daily, welchol 625 x 3 daily, cymbalta 60 mg daily, fish oil, folic acid,Vit B12,inject monthly, Oscal w/Vit D, Darvocet N 100 4-5 daily, xanex .5 nightly
 
         
 
 


stkitt
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   Posted 3/19/2009 11:31 AM (GMT -7)   

Good luck to you and know I am here for you.  Do come and post here with us anytime you need or want to share or just vent.

Peace,

Kitt


 

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keepingthefaith
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Date Joined Aug 2006
Total Posts : 331
   Posted 3/19/2009 12:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you.  I read all the posts everyday, I don't post much cuz my head just spins so much I can't focus too much.  I'm having a good day today.  Thanks again for all of your support. eyes
Dx with CD 1987, 3 colon resections, 3 rectal abcess sx, anterior cervical neck fusion with plate & screws,6/2008. Major depression/anxiety, kidney stones & sx to remove, now 45 yrs old.  Still trying to figure out this disease & all the little extra complications that come with this rollarcoaster of a life with CD. Meds:Humira 40mg every other wk, Imuran .75 daily, welchol 625 x 3 daily, cymbalta 60 mg daily, fish oil, folic acid,Vit B12,inject monthly, Oscal w/Vit D, Darvocet N 100 4-5 daily, xanex .5 nightly
 
         
 
 

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