Health Anxiety after having my baby

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vokal612
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   Posted 4/30/2009 1:45 AM (GMT -6)   
My son was born in January 2009 and I think that was triggered my health anxiety to resurface, is that normal? Now every sensation in my body makes me think the worst. My logical side says I am ok, but my health anxiety makes me think the worst. I just want to be there to watch my son grow up into a healthy adult, I need to be there for him. If anybody has had a similar experience it would be great to hear about them to give me some assurance. Thanks in advance for any thoughts...

Treester
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   Posted 4/30/2009 5:32 AM (GMT -6)   

First of all, congratulations on your baby!  That's very exciting.

Second, I'm not sure I can help much, because my anxiety is more general than specifically health-related, but I will say it did ramp up A LOT after I had my children.  My first is 4.5 now, and according to my husband, I haven't been "myself" anxiety-wise since he was born.  It's like I never recovered after having him.  Then I got pregnant with my second, who is now 5 mos, and I totally fell apart. 

Like I said, mine is more general, but it does definitely include some health anxiety.  It's more fluid and all-encompassing though.

Are you prone to anxiety anyway?  You mention that the birth of your son has triggered your health anxiety - have you ever been treated for anxiety before?  I know there's a lot of talk out there about post-partum depression, but for people who are prone to anxiety anyway, PPD can manifest as anxiety rather than traditional depression symptoms.  Does that make sense?  I don't want to be the one who automatically jumps on the PPD train, but it's something to consider.  I've been on meds since the day after my baby was born - it's my first time trying meds, and it's a very low dose, and I really think it helped take the edge off the post-partum tornado of emotions so I'm able to cope with things and just life in general.  I"m also seeing a therapist for the first time, and that is helping,too.  I found someone who doesn't mind that I bring the baby to my appointments (I go when my older child is in preschool), so that has helped facilitate the process, as logistics are a big trigger for my anxiety. 

Good luck!  This is a trying time in your life under the best of circumstances.  Add in anxiety on top of it all, and it can be overwhelming.  But you're not alone, take care.


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   Posted 4/30/2009 7:08 AM (GMT -6)   

A new baby, how wonerful.  Congratulations.  I see you have a great response from Trestar :)

I do not have health anxiety but I do have GAD so I understand the feelings that come with anxiety.  You have my support and I hope you will discuss your Health Anxiety with your physician.

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   Posted 4/30/2009 7:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Could you possibly be suffering from post partum depression? Just a thought.
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AMK77
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   Posted 4/30/2009 10:19 AM (GMT -6)   
I had my 2nd daughter 1/6/09 and I know exactly what you mean. I have had one ailment after another since she was born. I don't know if it's my HA flaring up or PPD. I'm sure that everything is going to be the end of me and I won't be around for my children.
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   Posted 4/30/2009 11:20 AM (GMT -6)   
I had two babies and after each one my anxiety was worse. I know it has to do with the hormones going crazy. Please give a call to your gynecologist. Discuss your concerns and symptoms with him/her. You will feel better after doing this. Take it easy, enjoy this time with your son. Remember these uncomfortable moments will go away. Only allow positive thoughts in your head!
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justme7
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   Posted 4/30/2009 12:40 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi and Congratulations on your new baby!

I would just like to add that having a new baby is very overwhelming and its very natural to worry and more so within just months after.  All your instincts kick in and you realize there is a human being relying on you and that you have someone that you have to take care of and the love for this person is never ending.  So we worry about not being able to be there for them or dieing before you see them grow up and all kinds of horrible thoughts ..which is very normal, not to mention our hormones are way out of wack for awhile.  I remember when my first son was born..I worried about everything..I use to have nightmares where I could hear him crying but couldnt find him..nasty nasty dreams and it was all new to me but I soon found out that this was a very normal thing.  I say just try and relax and enjoy your baby ..take it a day at a time and everything will fall into place...constantly talking with people and getting reassurance is a good thing and will help you focus on the positive.

