I am new to this forum and I need some overall help.
Needles to say I am dealing with excessive amounts of anxiety.
I've figure out it comes first from wanting to do too much and everything is important.
I have a full time job and I am a new mom, which, by itself adds a lot to my to -do list.
In top of that I am recently separated, which was traumatic, and I became a single mom as consequence.
I do not have family near by.
I have a good support system in wise and companioned friends, the church a codependent support group I attend weekly. Plus single moms online support.
I am also doing meditation. I am working to simplify my life, by resolving to do less and lowering my standards a bit here and there.
I am declutering my house, which helps a lot
ok, so, the first cause of anxiety is my long needs of unsatisfied wants and needs.
This gets compounded by impatience, perfectionism and guilt for not having completed the tasks
Another component is that I love to start new things, new ideas, new projects, new website memberships, new workshops, new forums (like this one) but when I get at 60% of more of completion, I start to procrastinate badly, loose interest and motivation and become very anxious about it too.
Needles to say I am anxious about being anxious.
I have a crazy believe that if I have positive thoughts God will come and slap me in the face for my pretensions.
I try to challenge that believe but it is much engrained on me.
Lately this is so bad, that I twist my fingers, have shortness of breath and occasionally pinch myself.
I can redirect my attention but it only lasts a few minutes at most and I have to keep on doing conscious relaxation over and over during the day. It is very draining.
Sleeping is not a problem since I subscribed to a relaxation service where I download targeted relaxation sequences and I listen to them when I go to sleep. They also provided me a 3-min fast relaxation track that I use during the day, especially at work.
How do I stop punishing myself for not doing so much so fast?
How can I become a positive person without the fear of catastrophes happening if I do?
How can I get myself to finish what I started?
Any insight is appreciated