I can relate to all of what you wrote in your post and I know how frustrating it can be and I have spent a long time going round the anxiety cycle and often wonder if im ever going to get better. Are you taking any medication to help? I have not had much joy with meds but find that therapy really does help me out and hopefully I will be starting CBT soon which could be something you could look into?. I would suggest that you go and speak with your doctor and tell them whats going on with you at the moment and im sure they will be able to give you some good advice on how to move forward. We are always here to listen and support so please let us know how you are getting on.
It's really important for myself to be able to stay in the moment. I have found that by avoiding things like dwelling on past or worrying about the future I am usually able to get done what needs to get done when it needs to get done.In the past when I find myself not staying in the moment I experience what you have described. I'll catch myself thinking about past situations that didn't go the way I wanted or things that I feel guilt about. This usually starts a vicious cycle of me feeling bad about myself, avoiding doing something that I'm supposed to out of lack of confidence, and then dreading what the future will now hold because of my lack of action.
If you can learn to stay present in the moment then you can rapidly and gracefully change your life for the better! Our
Practice staying present today. Take deep breaths often. Really feel what you are doing. When you are driving in the car really focus on what you are doing, seeing and hearing. Approach your work with focus and clarity. When you are with a loved one really listen to what they are saying to you.
I wish you peace,
Like many have mentioned, I could have written your post! I am a constant worrier and have very strong obsessive thought cycles (OCD kicking in). One of my biggest struggles is staying in the present moment. It takes great effort for me to do so...here are just couple of things that help me:
Relaxation and Meditation can definitely help - or just a simple repetitive phrase to clear your mind (in meditation they call it a "mantram"). When you find yourself worrying unneccesarily or unable to get a thought out of your head, try repeating whatever calming phrase suits you (it can be one word, like "peace", "calm", etc. or a phrase like "Lord give me strength" - whatever works for you). I have to do this a LOT because I have difficulty pulling the plug on whatever is running obsessively through my brain! Keep repeating it until your mind stops thinking about whatever you were worrying over.
I also try to put things in perspective. When I begin to obsess over something relatively inconsequential like my looks, my house, or what other people think about this, that or the other...I stop and remind myself of all my blessings. I think of women in other cultures or enviroments who don't have enough food to eat or freedoms to enjoy, friends who are struggling with a terminal illness, etc. - not to sound morbid or depressing, but I can more easily appreciate my own situation when I open myself up to the "real" hardships out there.
I always have to remember, "Today!", "Today!", "Today!", even literally saying it to myself sometimes...I tend to live in yesterday or tomorrow :)
Anyway, I am right there with you and it's hard work to stay in the present - but I am much happier when I do!