PS  OK people I am stumped by all these short forms your using cause I dont know what they mean i.e.  PPD, HA, sx etc...  I guess I need to be a veteran of this site to get all these down pat lol

You are all so very helpful and wonderful here.....thank you for that


vokal612
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   Posted 4/30/2009 1:44 PM (GMT -6)   
I am sorry, I forgot to add that I am the father ;)

Do dads get PPD?

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   Posted 4/30/2009 3:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Well big Congratulations Dad!

But yes it is normal to have more concerns after a new baby is around. Like most people they have worries. Even ones they don't truly think about but are still their.

And yes I have heard of men getting PPD. As strange as it is. I've even heard of men getting moody on the same cycle of their wives. You have stresses and concerns just like any loving father.
When I had my son my hubby panicked a lot. He would NOT hold him if he was standing up. Not once did he. Unless my son was in the baby carriage. Hubby worried way to much about dropping him. He said since I was closer to the ground it wouldn't be as bad as if he dropped him. Meaning I'm short and he is so tall the fall would be worse.
Have any idea how hard that was? LOL I couldn't help but laugh. But I had c-sections. So I needed him to bring the baby to me. Did NOT happen. He would push the small baby bed to me. If I handed the baby over to him he would sit where ever he was standing. Did not matter where it was. Mall parking lot, drive way, etc.. lol it was soo funny.

Anyway again its normal for you to have your worries and your concerns. I think once the baby gets older and you can sleep a normal schedule again things might calm down for you. Little sleep and a lot of stress will bring the anxiety back.
Again Congratulations!! smilewinkgrin

Treester
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   Posted 4/30/2009 4:57 PM (GMT -6)   
OMG. I'm so sorry, vokal612. I totally made an assumption and now I feel like a tool. LOL.

Anyway. Aside from the PPD thing, my response doesn't change much. Even if you didn't physically birth the baby from your body, it's a huge life change and it definitely makes sense that it would trigger some anxiety, especially if it's underlying anyway. Allestaria has a good point about sleep deprivation, too. My husband has a very low threshhold for sleep deprivation - certain things (healthwise) become a bigger problem for him when he is not well-rested.

Do you see a physician regularly? If you do, definitely mention your concerns and the fact that you've added a baby to your family. They may not call it PPD, but that doesn't mean it's not real.

Good luck!

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   Posted 4/30/2009 5:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi ther
I believe that yes father's can be on the the side where they get it too

Someimes it is hard to talk to your doc about this but have no SHAME you are human after all and you need to talk about this with a pro
PPL here can give you great advice ( and they have) but I think it is time you talked to someone
Support and caring /understanding is always here

STAY with us and keep us posted

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cashmere
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   Posted 6/25/2009 6:43 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, after looking up the symptoms I have I was directed to your post and had to become a member as I am suffering the same issues. I had a baby 19 months ago and suffer from health anxiety on a daily basis now. Im glad im not the only one. I have suffered from depression many years ago and mild worrying thoughts about health but now this to me is worse. I am so scared of not being around for my little boy. I have tried anxiety medication but had an allergic reaction and went on depressants again but they didnt help. If it makes you feel any better, I know exactly how you feel and I hope we both can overcome this horrible feeling soon. Take care and know your not alone. L

Blessed08
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   Posted 6/25/2009 6:53 AM (GMT -6)   
I totally understand, even by being a woman. I have an 8 month old now. I have suffered from panic attacks and anxiety my whole life but when my daugther was born I totally started having health anxiety. I had so many what if's that it was unbearable and still to this day I am suffering from it. I just had this feeling that I had to be here to take care of her and to watch her grow up into a young lady and the thought of not being here drove me nuts. It's hard, so hard and like you I'm trying to get through it. Seeing a therapist will probably do some good. Usually they have one at the OB. You may want to have your wife call and see about making an appt for the two of you to go talk to him/her. And congrats on that new baby, throught all in all, that baby will make all the difference.
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