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Our own mortality comes to the for-front when someone close to us dies. You sound like you held up pretty well. I don't think I could have done much better. As for work you have to make your own choice on that one. But they might understand if you tell them you had a death in the family.
My condolances go out to you and your hubby.
I am so sorry to hear of the death of your Mother-in-law. I would give yourself some slack and deal with your loss, take the time off work. You have suffered a loss of a loved one and you are supporting your husband so take care of the two of you right now.
Life brings tears, smiles and memories. The tears dry, the smile fades, but the memories live on forever.
My deepest sympathy to you and your husband.
I am so sorry about your wonderful horse. It is so hard when one thing happens right on top of another. I will hope for the best for your sweet animal.
As for funerals, remember they are for the living, and it is not always worth it to get into conflict over who will make the sacrifice to come and who will not. I went through this when my Father died. My son's wife pitched a fit as we only had enough money to buy a round trip ticket to bring my son home for his Grandfather's funeral and his wife would not let him..............however he had a mind of his own. He was also in the service and Grandfather's did not count as next of kin unless they raised you in place of your parents. Therefore he could not get funeral leave anyhow.
I received a very nasty letter from my daughter-in-law accusing me of trying to push her out etc. I cried over it but then I just moved on as there was nothing I could do.
Please try to stay in the moment and kick that anxiety to the curb...........now is the time for comforting your husband and letting go of any anger you are feeling.
Bless you and keep posting, just venting here is one way to get out your anger and frustration and we are always here to listen.