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michelle.g
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Date Joined Apr 2009
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   Posted 4/15/2009 12:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello.
 
Last year February (2008) I began having panic/anxiety attacks, I went through councilling and thought I had it under control as of November (2008) but, its back not as bad as before but I know its heading that way again, I'm convinced I'm having a heart attack several times a day, collapsed lungs, aneurisims, cancers...you name it I'm convinced I have it although rationally I know I don't but I'm trapped in the "what if" all over again, I know what my trigger is, it this time of year the anniversary if my Mothers death which was in 2000, she died Easter Sunday, the date that year was April 23rd and because of the holidays her funneral wasn't until May 2nd.  The problem is that its such a long period of time with Easter Sunday having a new date every year.  Some years its just 2 week period and its all over but some years it can be 7 weeks.  Right now I feel like my Children will be left with no Mother (they have a very good Father and hes a wonderful Husband) but I'm their Mother nobody can look after them and love them the way I do, you see this all goes back to the death of my Mother I know how awful it is not to have your Mother and I was 31 when mine died how can my Daughters aged just 6 and 4 manage without me.  I use to go to the hospital and Doctor for absolutely every little twinge and I rationalised it to myself that I had a duty to my Daughters to make sure nothing serious was wrong with me, having been through councilling I've so far stopped myself going to the hospital (but have been to my GP) I know they have people who actually have something physically wrong with them to deal with and I'm taking time from those people with my anxiety/panic.
I'm worried that the tightness in my chest and the low grade headache I have are something serious this time so I'm back into the "what if"  They've been there for days, I've imagined my funeral and all sorts in the past few days.  One of my biggest problems is that I find I am constantly battling with myself....One side of me is saying "go to the Doctor" the other saying "no you've been here before you know your trigger it will pass in a couple of weeks" but what if it doesn't? I'm so out of control right now, I'm scarred I'm going back to the wreck I was last year and its going to effect my Children. My Eldest Daughter had Seperation Anxiety Disorder (mildly) we have no family to help we live in the UK, my Husband is American and all  his Family are there and since my Mother died my siblings and myself just don't bother with each other.....
I'm sorry if I've rambled and sorry if parts don't make sense I just needed to get out what I'm feeling right now.
 
I should also mention I do have actual health issues I have FSHD muscular dystrophy, but it doesn't limit me I am in a wheelchair but do everything a walking person does but from a sitting position.  I have regular health checks on my Heart, lungs and neurology and they always come back as normal but the "what if" just won't go away.
 
Thanks to anyone who reads.

Aries8
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   Posted 4/15/2009 12:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey, Michelle! Welcome! My heart goes out to you, Sweetie! Sometimes it helps to know your trigger when it comes to anxiety. We are never cured of anxiety/panic attacks in the traditional way. I've read that the "cure" lies in getting through those uncomfortable moments smoothly and you're practicing techniques on a daily basis to relieve the stress.

Accept that you may have panic attacks from time to time. Remind yourself that they are not harmful. Positive self talk helps and also keeping a journal. You mentioned you were in counseling previously. Maybe you should continue with counseling. There may still be issues you need to resolve. Good luck!
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percycat
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   Posted 4/15/2009 12:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome, michelle!

I'm glad you've found us. This forum is a great source of support and understanding. Post about something and it's almost certain that someone else has experienced practically the same thing.

I'm sorry you're struggling so with grieving your mother's death. That definitely is a trigger for your health anxiety, as you point out. Kudos for trying to remind yourself that you have felt like this before, and that nothing bad did happen. That kind of approach will slowly help you to wean away from the ER visits (unforunately, I'm not a good role model right now) and to kep in perspective when they are necessary.

I agree with Aries that continuing with counselling might be good. If you got on well with your therapist before, it probably can't hurt, can it?

It's good to meet you, even through anxiety, and I hope you'll continue posting to receive support from our great members here.

percycat

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michelle.g
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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 10
   Posted 4/15/2009 12:47 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks for your quick replies it means a lot

I know for sure I will be coming to this forum often after reading some of the posts I know I'm with like minded people and feel like I can talk (type) without worrying what people will think of me.  I hope I can be of support to someone sometime too.

I'm definately going to go back into councilling even if its just for a few sessions because I'm already dreading whats going to happen next Easter time, its not a good way to live and not a way I want my Daughters to see me live, I try to hide my anxiety from my Daughters but, they know I'm hiding something, I'm their role model and right  now I'm not the role model I want for them. 

Does anyone else have the same battle with themselves as I do, sometimes I think I'm going crazy and I know I think way to much and over analyse everythig

Thanks for your Welcome to the forum.


percycat
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Date Joined Jul 2005
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   Posted 4/15/2009 1:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Michelle,

Regarding your battle with grief at times of anniversaries, we have several members who go through that very thing. I'm sure some of them will be along to share their experiences.

Anxiety does so much feel like a battle against ourselves, but it's probably more truthful to say it's a battle against a sneaky opponent that masquerades as ourselves. We're fighting anxiety, that nasty, tricky, manipulative feeling that drags us down or stirs us up or flips us head over heels until we sometimes can't be sure how we really feel. But working together and leaning on each other, we can beat it!

percycat

Percy/Percycat

Co-Moderator, Anxiety and Panic Forum

 

DX: Anxiety, Depression, LPR (acid reflux)

Meds: Paxil, Nexium, Zantac

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