Daily Roll Call, Monday, 3/16/2009

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stkitt
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   Posted 3/16/2009 7:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Family,
 
I have noticed a fair amount of posts about anger and forgiving on the boards lately. So I am going to challenge you today smhair .
 
Question of the Day:
 
What does forgiving and forgetting in a relationship mean for you?

 

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Raniah
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   Posted 3/16/2009 7:38 AM (GMT -7)   
That’s such a great question!

I’ll give it a shot……..It means, first of all, accepting what has happened. Being honest about what each person has done to contribute to the situation. Being honest about what you were and were not responsible for…..owning up to the choices you made, and not beating yourself up for things that were beyond your control. Knowing that you cannot control another person’s thoughts, feelings or actions. Realizing that you are responsible for taking the best care of yourself that you can. Believing that you deserve to be happy, and taking steps to make that happen. Not allowing the past to determine your future. Realizing that sometimes people are not meant to be together, and that loving someone doesn’t mean that they are a healthy influence in your life.

JournalDan
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   Posted 3/16/2009 8:05 AM (GMT -7)   
This thread hits home for me, a lot of my problems, although not all, stem from the fact that I'm not able to forgive myself. Honestly though forgiveness to me be needs to be deserved and in my case I do not believe it is because I feel like I have not changed and the things I have done were too bad. I for one am a forgiving person when it comes to others, because I have flaws and I understand how difficult it can be to act the way you truly want to be, yet in the past sometimes my forgiveness has been misguided and has come back to haunt me. I don't have much faith in people but I still try to hope that they aren't as selfish as they seem. Anyway I hope everyone is able to forgive those who deserve it and live comfortably with themselves.

Thanks.

JournalDan
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   Posted 3/16/2009 8:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Also to Raniah,

You seem to have a good perspective on your problems. I am so sorry you had to live with that abuse. I can't imagine anyone being able to abuse a woman but I know it happens. I have read many of your post here and you seem sensitive and kind, you did not deserve or bring about what happened to you at all! You must know that. You deserve to be loved by someone who appreciate you and you can't get down on yourself for the horrible things someone else did to you. He is the one who perverted and ruined your love, something you gave honestly and freely, I'm so sorry! I know you are seeing professional help so I can't give much better advice I just wanted you to know that I am here for you,

Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/16/2009 2:32 PM (GMT -7)   
I have learnt to forgive and forget '
Not to dwell as it only will fester in you and eat you away slowly day by day

It took alot for me to come to this but I HAVE and I know others can too
Great question Lil sis
Love
Big sis
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Raniah
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   Posted 3/16/2009 2:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks so much, Journal Dan. It made me feel very positive to read your post. (And on days like today, that's saying a lot!) So, thank you!


Lyn, what you said is true. Holding onto that pain really eats away at you from the inside out. I'm glad you made it through.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/16/2009 2:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Hun'
I really am doing good
I have so many many on here in this family that have helped me so much thru all the difficult times in my yrs here

You are an asset to this forum
I see this already

God Bless
Luvs
LYN
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Fibro & Other DD

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                            Keep The Fight Going..Or YOu Will Lose
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
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stkitt
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   Posted 3/16/2009 3:12 PM (GMT -7)   

OK, family, are you all holding a grudge or is this to hard to answer.  I know we have lots of members that have asked how to handle their anger.............her is your chance to speak out.

No one is going to judge you.  turn

Hugs

Kitt


 

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&  Moderator GERD  Forums

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