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JournalDan
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   Posted 3/18/2009 8:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I know no one will be around to talk which only makes this worse!

I am in a serious state of panic. I was just working on a bunch of important assignments for school when the network drive that the school provides me just decides to delete them! I lost over 6 hours of work in a matter of seconds! I thought I would be able to save them but it doesn't look good now!! I don't know what to do there is no way I can repeat all the work in time and I just want to cry and go lay in bed now. I'm really worried and extremely upset. I can't believe that these schools can't even keep our hard work safe!!! I don't know what to do please help!

AuroraRavencrow
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   Posted 3/18/2009 8:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I know that I'm not going to be very helpful when it comes to the homework deal but you do need to stay calm. I know you did all that work but it isn't going to do you any good to get yourself all upset and then throw yourself into a major panic attack. You need to explain to the school what happened and I'm sure they will be understanding of what happened. Just try and stay as calm as possible and try to keep your breathing under control. One step at a time. Let us know what goes on. Remember to smile even though I know it's hard.
AuroraRavencrow
 
Dx:  Anxiety/Panic Disorder, Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder, PTSD


Raniah
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   Posted 3/19/2009 5:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Dan,

I'm so sorry - no wonder you were panicked. Anyone would be! Surely you cannot be the only student this has happened to - there must be a way to resolve this. Is there some sort of tech support for this or someone in that type of position you could talk to? Also, let your profs know right away and ask them if they have any suggestions about who to talk to or what to do. I wish I could offer some help.....it was so long ago that I was in university, I actually typed my assignments on a typewriter (yeah, I'm old!). Please keep us posted, okay? I hope so much you can find someone at school that can resolve this for you.

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   Posted 3/19/2009 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   

Dan,

I am so sorry this has happened and I understand your panic.  I agree with talking to your school, and who ever heads up the IT department to see if your work is still in their system somewhere.

Kitt


 

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JournalDan
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   Posted 3/19/2009 8:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey all, this morning I managed to uncover all my lost files. Its a bit late now but at least I know what the problem was. My anxiety level is very high though and this morning I just started to cry in the shower. My job is going poorly as is school, and I have so much work to do but no motivation to do it. Also I am terrified that one of my professors isn't going to let me complete an assignment that was due on Tuesday that I missed and I will fail the class. My girlfriend has been upset by my mood lately and she knows something is wrong. I don't want this to effect us. I think she is disappointing in me and thinks I am lazy and unreliable because of how I've been acting lately. I really need help today everyone.

Raniah
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   Posted 3/19/2009 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Dan, I am so glad you uncovered your files and know what the problem was. I hope it's truly not too late. I know it's hard when it seems like all areas of life are going badly/are a struggle, but please don't give up! Please keep talking to people.....perhaps you can talk to the professor you mentioned - you never know, maybe it will not be as bad as you think with him/her (think of the pleasant surprise of the other day!). Also, does your girlfriend understand how you have been feeling and what you have been going through? What is going on at your job right now? I'll be here on and off today and will do whatever I can to be of support. Hang in there, Dan....we're pulling for you!

JournalDan
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   Posted 3/19/2009 10:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Raniah, you have honestly been so great. I don't know why you have taken me under your wing but I am so greatful.

My girlfriend knows what I have going on but she doesn't really believe in depression or anything like that, she thinks i'm just slacking off. She is being supportive and offering to help but it can still be lonely. As far as my job goes I just really wanted to impress my new employers but I haven't been doing a good job. I feel like I am letting everyone down and ruining my chances for success. I really need to get a job and I know I am talented and have the right skills I am just under too much weight right now to handle everything. With school, work, and job search I just don't have the strength to do it all to the best of my abilities. I think my thing with this professor will probably be OK, I just wish I was able to be the person I want to be and not to be held down by my inability to put in my all to everything I do. I just feel like a lazy child, but I want to be a responsible competent adult. I don't know what to do. I keep thinking i'll just pull myself up from the ground and all the sudden be a motivate and happy individual but I don't feel like I can.

shedontwearsocks
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   Posted 3/19/2009 11:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Dan,

I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time at the moment. I can definitely relate to your gf not understanding the anxiety/depression. My bf is the same way w/me. He thinks it's all in my head and I can just flip a switch and turn everything around (don't we all wish!!) It certainly sounds like you are under ALOT of stress right now, I was wondering if there is any way to eliminate some of the stressors in your life at the moment, such as putting off the job search until you get all your school assignments taken care of, etc. I know the feeling of having so many things to do, and really thriving on the tasks ahead in a sense, but at a point it becomes so overwhelming that we are unable to tackle any of the tasks with diligence or a clear head because everything seems to be in a blur. Obviously, I know you can't put your school and work off, but maybe some additional things that are causing you stress right now could be pushed aside until things calm down. Just a thought.

Take care,
megan

Raniah
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   Posted 3/19/2009 2:34 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Dan,

I’m so glad you feel that I’ve been helpful to you in some way.  The support has been mutual, really.  Like you said the other day, it's good we joined around the same time....and believe it or not, it actually helps me to read your posts, because despite the age difference, etc., I can relate to many of the struggles you are having with feelings of overwhelm, too much on the plate, wanting so much to succeed, wishing significant people in my life understood better, and so on.

Megan made a good point about seeing if maybe you can take on the more immediate things first.  I do find it helpful to break things down into manageable pieces whenever possible, and certainly the old saying about taking one day at a time is very applicable to both of us (hey, probably to all of us!).  I know it's hard not to think of all there is to do - I have the same problem - but I do feel better when I just tackle each day as it comes.  Sometimes, on a particularly tough day, I have to pick apart my to-do list and pare it down to the very essentials - only the things that absolutely matter that day - in order to cope. 

I have a feeling that you are probably doing better at your job than you think!  I say this because I see in your posts what high standards you have for yourself, which is certainly not a bad thing….but sometimes we put way too much pressure on ourselves to be at the top of our game at all times, and we forget that we are human and deserve some compassion and some flexibility in our expectations.  We are often so ready to provide that to others, and yet find it so hard to give it to ourselves.

The statement that you made about being talented and having the right skills gave me such a lift, because obviously you see your own brightness and abilities, and that’s a wonderful thing!  You know, even if it’s deep down, that you are going to make it, my friend.  I know this, too.  You still have hope and a knowledge of your assets, and I hope you will hang onto that, because it will guide you as you move forward.

Nobody….and I mean nobody….is a machine that can consistently “put their all into everything they do”.  Some people may give that impression, but believe me, those folks have struggles, too….they just don’t talk about it with you and me!

Take Megan’s advice about not trying to do it all simultaneously, and see if there is a way, even for a few days, to prioritize things in a way that will spread out the responsibilities a bit.  This process of becoming a “competent adult” as you put it really IS a process.  There are times when we all feel like other people handle things better than us, and that we’re not where we should be, but that is a natural thing at every stage in life.

I think you are incredibly bright, and obviously care very much about yourself and your relationships.  To me, those are great qualities, as well as being characteristics of maturity.  Keep hanging in there, Dan.  I think you’ll do just great.

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