Anxiety about apologizing to professor

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JournalDan
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   Posted 3/16/2009 11:06 AM (GMT -7)   
At 2:50 today I have to meet with my professor to apologize for missing class 8 times this semester. Many times I did this because it was my first class of the day and I just couldn't get out of bed due to my personal problems (anxiety, depression) and others I was just too busy to make it. I am extremely busy and stressed this semester and I cut corners wherever I could.

I wanted to meet with her and apologize face to face for missing her class so often but I am having terrible anxiety about it and I am afraid I won't be able to handle it and I will skip. I want to tell her that I'm just having a really hard time but when I spoke to her via email and on the phone she was very cold and said she didn't want to hear excuses! I'm not even asking to be excused I just thought it was the right thing to do.

Please I need some advice ASAP!! I only have 45 minutes to gain the courage!

Raniah
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   Posted 3/16/2009 11:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Journal Dan: Don't know if it's too late to send this to you, but IMO the anxiety of NOT talking to her might be worse than the anxiety you experience by facing her about this. I cannot predict how this professor will respond to you, but I would be as honest and straightforward as possible about your situation. Tell her what you said here: that you are not asking to be excused- you just thought it was the right thing to do. I think you should be extremely proud of yourself for summoning the courage to speak with her about it. YOU CAN DO THIS!

JournalDan
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   Posted 3/16/2009 11:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Raniah,

I am about to go now, my heart is beating out of my chest but I know that its the only thing to be done.

You words of encouragement made me smile and feel confident at least for a moment and I will remember your urgings as I try to calmly speak to her.

I'll update after I see her!

Raniah
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   Posted 3/16/2009 11:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Luck!!! :-)

JournalDan
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   Posted 3/16/2009 12:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Raniah,

This is a reply to you but I think it can be helpful for everyone on these forums.

As I mentioned I was very anxious about meeting with my professor, when I arrived she was on the phone and I felt very intrusive I wanted to run out right then! Soon she got off the phone and began to talk to me, all the sudden I remembered what I was there for and was able to just put my heart out there for her to see, it looked like she really understood and even suggest that with my anxiety I should focus on exercise and go to the park! I was suprised at how well she understood and how nice she was, all of my anxiety was completely unfounded! This is frequently the case as I have found but I thought it would be nice to relay that once again to all of you! Remember worrying is a fruitless endeavor, now I don't claim that I will be able to follow my own advice at the next crossroads but while I am feeling empowered I wanted to share it with you all!

Raniah: Thank you for your help! Maybe it wasn't a coincidence that we arrived on these boards together. Your comments helped me so much today.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/16/2009 12:40 PM (GMT -7)   
KUDOS to you
I also had to face my doc just not long ago and apologise for something very stupid ( not illegal or anything like that ) and it worried me sick for a few days prior but I called and made an earlier appointment
I was told by a wise woman whom I adore and love
"TO face my Fears"
I did and he was all good with me took what I had to say to heart and I am 110% better for doing so
I am so glad you did this and I have to darn well say I am very proud of you for facing your anxiety and fears down
One Step Closer you are
keep fighting the FIGHT

LYN


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Fibro & Other DD

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Raniah
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   Posted 3/16/2009 12:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Journal Dan: That is so amazing!!! You must feel such relief. I hope you also feel really good about what you did and how you handled it, because you should! That is really, really good news. It must have totally turned your day around. GOOD FOR YOU!!!

JournalDan
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   Posted 3/16/2009 1:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Raniah,

You got it girl! It put a whole different spin on my day. I feel so much better now, I wonder if she has any idea the power she had over me today!

Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/16/2009 1:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Dan
'I dont think some ppl especially teachers professors doctors ect realize the power we let them have over us

'REMEMBER
You have Anxiety an panic
Panic and Anxiety DO NOT have you my friend

LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
              CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            Keep The Fight Going..Or YOu Will Lose
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
                                     LYN

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