Dealing with some major Anticipatory Anxiety

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FitzyK23
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   Posted 3/23/2009 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Im flying across the country on Friday w/ two layovers to surprise my husband's best friend (with my husband).  I am afraid of flying but do it at least 3 times a year anyway.  Take off is the worst for me and anytime that I am "trapped" ie: the seat belt sign is on.  A lot of that is b/c of my crohns and needing to use the bathroom.
 
I know what to do, I've done it a 1000 times.  Eat safe, take immodium, take my xanax, bring music and a book, blah blah blah.  I've visited my fear of flying forums.  I know flying is safe.  I really don't think we are going to crash and die.  Yet my gut is just totally in knots today and my stomach is a mess.  I am afraid of being afraid.  I am afraid for my 3 take offs on the way there and the 3 on the way home.  I know I will be sitting there praying for the ding when we his 10,000 feet and then the other ding when we can get up!  Even if I don't want to get up I need that seatbelt sign off.  I know in regular turbulence if I have to get up to just get up but I hate doing that b/c I know it is kind of dangerous.
 
Anyway, my xanax is at home and I am at work and I have major gut churning can't get it off my mind fear of fear. 
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night.  I take xanax prn for situational anxiety (aka no easy bathroom access). 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/23/2009 8:38 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry this is at you again
I am not one for flying but I dont kow if I have a fear like you do hun
I do know I would be doing what you do to prepare in advance especailly as I ahve the Crohns and fibro along with it like you and dont like bathrooms that are not mine lol........

I wish I could really give ya some sound really great advice I truly do but all I can say is try keeping your mind off it til you get home( easier said then done I know) and also I would start carrying your meds or a couple at least with you until the time is there...........
That way you have them and know you can take one if needed..........
Just a thought
keep us posted k
Luvs
LYN
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stkitt
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   Posted 3/23/2009 8:45 AM (GMT -7)   

Fitzy

As one who loves to fly and falls asleep before take off, all I can offer you is lots of hugs and support and use your Xanax.  May I suggest you keep some with you at all times during this trip. Also if you are not already, you may want to take a Xanax first thing in the morning to help your days leading up to the trip a little less stressful.

OK, I am a user.............LOL.  I just believe we do what we need to do safely of course.

Hugs
Kitt


 

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FitzyK23
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   Posted 3/23/2009 9:41 AM (GMT -7)   
I totally agree and thanks for getting back to me. I know no one here can "fix" the problem and solve it for me but I was all worked up and figured posting here might help. It did. It was like a journal for a bit. So even if you can't tell me how to build my bridge and get over it just knowing I put it out there helps. And yes, I will have xanax with me from the minute I get home until after this trip now!
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night.  I take xanax prn for situational anxiety (aka no easy bathroom access). 


stkitt
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   Posted 3/23/2009 9:52 AM (GMT -7)   

I am glad you feel comfortable posting what make you feel anxious and just getting it out helps defuse some of the feelings.

Happy Trails.

Kitt


 

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/23/2009 10:04 AM (GMT -7)   
I too am glad you feel comfy with posting about it
It does help doest it
YES
I too am on a benzo and dont leave home w/o it
Luvs
LYN

Keep us posted
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Green Grove
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   Posted 3/23/2009 10:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I wish you the best Fitzy and hope you can get your nerves settled down. I also have my benzos strapped to my "toolbelt" when I'm away from home, and it is a good thing. I also have a fear of flying even though I'm a veteran of the skies. . . Have not done so in awhile and I know I would feel the same way if any arose :) Just know that it is a lot of what if thinking and work with your CBT a some to help you out.

Have a great trip and enjoy all the wonderful sites you will be seeing :)














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Nanners
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   Posted 3/23/2009 11:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Fitzy,

What I do is I start taking my Xanax a few days or so before I leave and for a time as needed after I get there. I agree with Lyn and Stkitt, I always have 1-2 Xanax with me at all times, just in case. Kinda like with the Crohns, I am always prepared for any attack whether it be Crohns, Fibro or anxiety:) I am a regular girl scout:) LOL

My doc said you can take it twice a day for up to 3 weeks before developing dependency. I usually only use it for about 10 days at most.

Good luck,
Gail *Nanners*
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*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

Celey
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   Posted 3/23/2009 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
You're a braver person than I am Fitzy. I can't even go down an escalator without freaking out. //^_^\\'... *I'm serious... I have to use the stairs*

Good luck with your flight... *Hugs*
I think I am being picked on by life, sometimes. But's that okay. Life and I are good buddies... I know life doesn't mean no harm. It just is the way it is. I can accept that.


Nanners
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   Posted 3/23/2009 1:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Celey my 70 year old sister in law will ABSOLUTELY NOT go down an escalator either. She is afraid her shoes or clothes will get stuck in them. Whenever we go to any stores with escalators we always have to take the stairs too. So you are not alone:)
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Anxiety/Panic Forum
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

Mazfire
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   Posted 3/23/2009 1:51 PM (GMT -7)   

Fitzy you have got me through some major anticipatory anxiety in the past- the best advice you gave me was to ask myself how many of my fears actually came true (not many) and to take each personal triumph and remember it and use it for next time. You said yourself that youve flown many times and managed. just remember that- this is something you can do. I too agree that you should keep your Xanax handy and squeeze your hubby's hand. You will get through this, and you may even really enjoy yourself!

fingers crossed for smooth, happy travels,

Maz XX


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Julie1014
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   Posted 3/23/2009 2:41 PM (GMT -7)   
(((Fitzy))), I just wanted to let you know that I am sending big hugs and prayers your way for a successful trip. Anticipatory anxiety STINKS. I wish there was something I could do for you, but all I can do is be here for you, listen to you, and to let you know that I hope you have a wonderful time!!:-) Blessings, Julie
Diagnosed with Crohn's March 2006, Fibromyalgia November 2008
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Xanax .5mg three times a day, 1mg at bedtime (for anxiety attacks)
 
 
 
 
 


FitzyK23
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   Posted 3/23/2009 4:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks guys! I got great news today that took some of the pressure off. Since this a surprise visit there has been very little communication so I know very little about where we are staying, etc. The friend we are surprising's girlfriend is planning it for my husband. Anyway I learned through a mutual friend today that the apartment we are staying in (with 5 people total!!) has 2 1/2 bathrooms!! With crohns that provides me so much relief. I thought we would all be using one. While I'm still nervous about the trip and flying I am less nervous knowing that I will be comfortable staying at the friends and that we will pretty much have our own bedroom/bathroom so I will have a "safe" place. Yay.
 
Oh and Maz - I was on the UC board giving someone advice on anxiety today (with the whole list thing of time fears came true and times they didn't etc...). If only I could take my own advice.  I guess I just know that even if nothing bad happens I probably will be very anxious and I guess that is just what I am dreading.  Feeling better tonight though (or it is hubby's birthday wine lol!)


27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night.  I take xanax prn for situational anxiety (aka no easy bathroom access). 

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