Member's Daily Roll Call, Thursday 3/12/2009

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stkitt
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   Posted 3/12/2009 7:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Family,
 
Happy Thursday to all. I have managed to pick up a cold from the munchkins at school so sorry this is late but tomorrow I work so I will get it posted earlier. smhair
 
Today's question:

Are you able to appreciate the "shades of gray" in life (e.g., that people can be both good and bad at the same time, that it is okay to be imperfect)

or

are you a more "black and white" sort of person (e.g., a perfectionist, a victim, etc.) ?


 

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Celey
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   Posted 3/12/2009 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Another question that divides me in halves....... On the one hand, I am very accepting of people and forgiving.... On the other hand, I can be merciless and even joyful when something awful happens to someone awful...

I can console myself by saying that I am imperfect... that I make mistakes.... While at the same time, berating myself... Telling myself I should've known better... or there are NO excuses...

I honestly wouldn't be surprised if the inner workings of my mind looked like some kind of battlefield. //^_^\\'
I think I am being picked on by life, sometimes. But's that okay. Life and I are good buddies... I know life doesn't mean no harm. It just is the way it is. I can accept that.


stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 3/12/2009 8:28 AM (GMT -7)   

Celey,

I am with you on this one, as I can see the gray in many things but also some things are black and white to me.

In my life I need to see more gray and forgive myself instead of having black and white standards for myself.  I always feel I must be perfect or I am  doomed.

Yet I can see the gray in many areas and other people.

I am a work in progress.
Kitt

 


Junebug05
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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 3/12/2009 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm with both of you, depending on the situation, person, etc.  I flip-flop between the two.  I'd like to think I'm more of a gray area thinker than I used to be, but still need to work on it.  Awesome questions Kitt!

babblin5
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Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 70
   Posted 3/12/2009 10:48 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm learning not to be so black and white, that perfection is an illusion, and that while some people are inherently evil, they are in the minority (by far) and mean well most of the time, or simply don't know any better because that's ALL they know.

I'm also working on the "self worth" issue, and learning that my value doesn't depend on how much I do today, what I accomplish, or what other people think of me. We're not a stock, for heavens sake! We're people. We're all worthy of love, respect, caring, and attention... especially from ourselves! In reality, this seems to actually free me up to do more and get more done... weird!

I refuse to see myself as a victim anymore. Yes, I could tell you childhood stories that would curl your hair, but why I am the way I am doesn't matter. It's my responsibility to deal with it, and no one can do it for me. Others can lend support and encouragement, but I'm the only one that can go through the fire.

It is nice to know that I have friends here that will be waiting for me when I get out the other side though! 8D

Ross
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"Come to the edge," he said.

He pushed them, and they flew...


AuroraRavencrow
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Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 119
   Posted 3/12/2009 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm not so sure on this one. Maybe I do think both ways. I really do catch myself being the "victim" in alot of situations, which is horrible. What's even worse is that I allow myself to be the victim. Also though, I can appreciate the good and the bad from everyone. I don't know. That's a really good question though, Kitt. Makes me think a little bit more. I might have to add more on this later.
AuroraRavencrow
 
Dx:  Anxiety/Panic Disorder, Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder, PTSD


stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 3/12/2009 3:37 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks Aurora,

I know I could learn to be a bit more flexible.  redface

Kitt


ocean1
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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 3/12/2009 3:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm pretty darn flexible in most aspects.  There are times when it is totally black or white though.  I know I am far from perfect and accept that but for me it depends on each individual situation I think.  Dealing with my boss is totally a gray area for example.  Dealing with thoughts of losing my job is pretty much black or white.  It'll happen or not.  Does any of this make sense?!

Diane
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stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 3/12/2009 4:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Diane,

Yes it makes perfect sense.  I am glad you took the time to think through the question.  IMHO, the world is black and whie and gray all over ........... LOL

Hope your doing well.

Hugs
Kitt


 

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&  Moderator GERD  Forums

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Green Grove
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   Posted 3/13/2009 10:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I try to stay grey for the most part being open minded, but there is so much black and white too. I don't like absolutes, because I'm only human and can't bring myself to proclaim I am totally certain of anything except for whom I am and the morales I have :)

Deep question sis :)
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